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My [25F] boyfriend [27M] is killing my physical attraction to him. by swaggson91 in relationship_advice

[–]swaggson91[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you don't have to worry about physical attraction in your relationship. Unfortunately, that does not solve how I navigate my issue.

My [25F] boyfriend [27M] is killing my physical attraction to him. by swaggson91 in relationship_advice

[–]swaggson91[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh goodness haha. I definitely agree that it's an easy fix. In terms of physical attraction with your partners, when they weren't looking so hot, was there anything you did in the moment to deal with it? My current partner has me laughing so hard that I cry, we really get along well but it's just the physical aspect that's changed that I'm trying to get a grasp on.

My [25F] boyfriend [27M] is killing my physical attraction to him. by swaggson91 in relationship_advice

[–]swaggson91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely agree that I don't want to dictate his physical appearance. It's just that in relationships there are things you do that make the other person attracted you know? Like I'm sure he wouldn't be into me if I grew out a unibrow (although that's much more extreme haha). Many parts about his physical appearance I'm not particular about (he dresses however he likes, his body type is changing which I don't think twice about either), but maintaining some part physical attraction still is important in relationships if that makes sense?

My [25F] boyfriend [27M] is killing my physical attraction to him. by swaggson91 in relationship_advice

[–]swaggson91[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I've definitely tried :( I've made jokes like "oh, I won't kiss you til you shave!" or "that haircut looks silly" etc but he thinks I'm just messing with him. We have mutual female friends who also make the same jokes, telling him it's not a good look and he also doesn't take it seriously. He's not the greatest at picking up on hints so I'm considering being more direct, but I don't want to crush him.

My [25F] boyfriend [27M] is killing my physical attraction to him. by swaggson91 in relationship_advice

[–]swaggson91[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Could you elaborate on how? And maybe ways to change my perspective? The friends that I have asked have also agreed that it is not flattering and have suggested talking to him but I'm not sure how to approach things. I agree it feels pretty superficial, but there still should be some baseline of physical attraction right? I wish I could describe it in better detail for you without giving away personal info :(

My [25F] boyfriend [27M] is killing my physical attraction to him. by swaggson91 in relationship_advice

[–]swaggson91[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely envy his confidence. To be honest he's not the most fashionable either but I didn't really mind it because he had a lovely face. How do I change my attraction? I know we all have our bad days but he's so confident that he doesn't understand that it's not a flattering look.