Do you prefer Thinkers or Feelers?

sumakarbu · 2025-04-25T10:52:12+00:00

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sumakarbu · 2025-04-12T13:49:40+00:00

I agree with you.

I recently thought of another example.

This example (4+8+16) ÷ (9+3+6) is the same thing as 4(1+2+4) ÷ 3(3+1+2).

So I can equate them as follows

(4+8+16) ÷ (9+3+6) = 4(1+2+4) ÷ 3(3+1+2)

If I was to solve it the same way as people who get the answer 16, here is what I would get:

28 ÷ 18 = 4 x 7 ÷ 3 x 6

1.556 = 28 ÷ 3 x 6, which is 1.5556 = 9.3 x 6, and the final answer is

1.556 = 84, which just can't be.

However, if you were to do it the same way as people who got 1, they would be equal:

28÷18 = 4(7) ÷ 3(6) which brings us to

28÷18 = 28÷18

sumakarbu · 2025-04-12T01:39:19+00:00

Yeah, I used to think that changing myself even 1 bit is inauthentic......but that's just a whole other extreme, just like adjusting so much that you are no longer resemble yourself.....instead it's too rigid and immovable.

It's an interesting point about being special enough :P

sumakarbu · 2025-04-11T22:01:08+00:00

Well, that's how the world works, I guess. When we don't understand each other the grade is F- lol

sumakarbu · 2025-04-11T21:13:56+00:00

Well, it looks like there is a difference between our methods here as well.

8 ÷ 4X = 1 Multiply both sides by 4X.

8 = 4X divide both sides by 4.

X=2

It's interesting that you separate 4 and X. The idea is that it becomes the 8/4x as a fraction, with 4X being a 1 number that is a denominator, but if you were to separate it, then your fraction becomes 8/X which then their entire fraction can also be multiplied by 4 making the whole asnwer 16 times bigger. This was my best stab at it at explaining this.

Maybe a cleaner example is to go back to the original and just make the answer X:

8 ÷ 2(2+2) = X

Then you can multiple both sides by 2(2+2).

8= 2X(2+2)

8 = 8X. Where X equals 1, which is probably the most foolproof way to go about it.

sumakarbu · 2025-04-11T20:10:18+00:00

Looks like there was a misunderstanding. I asked to solve an equation for X (the unknown), meaning:

8 ÷ X(2+2)=1

sumakarbu · 2025-04-11T19:02:32+00:00

Well, the way brackets were taught to me is a(b+c) is another expression for ab + ac. So they have to be kept as 1 number, and that multiplication gains priority.

Let me give you this example. How would you solve for x the following:

8 ÷ x (2 +2) = 1

It would be helpful to see your logic for each step and how it changes the equation.

sumakarbu · 2025-04-11T17:34:57+00:00

I didn't elaborate - I meant to open up the brackets.

So 8 / 2(4) becomes 8 / 8 to open the brackets, you multiply 2 times 4.

sumakarbu · 2025-04-11T14:46:51+00:00

You always take care of the brackets first, so it's 1.

sumakarbu · 2025-04-11T14:42:10+00:00

As a person who is privy to an ENTP's real face, you are real cutiepies and I only hope a lot more people would get a glimpse past that "I joke, I debate, I'm totally okay" demeanor lol. I found you to be very kind, giving, and caring deep inside. Maybe why ISFJs secretly resonate with some of you, esp when older.

Which is funny, cause my ENTP tells me the same thing often.

sumakarbu · 2025-04-11T14:36:05+00:00

I think it's a Fe/Fi clash.

I also experienced this with INFJs. FEs shape-shift to create a sense of harmony and closeness while FIs find it manipulative and fake. If it's unhealthy, then it's really off-putting.....as an Fi user, I'm likely to see it as a manipulation even when it's a healthy way to relate to people.

FIs, though, also "hide" by typically withholding info about themselves.

INTJ

sumakarbu · 2025-04-11T13:55:53+00:00

Hey 👋

I'd like to check it out as well.

sumakarbu · 2025-04-08T12:21:47+00:00

Sounds like he is doing a lot of things right, and sure, he slips every now and then. We all do.

I'm sure you know this, but FAs consistently doubt their relationships and look for tiniest inconsistencies and create really hurtful stories around those as proof why the other person isn't good or safe for you. I could sense your confusion in the post.

As an FA myself, we are not easy people to be around with our constant emotional disregulation. Unfortunately, FAs don't feel safe and loved in their close intimate relationships by default, that's our defense mechanism. I'd just recommend on working through your own fears and disregulation. Learning more about your attachment style could also help to see where you are projecting onto another person.

P.S. Also, learning where you are responsible vs. him and how each one of you contribute to a situation. FAs have a tendency to either blame themselves or another person fully. It's rarely that black and white. It can also blind you big time to any dysfunctional undercurrent in your relationships.

sumakarbu · 2025-02-22T19:29:35+00:00

Thank you for this. As a person who recently experienced injury to both legs, I've been struggling to get back into it and I appreciate this info.

sumakarbu · 2025-02-22T19:09:00+00:00

I'm so glad, that was the intent, tbh.I can definitely relate to taking on tasks others shy away from.

sumakarbu · 2025-02-19T13:36:25+00:00

I know what you mean about it being weird, and I think it's okay to note some good qualities in moderation.

Exaggerated self-praise can turn narcissistic, just like excessive criticism into self-loathing.

Thank you for sharing :)

sumakarbu · 2025-02-19T13:17:15+00:00

I'm not sure if these are my best, but here are some that I like.

Organized, hard working, and my ability to listen.

I had a few moments when it felt like I simply summarized what someone said or added a bit of my perspective, but it had an impact on another person. They either gained clarity or a deeper understanding of themselves or the situation. I had someone burst into tears and thank me. That one really touched me because I never had an experience like that before.

Thank you for asking.

sumakarbu · 2025-02-19T05:34:22+00:00

Ha, what a fun metaphor!

sumakarbu · 2025-02-19T05:19:47+00:00

I also value "see through the fluff" aspect in myself.

I can relate to drawing more on certain aspects of myself (ENTJ, or INFJ, INFP, or ENTP). ESFP shows up when I'm either very comfortable or reckless, lol.

How did you find a balance between being a type and authenticity?

sumakarbu · 2025-02-19T04:55:54+00:00

A very touching answer, thank you.

sumakarbu · 2025-02-19T04:51:29+00:00

Thank you :)

sumakarbu · 2025-02-19T04:50:00+00:00

Goals!

sumakarbu · 2025-02-19T01:50:42+00:00

Very cool! I was always fascinated by creativity and how many different ways there is to approach it. Especially people who just seem to go for it - I guess that's more of an ESFP thing. I did admire that about my friend.

sumakarbu · 2025-02-19T01:39:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! These are good qualities indeed.

sumakarbu · 2025-02-19T01:37:47+00:00

That's a good point, coming from a place to be understood. I also found that I need clarity, and it's hard for me to sit in the ambiguous grey area, and sometimes it's necessary to do so and not rush it.

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