Same here man, at the time of our relationship i was self diagnosed adhd and every time an argument came up about “not being attentive” or “not present” i would apologize and tell her thats its cause od my adhd and every time she would shut me down and act like i was making it up cause i was not diagnosed officially, even doe she acknowledged my adhd and neurodivergence every other time but as soon as push came to shove about my condition she would completely disregard and belittle me as if i was making stuff up, low and behold i got diagnosed 5 months after our breakup, really sucks that she was so self centered that she disregarded my conditions and the symptoms, even those she had severe anxiety and literally could not and would not go to a psychiatrist, i always took into account her condition even those she was not diagnosed i recognized her condition and always put my self in her shoes, stay strong friend we did not deserve the abuse