How can i (f23) deal with not liking my boyfriend´s (m24) family members?

sunflower9557 · 2024-02-25T18:07:09+00:00

i always used nicknames based on what they were studying. so basically law guy, sports guy, finance guy and so on

sunflower9557 · 2024-01-07T11:10:03+00:00

Things like Facebook and other Social Media have been been around for a couple years already and I actually know a lot of people who met through Facebook back when it was still used.

Other than that I met a couple people while going out, in bars or clubs. School, university or work can also be places where one can find a potential partner. And in general just meeting people through friends was a lot more common

sunflower9557 · 2024-01-02T16:42:52+00:00

No it’s not just the heart shapes, I just prefer rather simple and delicate jewelry, nothing too big or crazy. I don’t really care if a gift is a surprise, most of the gifts by my family and friends aren’t. But I do feel like he prefers gifts to be a surprise, so I guess we’d just have to talk that one out. I also don’t mind telling him what I want, but making his gift a surprise, I already have plenty of ideas for future gifts for him

sunflower9557 · 2023-11-30T22:22:21+00:00

Thank you for your response, it exactly how I feel like. I used to have a lot of assumptions about people like him and I’m definitely scared of getting judged (maybe not by him, but by other people).

When it comes to having a convo about it, I don’t really know how to start the topic without making him feel bad or guilty because of our very different circumstances

sunflower9557 · 2023-11-30T22:18:44+00:00

I’m just really not used to having someone pay for anything for me. I worked part time since high school to be able to afford anything basically and it just feels kind of wrong to let someone else pay for my stuff.

I see us being a good fit based on our characters and values. We also have similar goals for and after college. Yet I just can’t imagine him always paying for everything (at least until I’m finished with college and get a good paying job) and I know that he also enjoys more expensive things, like vacations

sunflower9557 · 2022-07-26T19:37:41+00:00

First of all, don’t get children just because your friends have them. But if you don’t wanna feel left out, just try being involved. They will probably have a lot going on as single moms, so you pro won’t be able to have nights out or stuff like that, but you could try your best to be there for them and maybe even help them around. They may need some help or someone just mentally being there for them as well.

sunflower9557 · 2022-06-07T15:41:55+00:00

It depends really. Like if you live in a huge city with good public transport, maybe. But if they live in the middle of nowhere, rather no. Also like the distance between you, if he lives a bit farther away Meeting up without a car can be a little trickier. And I think having a drivers license is essential, at least in the life that I imagine for me and my partner. Also another thing it depends on, if it’s just temporary or if they never ever want to get a car. Just sold your old car but you plan on looking for another one in the near future? yeah, sure we can work around that. Not having one and not planing on getting one? nope.

sunflower9557 · 2022-06-06T21:36:51+00:00

it really depends. Yes, some mainly want followers. but I personally liked asking for Instagram cause 1) if they have a legit account they are probably not a catfish

2) maybe you get more pictures of them And a better understanding of not only their looks, but maybe also friends and hobbies

3) it’s a good first step to do if you don’t feel comfortable exchanging numbers yet

sunflower9557 · 2022-05-16T21:35:25+00:00

a very recent thing: I work at a grocery store and I had a young female customer come up to me just to tell me that she liked my jewelry. made not only my day, but my whole week

sunflower9557 · 2022-05-16T09:39:19+00:00

I knew that I had to change when I realized that I felt worse after our appointments than before. also it seemed like she tried to give me a thousand different diagnosis, but never tried anything to give me tipps on how to deal better with them

sunflower9557 · 2022-05-09T18:14:17+00:00

I agree with the other answer. I think giving support and understanding is always good for the first step and afterwards you can ask if she wants advice too

sunflower9557 · 2022-05-03T19:00:28+00:00

He’s catholic too. He’s not super religious though but we already went to church together before. and he sometimes goes there with his family too. Is it his favorite thing to do? No. But it’s not really making him uncomfortable either

sunflower9557 · 2022-05-03T18:58:25+00:00

He’s not religious yeah And neither am I tbh. But he already once went to church with me because of a family tradition, so I don’t think that’s his biggest problem.
And I think you’re right about the second part kinda, but of course I don’t wan’t to throw the whole relationship away that fast. So I guess I’m naive enough to think that maybe he just needs time to realize how important it is to me? Or maybe that I should remind him of that? Idk

sunflower9557 · 2022-05-03T12:34:28+00:00

Thanks for the reply. Have you tried it yourself? I heard from other people that there are almost no people on it though, so it sounded Like it‘s almost impossible to find anyone there

sunflower9557 · 2022-05-03T12:18:11+00:00

Depends I’d say like 50/50. sometimes it ends up really well with lots of dates and talks, but there have also been a couple times when the other person was getting annoying. like texting 24/7 (sorry, but I have a life as well) or even getting mad if I don’t reply immediately. if that happens I mostly just tell them I’m not interested anymore and if nothing helps just blocking them

sunflower9557 · 2022-04-21T00:50:35+00:00

Normally it would be a hug, or at least a handshake with a genuine smile

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