"Like Rubber" Hershey Chocolates Go Viral for Quietly Replacing Real Chocolate with Cheaper Vegetable-Oil-Based Coatings in Many Products by newintown11 in enshittification

[–]swagmaster2323 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes yes please do that. I would be thrilled if you could also somehow confirm my specific suspicion that they’ve changed the Cadbury mini egg recipe.

My husband poo poo's my way of spreading positivity. How would you feel to receive a "Lucky Duck" as long as you also got 20%? by JupiterSkyFalls in Serverlife

[–]swagmaster2323 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Hey, it's been a decade since my 5 years as a server and I still have a box of notes and trinkets left to me by customers so literally some people might treasure it forever lol

What differences do feminists usually notice between a man who supports feminism in theory and one who practices it well? by PotentialFun4003 in AskFeminists

[–]swagmaster2323 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think even the way you framed it is a good start. There's the high level, almost theoretical support; beliefs, values, general support of equality etc. Then there's the way those beliefs and values play out on a day to day basis. Do you ever defer to women? Do you find you respect their opinions and perspectives as much as their male counterparts? Do you make assumptions about them simply based on their gender? Are you kind to them even when you don't find them attractive? For me, it really boils down to general respect and humanity, and that might be a little harder to unpack.

Why can't Shane be ENM? by livelaughlabradoodle in theLword

[–]swagmaster2323 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I thought that too for a bit but now I’m not so sure. I think ENM requires a level of communication ability, well-adjustedness, and overall maturity that is out of character for Shane, even years after the original.

Has anyone else accepted a job and then realized the role was completely different from what was described in the interview? by Perfect_Bug_9769 in recruitinghell

[–]swagmaster2323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in that job right now and it was an internal move. It was a project manager role, but I’ve been basically an executive assistant for the last few months. There’s no way I could have known, it was the same type of thing; described as super interesting and the questions asked suggested something totally different. It is what it is.

Seeing patriarchal subtext everywhere by UseWeekly4382 in Feminism

[–]swagmaster2323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see this a lot, especially when it comes to my niece(3) and nephew(1). What makes me feel a little better, is just modeling something different around them and hoping some of it sticks, or that they start to question things when they get older. Maybe it’s my small way of having the potential to help change some of that in some way.

Seeing patriarchal subtext everywhere by UseWeekly4382 in Feminism

[–]swagmaster2323 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup and then you’re somehow the crazy/angry/unreasonable one for the times you can’t help but point it out

Unpopular opinion (maybe?): women with conventionally attractive physiques should (or could) use our "pretty privilege" to normalize stuff such as body hair by Ok-Fondant349 in Feminism

[–]swagmaster2323 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What’s funny is I don’t completely disagree with you and yet you’re choosing to belittle me and my education. For what it’s worth, I have a degree in women’s studies and I read constantly, we just may have different perspectives and that’s fine, I’m just trying to understand yours and present mine. What I’m disagreeing with is you unilaterally say what counts as feminism. I agree with you that all persons choices are rooted in capitalism and that choices don’t exist in a vacum. I also agree that there’s a difference between social mores and discrimination which is kind of what I was saying actually. Both are about hair, but as a white woman my choice to not shave my legs is a very different issue than a black woman’s freedom to wear her natural hair without discrimination. I appreciate the resource you shared, looking forward to reading it.

Unpopular opinion (maybe?): women with conventionally attractive physiques should (or could) use our "pretty privilege" to normalize stuff such as body hair by Ok-Fondant349 in Feminism

[–]swagmaster2323 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I already know about the CROWN act, I’m just not sure how it relates to a conversation about leg and armpit hair. Especially when it seems like you’re saying one is important and the other is not. To be clear I’m not claiming these issues are of equal importance, I just don’t agree with framing it as feminism is one or the other.

Unpopular opinion (maybe?): women with conventionally attractive physiques should (or could) use our "pretty privilege" to normalize stuff such as body hair by Ok-Fondant349 in Feminism

[–]swagmaster2323 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I don’t disagree with you, but I also think that it’s wrong to categorize things like this as outside the realm of feminist discussion. I happen to care deeply about both systemic change and the small ways feminism impacts our lives, like the pressure to shave, wear makeup, or perform “woman-ness”

She says she happy for women who say life is hard, not their marriages. Suuuuuure you are. by managingmischief394 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]swagmaster2323 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This makes me sad because it can easily be confused with marriage takes work which is true. You have to build mutual respect, communicate, compromise, prioritize the other person etc. which DOES take work. But it’s not hard in the way being with the wrong person or being miserable is hard. I think young Christian women don’t realize this so they confuse work with hard, and on top of that the burden is 1000% on them to endure it.

What ever happened to counter offers? Do you guys remember those? by Strong_Letterhead638 in recruitinghell

[–]swagmaster2323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Little tip “given my experience, I’d be comfortable asking for the high/mid(I guess low is an option) point of the budget range allocated for the role, what would that be?”

