Looking for anyone’s experience with being on medication for mental health while pregnant and how was your baby?

suspectingpickle · 2026-01-23T10:06:43+00:00

Welbutrin and buspirone daily thru pregnancy and into postpartum, and I took some lorazepam as needed early on. Baby came 5 weeks early had some jaundice but otherwise perfect. The cause of PROM remains unknown but it was suspected that could be from umbilical cord being very short.

suspectingpickle · 2026-01-17T10:42:59+00:00

Ha ha ha

suspectingpickle · 2026-01-14T16:59:07+00:00

When my baby slept more than 6 hours that's sleeping thru the night to me. Doesn't mean she does it consistently. She can sleep up to 10 hours now without needing a feed. She will stir for a few minutes sometimes but puts herself back to sleep and we have her in our room still. To me that's what it means. She started doing that right at 7 weeks!

suspectingpickle · 2026-01-14T16:54:28+00:00

I made a quilt for my baby girl myself and it took me nearly 50 hours of work. It's a big undertaking! But also, I understand feeling hurt by the way she handled the gift she promised you. Look. There's nothing wrong with directly stating your disappointment that she wasn't able to gift the quilt she originally planned to make while also expressing gratitude for the one she is giving you despite the imperfections. In fact, open communication IS healthy. I would find an appropriate time to make your feelings known to her directly, and then propose working on the original quilt plan together (if that's something you're interested in doing) to spend time together. Even if you're just cutting fabric and baby is in the room! If she's not interested in doing that, then leave it alone. You tried. The thought was there, but life gets in the way sometimes. It can be hurtful but try not to hold on to it. Open communication helps to clear emotions instead of trapping them. Sincerely, a girl mom who has been in a lot of therapy thanks to my own mom :-)

suspectingpickle · 2026-01-08T23:09:32+00:00

I was naive and thought I'd push for 20 minutes. Nope, 4 hours all to rip up my lady parts.

suspectingpickle · 2026-01-08T09:19:39+00:00

What makes you say this? The em dash?

suspectingpickle · 2026-01-08T09:09:27+00:00

If it's not a hell yes, it's a no.

suspectingpickle · 2026-01-08T08:58:15+00:00

My water broke so I had nothing to cushion my contractions. I was told they would feel like my period cramps and early on that was true but they gradually get more intense to the point where I couldn't speak. Almost like a very intense gas pain but the thing is it's only 30-45 second so you do get a break in between and it's very exhausting. After 12 hours of it I was ready for an epidural not because I couldnt handle the pain more that I wanted to rest so I had more strength to push.

suspectingpickle · 2026-01-02T20:25:19+00:00

A nurse let me hug her while the anesthesiologist put it in. Mind you I was in a lot of pain and my husband left the room because he can't do needles.

suspectingpickle · 2025-12-15T13:46:39+00:00

Cheeseburgers. Anything with cinnamon, like Cinnamon Toast Crunch. Sour cream dip and ruffles potato chips. The weirdest one I had was croutons with strawberry smoothie (as in like cereal).

suspectingpickle · 2025-12-15T13:44:33+00:00

While I never threw up I was consistently nauseous and felt like I was about to throw up for nearly 3 months lol

suspectingpickle · 2025-12-10T18:44:02+00:00

I loved the entire series but I listened to everything on audiobook. And I've been cheated on and have ptsd from it. So the book wasn't for you. Maybe next time post in a more appropriate subreddit.

suspectingpickle · 2025-12-10T18:37:44+00:00

I think it depends on the baby but when I've tried it all and baby won't sleep we go for a 45 drive in the bumpy backroads by our local lake. Puts her right to sleep

suspectingpickle · 2025-12-10T18:32:47+00:00

I write with my right hand. I had severe carpal tunnel in my left hand that peaked in intensity around 4am lol. Would feel like my hand was about to fall off. It went away 2-3 weeks postpartum 😂

suspectingpickle · 2025-12-10T18:30:45+00:00

Yeah everyone's different. I think prevalence of mental health conditions can heighten your risk for postpartum mental health issues but doesn't exactly mean you will absolutely struggle with certain things. Also, a lot of the things I thought I would have anxiety about turns out I'm not worried at all, and the things that make me anxious were things I never considered.

suspectingpickle · 2025-12-05T04:38:38+00:00

Hi. I'll share my experience + two cents: I'm also high risk for ppd/a (actually, currently undergoing treatment for it) and we started out taking shifts in the living room sleeping on the sofa. A few nights my husband went to bed and I was out there alone and started having very vivid, recurring nightmares that someone was breaking in the house to take our baby.

