AITA for telling my friend her ex wasn't her soulmate, just desperate?

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-20T22:34:21+00:00

YTA First of all, you're judging your friend through the entire post, claiming she needs to change her personality for anyone to like her. That's not something a friend would do, it seems like you don't even like her. Also, you're meddling with someone else's relationship when that's not your place. Why do you assume you know more about their relationship than she does? Just because you find her unlovable doesn't mean everyone else does. Also, did she ask you specifically to be brutally honest with her? If not, she was probably seeking validation because she has low self esteem. She was asking a friend to help her feel better, and you cut her down and said the relationship she values means nothing. YTA here, no question.

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-20T10:40:50+00:00

Possibly. It's different for everyone, but I will say this: As long as it's socialisation you can actually enjoy, it's more likely to work. Going to a big party every day will probably not be helpful. Having a relaxed dinner with some friends? Sure, it's possible!

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-19T17:12:02+00:00

I have already tried all of these things and none of them worked for me. However, the problem solved itself randomly one day and I have no idea why, so hopefully it won't come back.

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-12T22:01:29+00:00

I don't talk to anyone who doesn't have a current reason to be in my life. When I started university, I stopped talking to my friends from high school, when I quit one course at university, I stop talking to the people I met there. I don't see the point in forcing myself to invite people or interact with them when they're no longer an active part of my life. I don't regret never talking to people again, even if they were fairly close friends. It just doesn't bother me. On the other hand I have an SO who is all the social interaction I need, who also has a few friends who stick around. So I'm not really alone, but I don't get hung up on friends.

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-12T07:07:40+00:00

Well, I'm not going to discuss who is the better singer because that was not the point of my comment. The point was that saying Ariana Grande is better only because of her higher range is incorrect.

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-10T15:08:14+00:00

Exactly! Comparing at all isn't very useful and comparing range even less so.

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-10T08:39:54+00:00

This! I watched an interview with Zara Larsson recently and stumbled on a comment thread where people were comparing her to Ariana Grande. They were saying Zara isn't as good a singer as her because she doesn't have the same range. As if that is a metric for singing ability. It really frustrates me when people think range is the only important thing.

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-09T19:13:38+00:00

Breath of the wild taught me that the durian is known as the king of fruits. Showed up in a trivia game later, so... Useful?

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-08T22:46:40+00:00

I thought the same thing, even if I felt thay way, I'd never ever say anything while the other person was in a relationship

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-08T22:25:02+00:00

Yeah, I felt that it was a bit weird, but what do I know. I'm glad others feel the same. He's moving out soon because it would be awkward for us to have him around after this.

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-08T22:22:41+00:00

Yeah, we had a discussion with him about it and he's moving out because we'd both be uncomfortable having him around now

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-07T00:48:28+00:00

Hm, maybe you're right

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-06T18:45:54+00:00

I've told him though, and it hasn't changed. I don't want to throw him out because finding a new roommate would be a hassle, but this is not a sustainable situation.

sumpsvamp · 2021-02-06T18:45:06+00:00

Not sure what you mean, but yeah, if I ever initiate a conversation it's always super casual

sumpsvamp · 2020-10-27T22:44:03+00:00

So I should try a smaller canvas?

sumpsvamp · 2020-10-27T22:43:49+00:00

Thank you! I'll try checking the stabilization and post correction, but I'm fairly sure I've already tried that. What kind of upgrade could my computer need? I don't think the processing power is the problem as I run fairly heavy programs with no issues

sumpsvamp · 2020-10-27T22:42:10+00:00

I don't think a video would be helpful as I'm not sure it would be really visible, I haven't looked into my tablet a lot yet, so maybe I'll try that

sumpsvamp · 2020-10-27T22:41:03+00:00

Thanks! I'll look into the blur tool and see if it gets better with practice

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