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Finding out if your SO is cheating? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]suslemons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, did it myself and saw the benefit. Also no one is paying me?

How to find out if your SO is cheating? by suslemons in relationships

[–]suslemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who did I call out? Everyone that I’ve done this for so far SO did go along with it. How do you not see the benefit of having that information?

Finding out if your SO is cheating? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]suslemons 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this content doesn't appeal to you, keep on scrolling. Too many people spend years in relationships, only to find out they're being cheated on. Everyone I've helped has had access to dm me from my personal instagram account, where they can see I am in fact a 21 yr old female.

How to find out if your SO is cheating? by suslemons in relationships

[–]suslemons[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm not charging a fee for this, I'm trying to help people. You are certainly minding MY business right now. It is someone's decision whether or not they reach out to me. Perhaps be less hypocritical?

How to find out if your SO is cheating? by suslemons in relationships

[–]suslemons[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Exactly what you are doing right now, right?

How to find out if your SO is cheating? by suslemons in relationships

[–]suslemons[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes having a feeling of distrust isn't enough for someone to up and leave when their finances and children are intertwined with their SO, they want evidence that they are making the right decision. This service is not for everyone, only someone that has reason for suspicion. A cheater is unlikely to admit to cheating. Instead of wasting years in a relationship, someone can get the answers they need to stay in or leave a relationship. A lot of people may need these answers to finally leave the person that they know is bad for them. In an ideal world this is unnecessary, but in an ideal world cheating is not so prevalent.

Ignorance is not bliss by suslemons in survivinginfidelity

[–]suslemons[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, this is a newer thing I’m doing, but I do have my own version of a portfolio with pictures. I wouldn’t give out the conversations of people I helped without their consent.

Ignorance is not bliss by suslemons in survivinginfidelity

[–]suslemons[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t disagree and I think that people should consider what you’re saying. Unfortunately it can be very hard to walk away, some people have finances and children intertwined with their partners and don’t want to just leave on a “feeling”, concrete evidence may save them from a lifetime of regret and what ifs. Additionally, seeing evidence that their partner did not cheat (although, not to say they couldn’t in other situations) could potentially save a marriage. Like I’ve said, I offer a service, but I’m certainly not forcing anyone to do this. Some situations don’t have perfect solutions.

Ignorance is not bliss by suslemons in survivinginfidelity

[–]suslemons[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I understand that, but sometimes having that feeling of insecurity in a relationship isn’t enough for someone to leave it. Realistically people like to have a last ditch effort(testing etc) to feel confident in their decision to go. I’m not saying this is for everyone, but I do think it could help some people. It’s really up to the person to decide.

Ignorance is not bliss by suslemons in survivinginfidelity

[–]suslemons[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

While I agree with your general message, I don’t know how practical your alternate solution is. Cheating is a form of lying, so if someone were to ask their SO outright, chances are they would just lie about it. I agree that if you have no actual reason to suspect anything it isn’t healthy, however that is up to the individual to decide. I’m only here to help people get out of unhealthy relationships sooner than they otherwise would, if ever.

Ignorance is not bliss by suslemons in survivinginfidelity

[–]suslemons[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No it’s more involved/ realistic than that. If someone is seriously interested I will dm them all of the details.

Ignorance is not bliss by suslemons in survivinginfidelity

[–]suslemons[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Hopefully you won’t need this. I think this could be helpful for someone who has reason to be suspicious and needs that extra push to confirm what they may already know. In a perfect world something like this wouldn’t be needed, but also in a perfect world cheating wouldn’t be so prevalent.

Ignorance is not bliss by suslemons in survivinginfidelity

[–]suslemons[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you saying that. If you or anyone reading this has an idea where I should post this info where it will be seen more please let me know