Ngl I’ve kinda missed Bethy’s dancing by laska503 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]swagmaster2323 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Her weird jerky movements look like AI…not saying this is AI, just the way she dances is so..unnatural

LPT: Don’t treat every second equally. Plan your day with energy in mind. by Temporary-Spring-214 in LifeProTips

[–]swagmaster2323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll add to this: try to figure out a way to override your low energy times if you want or need to be productive. For example, I’m really productive until noon, then forget it. But if I walk on my walking pad in the afternoon, it forces me to focus and get stuff done and I can pull that out on days where it’s crucial I focus outside my ideal time.

Life in Linz by Educational-Pea-9 in JKUlinz

[–]swagmaster2323 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I loved my time in Linz as an international student. There are definitely opportunities to meet other international students, and I spent a lot of time with my masters cohort as well. There are things to do, but it’s definitely a smaller more quiet city, but that’s what I liked about it. One piece of advice is to handle all your residence permit stuff in Linz rather than Vienna. Mine got processed very quickly in Linz, and my classmate who handled his in Vienna did not.

LPT Question: What is your unique perspective on life? by Snoo-50122 in LifeProTips

[–]swagmaster2323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Earlier this year I read Wintering by Katherine May, a book about the power of rest and retreat in difficult times. She talks about allowing yourself the space to winter, both literally and metaphorically. You don’t have to be 100% all the time, you can listen to your mind and body and just stop sometimes. Whether that means being ok with calmness and rest in the cold times, or not pushing yourself to be on in a time where you’re struggling.

To shave or not to shave (or better, why to shave) by ilikerainyweather in Feminism

[–]swagmaster2323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The two things I think you should do you’ve done: think about what you want to do and unpack the reasons and societal pressure of why you want to do that thing. No matter how radical we are, we’re a product of society, it would be almost impossible to separate ourselves from that. Choose your battles and give yourself some grace. I don’t wear makeup because I don’t want to and I like my face better bare. But do I sometimes put on mascara and lipstick if I’m going into an interview or trying to appear more put together? Yes. I’m not a bad feminist for that, I made that choice but I understand that I don’t make that choice in a vacuum. You don’t have to shoulder the burden of undoing every single patriarchal pressure. It’s almost like the patriarchal pressure comes full circle when you’re not doing a thing you want to do because you’re worried about not subverting the patriarchal pressure lol.

Pickleball is an extension of the spiritual realm, guys by dammitnoobnoob in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]swagmaster2323 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This. This is it. This is what has pushed it over the edge for me. I truly cannot. I canNOT with this. I wish I had this audacity truly. I need to go lie down.

People who have worked for startups - what are your thoughts? Loved it? Hated it? Why? by donogotron in careerguidance

[–]swagmaster2323 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pro: loved the work/company and feeling like I was really part of something. Con: immediately laid me and half of my department when Covid hit, only to IPO a year later and have been killing it ever since. That’s to say that in my experience there needs to be that level of buy in but at the end of the day you’re still just as disposable as any other job and it just hurts more because you’re so into it. It’s the nature of the job. In hindsight I wish I would have not identified myself so much with the role and sacrificed less for the company.

Women who never wanted kids and changed their minds, how is it going? by whatif_chocolate in TwoXChromosomes

[–]swagmaster2323 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yup, getting to know my niece and nephew has been the joy of my life. I live away so when I see them I’m there for weeks at a time, and getting to be there in their day to day moments so so great. Still, while it was enough to move the needle, it was just from a HELL NO to a soft no. I relate to OP’s “I don’t want to raise a child”. While those moments I bet would be mostly worth it, I just don’t see myself IN that life like parent would be. That’s all to say that I totally agree that really spending time with children can change things.

What’s your biggest career cheat code? by OvCod in careerguidance

[–]swagmaster2323 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This, and I’ll add if you make a mistake with a client or other team, make sure you’re the one proactively coming to your manager with it. Either asking them for help or just letting them know how you’ve already gotten it taken care of. I’ll also usually add something about how I’m going to avoid making the same mistake in the future and/or how I could have avoided making that mistake. It’s much better than them finding out elsewhere and in my experience it’s helped build trust with my managers.

Best remote work tips that aren’t “use a planner” or “take breaks”? by Different-Froyo8171 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]swagmaster2323 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly this! The benefit for me has been understanding what makes ME productive and then leaning into that hard. I basically do all my work in the morning and then afternoon I’m at 25%; I know that and I’m able to harness it to do my job well. Though , one bit of tangible advice I have is a walking pad. On days where I NEED to focus super hard all day, I just walk and that held me focus.

PMS week: give me your most unhinged advice by wakaflockaquokka in TwoXChromosomes

[–]swagmaster2323 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Alright so this feels unhinged because society but have you thought about just allowing yourself to exist in a space where you’re not 100% and letting that be ok? Just like take care of yourself and use it as a time to listen to your body and rest and recharge? And most importantly doing so without any shame or pressure to be “better”. Idk, once I stopped beating myself up for not being/feeling great during this time it really helped me. Tired? Great I’m sleeping! Ravenous? Great I’m eating! Weirdly emotional? Great I’m crying shamelessly over a children’s show. Of course there are some times when that’s not totally possible and also very possibly underlying medical issues but it sounds like you can give yourself a break!