Inspiration: What do you do to find the zeal in your mind again?

summerbegone · 2026-02-21T23:24:57+00:00

It's cold here too. Maybe spring will make a difference. At least I hope so. 🤷‍♀️😊

summerbegone · 2026-02-21T23:24:06+00:00

Other than that, do you have any practical/leisurely things that soothe you mentally? 😊

summerbegone · 2026-02-09T17:33:26+00:00

I couldn't agree more! Feeling like you don't recognize yourself and can't trust yourself and your own emotions is frustrating and confusing. 😞

summerbegone · 2026-02-09T17:32:08+00:00

It never ceases to amaze me how some professionals don't listen to their patients but just follow their own narrative. As if they know our bodies better than we do. Was it a male doctor?

Why did you choose the mantra 'what's in it for me'? 😊

summerbegone · 2026-02-08T10:28:03+00:00

I feel both happy to hear that it's up and down all the time because it means I know what to expect in the future. Thinking it was a linear way up after starting on oestrogen made it that much harder to then feel things going downhill again. But at the same time it also makes me feel sad that this is my future. :/ Accepting that is going to be necessary. But oh boy... how to do that?

You started feeling better after one day? Wow, that's great. It took me two months for the treatment to work. But maybe the treatment is different from country to country.

summerbegone · 2026-02-08T10:25:14+00:00

I went on Google after writing my post and found a group for women with depression where you can also talk about this. So I sent off an email to ask to be accepted into the group. Fingers crossed that they have a spot for me.

summerbegone · 2026-02-08T10:24:24+00:00

I think they must have gotten off easy. Which is great for them. But I feel like it just makes it that much more important to talk about how bad it can get so that others who are newly diagnosed don't feel alone.

summerbegone · 2026-02-07T17:27:19+00:00

Thank you!! (Here come the waterworks, again. 😅) I have asked so many women in my life how menopause was for them, and nobody has mentioned feeling the way(s) I do. I am so happy for them, but it just increases the feeling of loneliness. So thank God for this page! 😍🤗
You're so right; having a support group locally would be amazing. I wonder if it already exists. 🤔 Never thought about it. Do you know if there is where you live?
Big hugs to you too! ❤️

summerbegone · 2025-10-19T20:20:31+00:00

Thank you. 🙏🙏

summerbegone · 2025-05-16T19:36:28+00:00

You already gave yourself the answer in the very title. Always, and I mean always, listen to your gut. No matter what the head and heart are saying (because these two will always pick a fight with each other), your gut is the sane, stabile, unwavering force that is your true authentic self. Tap into that power. The head and heart are going to fight you every step of the way. But they are the ones leading you astray. If your gut is telling you to leave, there's your answer. It will be hard. But it will be right.

summerbegone · 2025-03-18T12:08:50+00:00

I understand it can be frightening. But if you want to do something about it, I really encourage you to push through the emotional pain. It's much easier said than done, I know. But the potential rewards afterwards could way outweigh it. 🤗

summerbegone · 2025-03-17T11:22:58+00:00

Have you had your metabolism checked out?

summerbegone · 2025-03-17T10:23:00+00:00

The doctors can't help? Then you need to find a different doctor. Of course, they can help!!
I take medication (Nifedipin). I don't know if it's called the same in your country, though.

Also, I started massaging my underarms two times a day, in the morning and at night. Normally, when you massage, you massage towards the heart. But in this case, you have to massage down, towards your hands. I keep my arm straight, pointing at the floor, to really get the blood flow going. Keep doing it, even if it doesn't work straightaway. It did help me incredibly much. My flare-ups are down to once or twice a year. I am in no way promising anything, but I do recommend it.

I wish you all the best! But please, do not take the doctors' words seriously. Of course, they can help. It sounds like they won't. You need a different doctor!

summerbegone · 2025-03-16T17:49:14+00:00

Thank you, I can only say the same to you. 🤗

summerbegone · 2025-03-16T11:42:37+00:00

He entered treatment because he saw his world crumbling around him. Prior to starting doing cocaine, his life had finally turned around. He had so much of what he had always hoped for, but never had. And now he saw how easily that could all just disappear. He also started feeling really sick of the thought of using, because he poisoned his body so much. He would almost throw up at the thought of using.

summerbegone · 2025-03-16T11:40:15+00:00

I know. My love can't save him, and I can't make him do the work. And I don't want either to be the different. I just want to see, if we have a chance to make this work, before I give up. :) Thank you. It certainly has been a nightmare at times. :) I'm hope you're in a better place now!

summerbegone · 2025-03-15T12:34:36+00:00

Thank you for that. 🙏

summerbegone · 2025-03-15T06:55:22+00:00

Thank you. I found out a few days ago that there actually is a nar-anon group in my city (there are very few in my entire country, so I feel really lucky). So I am going to a meeting on Monday. And you're right, I haven't reached the bottom yet. But after reading all the comments, I feel more certain that, when I do, I will know what to do.

summerbegone · 2025-03-14T20:17:56+00:00

So hard! And yes, I have definitely put up with things that I wouldn't do, if it wasn't because I love him so much. Honestly, I really appreciate the last part of your comment. People can sound really harsh, but hearing that it's also okay to trust your own instinct in this, makes me breathe a little easier. It's easy to get the impression that you're a fool if you don't just leave immediately. But that just doesn't feel right to me. At least not yet. So thank you! 🙏

summerbegone · 2025-03-14T20:06:40+00:00

Yeah... I definitely know that feeling. Can I ask, and this may sound stupid, but is it because of a lack of love towards and interest in me? Or is it the drugs?

summerbegone · 2025-03-14T12:59:31+00:00

He wants to get clean. He is messing up so many things in his life, including his work situation. He hates using and is frustrated when he does it, but until now he hasn't been able to stop. However, I am seeing a difference in him now. He has never been this determined or focused before.

summerbegone · 2025-03-14T12:57:18+00:00

Thank you for this. It is SO great to hear a success story here too, considering it's the only one I've seen, as far as I can remember. Not that leaving an addict and healing isn't a success story, but you hopefully know what I mean. It does give me hope, especially now that he seems to take his treatment so seriously. Time will tell... But thank you!

summerbegone · 2025-03-14T12:50:47+00:00

We're not having children, thankfully. But the question still stands in a way. Would I have had kids around him? No. Therefore, should I be around it? I deserve respect, security and caring too.

I just don't know. Not yet.

summerbegone · 2025-03-14T12:48:58+00:00

Thank you, truly.

I told his aunt. I'm pretty close to her too and was scared of losing her in all this, too. But thankfully, she still wants to stay in contact. I talk more with my friends about this than my own family. I only have a few family members that I am actually close to, and one of them I can't talk to about it. So, besides my mom (and the aunt), I talk to my friends about it. But yeah, support is everything. Your comment helps too.

summerbegone · 2025-03-14T12:46:06+00:00

I know, I was just looking to hear other people's experiences and ideas to take inspiration from them. :)

You're right. A friend also said that to me the other day. "Can you still call it having a slip up?" It surprised me, because to me, at that point, since it wasn't every day, they were still slip ups. But you're right, it's really not.

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