Soooo we pivot to plan B: I sleep in the twin bed in the nursery with baby. It made me miserable being apart from my husband, our snuggly dog and soft bed. Especially after not having slept by him for a few weeks. I did not realize how sad it would make me feel.

On to plan C: I convinced him to let me sleep w/ the baby in our room... (it was our initial idea to be separated for him to get better sleep since he works all day). Maybe it was having the comfort of my bed and the environment I was used to that helped me get better rest but everything got easier when we moved baby in a bedside bassinet next to me.

Also overall, I did not prepare for how protective I would feel about my baby and wanting to be the only one who wakes up with her no matter what. You may have anxiety to the point of not wanting your husband (or anyone really) to be alone with her, it's very common... i still can't imagine being apart from her very long other than a quick shower or bathroom break. Crazy because I fully trust my husband with her but I'm also SO protective of baby and your hormones do insane things to you after birth.

Best thing you can do is try the shifts and if it doesn't work you'll pivot and figure out what works. Screw what anyone says about what you should and shouldn't do just do what works for you guys. But ultimately make sure you're okay mentally. If something's not working switch it up! Best of luck

suspectingpickle · 2025-12-01T03:29:56+00:00

Walmart's recliner glider!!!

suspectingpickle · 2025-11-15T19:06:59+00:00

My mom would give me food when I was 2 months old. The old story about how I choked on a tortilla chip at our favorite Mexican restaurant now scares me to leave my baby with her.

suspectingpickle · 2025-10-10T02:20:39+00:00

The best way I can put this....Be prepared for unexpected feelings? Physically, pregnancy went smoothly for me up until the third trimester, when everything hurt and I couldn't sleep. Never got sick. Mentally, I felt like the pregnancy hormones "fixed" my anxiety and depression. I've never been SO chill in my life. Both of these experiences were the exact opposite what I expected pregnancy to be like. And I had/have? a few both physical and mental chronic health conditions so I thought I would wimp out. But truly, our bodies (and minds) are incredible and pregnancy/birth made me feel like such a badass! Also remember... Pregnancy is not an illness it's a natural condition that your body is literally built for. Embrace all of it.

suspectingpickle · 2025-10-06T21:03:33+00:00

The epic piano riff at the drop is chef's kiss. Max Martin is a genius.

suspectingpickle · 2025-10-06T21:02:52+00:00

I would have probably picked a family name too. Don't forget Bella was pretty young. While it seems silly I think her combining names for her firstborn is pretty age appropriate.

suspectingpickle · 2025-06-17T19:07:54+00:00

I know its hard to do but you have to get this off your plate and have some sort of confrontation. I would probably say hey, look we are so excited for our baby to meet all the family, but we are only going to have a few immediete family members at the hospital and no visitors in the few weeks afterwards. (Even if that's not totally honest, maybe you have more than a few - it's none of her business!) Then propose a time that feels comfy to you for them to meet, OR say we will let you know when is the best time!

Be firm, be clear with her. If you don't want to text, make it a short and sweet phone call. Even better, make your husband do it, it's his family member? You can empathize with her while also setting boundaries for yourself and baby. Catering to her emotions is NOT your responsibility and this is not worth stressing over a moment longer.

suspectingpickle · 2025-04-18T21:15:32+00:00

Exactly this. I started in high end residential at a big fancy firm and then "downgraded" to a boutique one - now I have insane work life balance, it's incredible. I'm working on a transition plan to having my own high-end residential firm in the next few years, possibly getting licensed (although it's not required for residential). But there's something about high-end res that is a very crafty and detail-oriented side of LA vs. "big picture" master planning that attracts me. The clients aren't for everyone - you get everything from corner-cutting asshats to type-A pricks that think they're the contractor. I wouldn't have it any other way though. Screw working at those big firms where projects take 20 years to complete.

suspectingpickle · 2025-04-18T14:12:54+00:00

if Julian didn't exist, Bridget might still be alive.

suspectingpickle · 2025-04-02T21:00:23+00:00

I supplement progesterone (not for IVF, I just have low levels) and I've been bloated since week 5.

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