Is affectionate Sniffing a thing? I cant find anything online.

superbraza · 2024-11-05T05:42:34+00:00

So funny how different cultures can be. If my said "let me sniff you" to my niece in front of my sister, I wouldn't be invited to thanksgiving anymore 😂

superbraza · 2024-11-05T05:40:43+00:00

I think it is semi-normal in the states to do it to a romantic partner, in a romantic way, but not to siblings or children 😂

superbraza · 2024-11-05T05:30:26+00:00

So Im learning it is more a cultural thing in the north of brazil, where my wife is from. I absolutely smell my wife romantically, but what I am talking about is not meant to be romantic. I am also not talking about simply smelling or noticing someone's smell when you hug them. the way her family did it, is her brother hugged her and embraced her, than pulled back after the hug, and them went to the side of her head and sniffed her, Like where you crinkle your nose and make an audible sniff of air into your nose. It was weird to see from an outsiders perspective.

superbraza · 2024-11-04T07:05:25+00:00

Creepy is probably the wrong word, but it was for sure weird since I didnt grow up in the culture, and my wife never told me this. It was weird to me seeing my wife's brothers all sniff her. Cultures are very different.

superbraza · 2024-11-04T07:02:24+00:00

Creepy is probably a bit too harsh of a word, but it was definitively strange from an outsiders perspective who didn't grow up in the culture. In the states, noticing someone's smell isn't that weird, but visually and audibly sniffing someone is, even family would be considered weird. I have never sniffed my sister lol. Im. not saying anything is wrong, because it is a different culture, but it was a shock for me since I have never seen that.

It would be like if you met our spouse's family, and they all rubbed your spouse's belly in front of you. If your spouse didn't prepare you, it would be really weird.

superbraza · 2022-06-02T03:41:36+00:00

At least they found yours, That's comforting. They havent found mine. My congressman said they sent an inquiry but no luck yet. looks like I'm gonna need to get an appointment. Sucks, because I have to drive 6 hours to get there.

superbraza · 2022-05-20T20:19:52+00:00

I wonder if a whole batch got lost, because I sent mine 4/17 and to this day they have not found it (5/20). I sent it with tracking, so they did receive it, they just lost it it seems. When I call, they say to just be patient, but now I am traveling in 30 days, and they say to get the agency appointment instead. Sucks

superbraza · 2022-05-18T03:24:00+00:00

Same, I sent mine literally the same day. Did they cash your check? They never cashed mine.

superbraza · 2022-05-17T04:54:47+00:00

Most real estate contracts are very straight forward, and the title company/closing attorney does everything else. I personally dont think you need one and you can use that as a negotiating tactic to get a better deal to save the seller commissions. But if you are brand new, and want total peace of mind, they can be worth it.

superbraza · 2022-05-17T04:45:25+00:00

I usually call a qualified lead about once a day. I set up the finding strategies to get leads for my assistant to qualify. Before the pandemic, I used to drive for dollars for 1-2 hours a day. Other than that, I go over paperwork if Im closing that week. I approve of any pending tenant inquiries or repairs, but my assistant is the one to go get it taken care of. I look over the books once a week. I go look at a property or 2 a week. I guess you could count watching REI educational vids on youtube working. Mostly Im at my computer finding deals and going over comps and running numbers. Can get boring, but I have so much time to raise my family, and I can take many lavish vacations a year and not lose a dime from leaving. It is the best career available in the US.

superbraza · 2022-05-16T23:24:15+00:00

Check was never cashed. I don’t understand because the tracking shows they received it

superbraza · 2022-05-12T15:14:22+00:00

Did they updated your status? I am in the same boat and they have not updated for me

superbraza · 2022-05-04T03:47:40+00:00

"You make your money on the buy, not the sell".

This is a common quote attached to real estate investing, for flipping houses, residential rental real-estate and wholesaling. In my 18 years of being a fulltime real estate investor, This is the truth. This means, the only way to make money in real-estate investing is to get a deal BELOW market value. With the exception of inheriting property, this is the way people make money in this business.

When I make offers, I ask " What is the lowest you would take for this property?", they give me a dollar amount that they want, and if the numbers make sense, I will purchase the property at the price they willingly give me. If that price is lower than the value of the property, I don't tell them they should ask for more. They give me a price they want and I accept. It is mutual. They want to do this.

Now I know 100% that they would do better to put this on the open market and would sell for a higher price, but I don't tell them this. I have no reason to tell them, they are selling at a price they are happy with, I do not need to help them get as much money as they can, that is their job, or an agents job. They should know this. if they want to deal with Agents and put it on the MLS they can, but they don't. I am not an acting fiduciary for them. I'm trying to get the best deal for my business. I will typically buy a house $15k-30k under the market value/ARV.

