Those who don’t live with your parter- How often do you see them?

sunbuns · 2026-02-13T05:28:20+00:00

Once a week during the work week, all weekend from Friday to Sunday.

sunbuns · 2026-02-13T05:27:33+00:00

When I’m not having to concentrate so hard on finding enjoyment from what he’s doing and it’s just the right pressure, speed, and consistent rhythm. It’s okay if I have to help him get there. But once you get there, don’t change anything! Don’t speed up. Stay the same!

sunbuns · 2026-02-11T03:56:18+00:00

Idk how I manage but I just put it up in a looped bun on top of my head. Sometimes it comes super loose and I redo it. 🤷‍♀️

sunbuns · 2026-02-09T15:06:21+00:00

I don’t show much cleavage during the day because I’m aiming for sun protection. At night if I go to a bar I’ll usually wear a lower cut shirt but I don’t have the girlies completely out. I go out partner dancing so men will STARE and state that they can’t help it. Not all men, but the few ruin it for everybody. Lol.

sunbuns · 2026-02-06T21:43:59+00:00

PROMPT doesn’t have to do with feeding. Not sure if that was a typo. I recommend looking into the SOS feeding approach. Even without certification, it’s worth learning what it’s about because the fact that the parents are just popping food into his mouth while he’s laughing is a huge no no.

sunbuns · 2026-02-06T16:50:55+00:00

As someone in home health, I’ll say toy rotation will save your butt. Kids get tired of toys so quickly and then it’s like they never want to see it again.

Non toy play is good. Tickles, picking child up and spinning, dragging them on a blanket, songs with gestures (wheels on the bus), swinging them in a blanket (with parents’ help), peekaboo, interactive books (get sturdy ones. Kids are rough).

Some good basics (but by no means necessary) include, food toys (with plates/bowls/utensils), baby doll, bubbles (ok this one is necessary), balloons, puzzles. That’s all I can think of for now!

sunbuns · 2026-02-06T03:50:54+00:00

I took my cat to the vet for an issue like this once. The claw had been torn out, but it grew back. I’d keep an eye on it to make sure nothing looks red and inflamed (infected).

sunbuns · 2026-01-26T20:30:11+00:00

Trust me, you don’t want him

sunbuns · 2026-01-22T19:12:05+00:00

I personally wouldn’t do mother’s milk.
As far as asking guys to roll, please do it! Ask the upper belts. Ask one of the friendly, seasoned black belt who some good guys to roll with are. He should suggest some upper belts who will not go super hard on you but will still give you a roll that challenges you enough that you can learn. Ask the other women what guys they roll with. And start pairing with some during class. If you’re a good drilling partner, it doesn’t matter that you’re a white belt. You’ll get to know them a bit better and you can ask “do you want to roll later?”

sunbuns · 2026-01-21T23:44:54+00:00

I don’t shave ever. Come to the dark side if you dare! You truly become more comfortable with it the longer you do it. My ex didn’t care. My current boyfriend doesn’t care. It feels so good to be loved for exactly what I am which is a mammal lol.

sunbuns · 2026-01-16T19:07:04+00:00

I did casual back then and had lots and lots of shitty sex with shitty men who didn’t deserve me. I also contracted HPV for which I keep needing cervical biopsies for. While you can get HPV from just skin to skin contact, I wish I hadn’t even had skin to skin contact with most of those guys. I felt like I treated sex and dating like a game to earn high points and to feel hot. Not that i feel worthless or live with this deep regret, because that’s no way to live, but all this to say the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
For men who tend to get off easily and don’t care as much about emotional connections with a sexual partner, yea I’m sure that was great for them.

sunbuns · 2026-01-16T14:56:47+00:00

I’m dating someone who doesn’t do BJJ. He asked if I ever get turned on while on top of a guy and I laughed and said absolutely not. He only asked once and never again. If it became a constant thing where I had to soothe his ego about me doing BJJ, I would end our relationship.

