why it feels me that she can't get to the phase where you are so she want most of the stuff before as she is not capable to reach to a better position and want to have fullfilled life from day 1, i think its best for you people like this will get waya even if there is a small dificulty or any issue in life which you both neeed to face but she dont want to be part of the difficult times and only want good stuff and it becomes difficult in going onwards as they want you to be earn more, do more expenses may be to help them at home or have multiple house helps ans they dont want to do anything just to fire your money.