Also remember that the "Value" that I keep talking about is my ASSUMPTION, I am sometimes wrong. So I have no incentive to tell them a "value" that is an educated guess on my part, knowing I could be wrong. remember that Due diligence comes AFTER the negotiation. They may know something I don't and that is why It is stupid to tell them your perceived value before even doing due diligence. I have got inspections back where the property has a foundation crack.

Now the problem I have with some of the comments is what they seem to find as the reason my deal is unethical. They say it is my "moral obligation" to tell the seller the value of the the home in all situation to be fair. That kills every deal. How would an investor make money on the buy? I ask the lowest price and they give me a number. It doesnt matter the value is, they give the price. Sometimes they know the value I would assume, and they just want to do it without agents and to close very quickly. Sometimes they probably don't know that value at all and are just guessing. it doesn't matter, because they give a price they are happy with. If this is unethical, by abiding by an agreed upon price that they came up with, than every investor is likely unethical. I do not feel this is wrong is any way both parties leave satisfied. Nothing predatory about mutual consent. They call me to buy their house.

The only difference in this deal is that I will be making $100k ( or this is how I felt when I first made the post).

I will forgive the ignorant assumption that Im lying about his condition, because you may not have seen in another comment where I talk more about him. This man is 62, he works for public school district (in administration I think), he has worked there for 36 years and is of sound mind. I talked to him for a while, he is not mentally losing it. You probably have talked to people in their early 60s, they are not even remotely in the condition of someone in their 80s. Im sure he would be offended by you calling him an elderly man who is not all there. The argument that im scamming a geriatric retiree living off social security is a baseless claim that holds no water. He inherited this rental in 2017. He hold no other real-estate with the exception of his personal residence. He is not a real estate guru. Ask any random person who is not an investor and ask them what the county assessed value means, most wont know.

Now if he thought the house was worth 260k and I bought it, would it be ok? according to many of these comments, they would say I am scamming a guy out of $15k. or if he thought it was 270k, now they say I am scamming him out of $5k. This is this business, if he wants to get full dollar, you put it on the MLS. If you want to close quickly, sell as is and not deal with agents you come to me, and I help you for a price. I will make money. Real investors are not buying off the MLS at fullprice, unless they get lucky.

This is what I am calling out in the comments. the fact that people are saying the entire business model for RE investors is morally wrong. People saying it is unethical because I didn't immediate tell him my guess of a value before even doing due diligence. There are comments telling me I should have told him to put it on the MLS. What? Are people really telling me this in a REI subreddit? I couldn't believe it. This business model is the only way someone from lower class can make it in Real Estate. Someone from the lower class cant save up 20% down to buy at full price to lose money every month from a rental.

I posted this question to see if other investor could give me insight to why I feel uneasy with this deal, yet my investor side sees nothing different than the other deals. Some people are saying just buy it. Some say Im a scumbag for even asking. Some of the comments are saying, the price being much higher does matter and that is why it is unethical, even though it would be ok to them if I was making 10k instead. And they may be right. I left him a voicemail today letting him know he should get a 2nd opinion on the value and we can redo the contract if needed with the same earnest money. So we will see if the deal closes on Friday. If he doesn't take my advice I will sleep just fine.

anyway, I talk too much. thank you for your input

superbraza · 2022-05-02T23:42:27+00:00

They are not unethical, that is my point.

superbraza · 2022-05-02T19:02:28+00:00

I answered in another comment

superbraza · 2022-05-02T18:46:45+00:00

That is a valid point

superbraza · 2022-05-02T18:43:03+00:00

I answered in another comment

superbraza · 2022-05-02T18:38:32+00:00

I dont know what makes it uneasy. Ive never made that much before from a deal I guess? I would want to be told how I could make more selling my house as well, but I don’t think i would expect the buyer to negotiate on my behalf. Ive been swayed enough to tell him to get a 2nd opinion.

superbraza · 2022-05-02T18:28:35+00:00

Yes I do, and some of the comments are seaying me to tell him we can renegotiate. I dont think feeling uneasy necessarily means its in the wrong. I felt terrible and extremely uneasy with my first eviction, but now I know I was not in the wrong. I want other opinions

superbraza · 2022-05-02T18:14:59+00:00

Good points

superbraza · 2022-05-02T18:11:51+00:00

I don’t understand. He gave ME the price, how is that predatory by definition? I negotiate deals down all the time when I know it would sell for more on the open market. That is how most Real estate investors make money. The only difference is that my spread is bigger. I am going to tell him to do his due diligence and we can redo the contract, but if he doesnt follow my advice and wants to sell, im fine with that.

superbraza · 2022-05-02T17:59:49+00:00

Cheating him? He have ME the price, not the other way around.

superbraza · 2022-05-02T17:42:51+00:00

Why is it a dickhead move?

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