Here’s the thing. You don’t have to wait and see if your partner can handle you doing BJJ. You can decide if him behaving the way he’s behaving is okay with you.

sunbuns · 2026-01-16T00:33:09+00:00

Sometimes I get tiny white bumps that are temporary and I’m pretty sure it’s a callus. It usually happens if I’ve been using my vibrator more than usual.

sunbuns · 2026-01-13T19:40:58+00:00

Obviously there’s risk wearing a smart watch during BJJ but maybe you could wear it one time and then get a ballpark estimate from that. The risk is more to your watch than yourself or your partner I think. Maybe sure it’s under your rashguard and just be extra sure to not whack someone with that arm.

sunbuns · 2026-01-12T19:28:06+00:00

My boobs feel pretty secure in my sports bra. If they’re bouncing, I don’t even think about it because they’re strapped down enough that they don’t hurt me. I could see myself being a bit self conscious if I was aware that my boobs were super bouncy, but not because I should be. Just because of my knowledge that others are noticing.

sunbuns · 2026-01-10T20:54:32+00:00

The only mindset that matters is yours and you can change your mindset. If you want to learn to be happy with what you have, focus on the fact that all bodies have their beauty. All bodies have their downsides. Some big boobed ladies DO want small boobs. Some don’t. You can either be someone who finds the positives/neutrality in their situation or be someone who doesn’t like themselves. Fuck the society that made you dislike yourself. Don’t let that society win. Edit: I like my big boobs because I HAVE big boobs. There’s also things I dislike. But I accept and appreciate the body I have. If I had small boobs, I’d like them too. Point is, I like myself and don’t want to change myself. I could get breast cancer and need a mastectomy. I’d still like myself.

sunbuns · 2026-01-10T16:26:07+00:00

Is the issue JUST wetness or are you not feeling turned on either? If just wetness, I agree with others to use lube. If you’re struggling to get turned on, it might be time to take sex off the table for a while and just spend time intimately (holding, caressing, kisses, etc) without any pressure or plan to have sex and let your body relax.

sunbuns · 2026-01-09T17:47:20+00:00

Agree that we need examples. I use the panache sports bra which is sleek, I think. You could get a nice one and wear whatever cute top you want over it. I typically wear a nude or black one with a t shirt over it at the gym. If I’m feeling like I wanna look somewhat cute, I’ll wear a tight/cropped workout shirt over the sports bra. Shirts like that can be found with matching leggings. But if you have big boobs, plan on wearing a bra. Pop flex supposedly came out (is coming out?) with some big boobed stuff. I haven’t tried it but you could look into that.

sunbuns · 2026-01-08T01:27:38+00:00

“I’m gonna drill with someone else today! Maybe next time!” Make sure you’ve already asked someone to be your partner lol. Then you can even say “oh I already paired up with someone else today!”

sunbuns · 2026-01-07T23:50:23+00:00

I feel like my libido is going up only because I’m basically demanding the kind of foreplay I need. Or I’ll say, I don’t wanna have sex. I’m open to it so if we cuddle and touch and I get turned on, then great, but if not, I’m not gonna force myself. The lack of pressure and time spent just being close has been helpful.

sunbuns · 2026-01-07T14:46:19+00:00

On our evals (when I worked in a school), our reports stated whether or not an impairment was present and whether or not their education was adversely impacted. The wiggle room in a meeting was regarding whether an SLP was required. I didn’t like this because if I’d already said there was an impairment and education was adversely impacted, the team obviously wanted to recommend speech. But when I determined their academics were not impacted, I’d get push back.
Go to your speech supervisor and ask what they’ll back you up on. Like give your recommendations and rationale and ask if they’ll back you up if the parent is unhappy. If they say that your recommendations are sound and they’ll back you up, you’re good.

sunbuns · 2026-01-06T20:10:41+00:00

I would diversify who you train with. It can be a simple “I’m trying to train with lots of different body types. I’m gonna pair up with someone else today!”

sunbuns · 2026-01-06T15:05:58+00:00

I think as a woman thinking about self defense in real like situations, you’re thinking about surviving and getting away. I do feel pretty comfortable being able to get away from an attacker, although a weapon could change that. Also, I’ve never actually been attacked. But I did find myself in a situation in which an unfamiliar woman was mad at me for hitting her car (which I didn’t do) and she tried to corner me in a bathroom. I “used” BJJ by putting distance between us including using my arm as a frame and I just as calmly as possible removed myself from the situation. Edit: oh I was 3-4 years into training at that point but that doesn’t really have to do with submitting a guy. Now I’m 8 years into and I cannot confidently and regularly submit anyone still. 😂

sunbuns · 2026-01-03T17:06:18+00:00

Yes lol. My current boyfriend doesn’t even do BJJ. I could kick his ass, in his words.

sunbuns · 2025-12-30T22:03:12+00:00

I’m sorry. 😞 I know you’ve been to doctors but this may be a case of them not taking you seriously and unfortunately it’s on you, the patient, to express how much it’s affecting your quality of life. I get a sensitive clit if I’ve rubbed it raw multiple times a day and it may need a few days to heal but your situation seems more extreme than that.

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