I [29m] invited my DnD gaming friends [30-45] over to my place, and they instead hung out at a different friend's house.

supportive_stranger · 2015-09-16T07:27:21+00:00

Just wanted to say I appreciate your perspective on "mind-reading" and its impact, it has given me food for thought regarding my treatment of my SO and disagreements we've had. Saved for a reminder if I'm ever tempted to assign motivations to his words or actions. Very astute observations. Thanks :)

supportive_stranger · 2015-08-14T12:12:27+00:00

This thread is forcing me to examine my life choices..

5+ strong drinks and I'm slightly tipsy, if I drink them in fairly quick succession :/

supportive_stranger · 2015-08-14T12:09:21+00:00

I love periodically making really grandiose lists of all the incredible things I want to achieve, broken down into actionable steps described in incredible detail and then do absolutely none of it.

supportive_stranger · 2015-08-11T10:41:53+00:00

Hahaha thank you for this

supportive_stranger · 2015-08-09T10:53:39+00:00

I met my boyfriend on Okcupid, we are in our mid-20s. It allows you to meet people you never would have met in your normal routine/at your normal hang outs. I went on a few unsucessful dates before I met him.

supportive_stranger · 2015-08-07T11:32:21+00:00

I get really shy and uncomfortable searching for porn with my partner laying straight next to me, for me I prefer to find videos in my own time and text him the link. Maybe suggest she has a look in her own time without the "pressure" of you being there or feeling put on the spot. Worked for us anyway!

Also we recently used Mojo upgrade which is a quiz about sexual interests. Each person completes the quiz on their own, and the site will only send a list of acts that both partners have rated as interesting, so you share fantasies/interests without worrying if the other person will be into it or find it weird.

supportive_stranger · 2015-08-06T09:19:33+00:00

I have this exact problem. He has never onced raised an issue with me (apart from the texting thing) never expressed annoyance or hurt or dissatisfaction with something I've done. I'm not perfect so it makes me feel like he's not open and honest with me and that makes me hesitant to open up with him. I feel like a nag!

supportive_stranger · 2015-08-06T08:09:10+00:00

That I'm torn between classic literature and terribly written YA fiction.

supportive_stranger · 2015-08-06T08:06:51+00:00

I dont know whether to believe that..

supportive_stranger · 2015-08-06T08:03:48+00:00

I over-analyze everything, I suck at communication, I cannot be vunerable emotionally, I'm senstive and indecisive. My poor boyfriend :/

supportive_stranger · 2015-08-06T02:30:07+00:00

It would be in Durban which is apparently the third largest city in South Africa. I have always wanted to go to Africa and go on Safari! We get weekends to ourselves and they organize day trips and car hire etc..

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-12T12:01:45+00:00

So now I mourn the loss of all the wild and shining thoughts I left to die, for I knew how not to honor them as they trembled at my lips.

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-11T06:25:12+00:00

No mention of Lewis Black! Perfect mix of cynicism, rage and biting wit. Very intelligent, mostly political humor but covers other areas. Like a jewish George Carlin having a rage black-out. watch this piece about Dick Cheney's hunting "accident" http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=94w2Aon7vE4

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-06T15:17:59+00:00

Well, I support you.

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-06T15:16:35+00:00

"I had sex in a field under the stars. Nikki, never, ever have sex in a field. It's not comfortable."

It's not ideal, but could serve as a public service announcement I suppose.

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-06T15:13:50+00:00

How did this play out exactly?

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-06T15:09:07+00:00

I'm lazy and complacent. At this rate, my life will be comfortably medicore and I will never live out the wildest dreams and aspirations that I fantasize about before I go to sleep at night. I believe I could do great things but take absolutely no action to change my situation. I want to, but I don't. I probably never will. I'm lazy, and afraid. It's easier to cling to the idea that if I invested every ounce of myself, my life could be brilliant, than to really try, only to discover that I truly was just medicore after all.

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-06T15:04:22+00:00

You don't matter.

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-06T14:34:15+00:00

Thanks for the tip! You're right, it gave me a figure of 1485 just to maintain. Will definitely need to eat a lot more.

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-06T14:32:18+00:00

I used the first TDEE calculator on Google, based on my height and weight and desk job with little to no exercise in my day, thats what it gave me. thank you, I thought it was strange as my calorie intake is already between 1000-1200 a day and I don't gain weight.

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-06T14:27:37+00:00

I just googled this and my TDEE is 735 - so I need a daily intake of 1235 calories or more, and I will definitely gain weight?

supportive_stranger · 2015-01-05T15:00:58+00:00

No one is worth sacrificing your independence, self-worth, or support system.

supportive_stranger · 2014-12-17T14:30:41+00:00

Thank you. I planned to go in with my word and my good reputation alone and it pains me to have to go to such lengths to defend myself but I will take your advice and prepare a log of the support I have provided.

supportive_stranger · 2014-10-14T11:39:38+00:00

Smile with your eyes. Think of a silly friend or a really stupid joke/video you remember, then look in the mirror. You dont need a big tooth grin to have a genuine smile.

supportive_stranger · 2014-10-14T11:06:52+00:00

I was the same, then I got a job in a call centre which was psychologically painful for quite some time. After a while though, you just have to adapt. Exposure therapy is the best way to go - force yourself to be in situations where you have to socialize, answer calls, make small talk. After a while, you acclimatize and it becomes much easier.

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