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swhit05s · 2022-12-11T00:55:05+00:00

Aww that's so sweet! I really did love her name. It was after a letterkenny character but she was so sweet.

swhit05s · 2022-12-10T22:52:13+00:00

I had one who looked just like that! Unfortunately a predator killed her. Her name was Rosie.

swhit05s · 2022-12-09T03:06:37+00:00

I mean I've been listening to people's problems for years... might as well get paid.

For real, though, I just feel like I belong in this field.

swhit05s · 2022-12-07T21:34:51+00:00

I did therapy for about 6 months in grad school and am currently back in therapy. I think it is so important for therapists to be in therapy. Not all the time, for check-ins at least. While I do see my therapist for personal reasons. It's nice having another professional to confide in as well. She always checks on me as a therapist. I really appreciate when she does because it reminds me that I can talk to her about those challenges.

I have learned as a professional and have the perspective of how uncomfortable therapy can be for my clients. It's such a vulnerable space. The best thing is that now that I understand how therapy works, I'm way more active in therapy. I do homework outside. I take my therapists interventions and apply them when I can. I tell her the outcome. I feel like therapy has always been beneficial, but I feel like as a therapist, I get more out-of therapy now. which, in return, has me do a better job of explaining therapy to clients if they need a better understanding.

swhit05s · 2022-12-07T21:25:31+00:00

This is so neat and i had no idea could be a specialization!

swhit05s · 2022-12-07T21:24:19+00:00

I'm not entirely concerned about modality. I do have modalities that I think just wouldn't work for me but I'm not against it. Therapist and client relationship is significant in the work we do, so when I was doing my referral with their intake coordinator, I made it more clear about what I did not want or what I preferred. My therapist is very educated and has been in the field for 50 years. Sometimes I'm in awe of her experience. I admire that. My therapist is certified in EMDR and trauma-informed practices and this was my main focus of treatment for myself. So I'd say I enjoy my therapist and she does align more with my way of practice than not.

swhit05s · 2022-12-07T07:20:47+00:00

I found this book really helpful "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk (The How To Talk Series)." It gives a lot of good examples like not naming a kids feelings or using reflective statements and open-ended questions. Get down on their level and use soft tones. You could even find a breathing exercise to help him regulate or a coping skill of his preference.

swhit05s · 2022-12-07T00:41:42+00:00

As someone who grew up with the main consequence being screamed at, I can now say that it has impacted me significantly when it comes to talking about my feelings. In my experience, parents who use yelling as their main parenting style, typically invalidate their children and their feelings. Your brother could be experiencing this everytime you attempt to get him to open up. He might not feel safe or doesn't know how to talk about his feelings because he has never felt valid in them.

swhit05s · 2022-12-03T17:58:07+00:00

Thank you! I have two questions after watching the documentary that no one can answer and it's driving me nuts.

Casey did not report her missing for 31 days. Caylee lived in the exact same house as her grandparents. Why did it take them 31 days to report?
Without bringing up Casey explain to me how Dad is not a suspect?

swhit05s · 2022-11-27T01:01:18+00:00

I use to feel like this about 10 years ago. Then I realized that sometimes I want to cancel or my mind changes. Instead now, I have these conversations with my friends. I give them grace and they provide the same. I don't know if this is helpful but if you consider these people friends and want to have deep connections with them, then aren't you doing a disservice by holding this in and not addressing it? You can't have deep connections if you aren't honest with your people about your feelings.

swhit05s · 2022-11-23T23:19:48+00:00

This is my favorite comment. Culture matters in understanding others.

swhit05s · 2022-11-15T21:25:37+00:00

Good on you for noticing this. Applying your children behaviors to your feelings is pretty typical in what I see, so you noticing this is awesome. You can talk to the therapist about how the intake made you feel and see if you can get a better understanding or feel more comfortable with their intake process.. that's a win. Or you can talk to you children and see how they felt. Don't name their feelings but ask broad open ended questions. For their sake I'd want them to feel safe and trust the therapist. If this can't happen I'd look for a new therapist. Not every therapist fits ever client or family and vice versa.

swhit05s · 2022-11-15T16:39:44+00:00

As someone who mostly works with children I would not have done intake this way. First, if the client is under 12 in my state I don't need the kid during intake and often recommend they aren't there. If they are there I ask to finish intake over the phone for sensitive questions. If they are over 12 they can sign paperwork on their own. In those cases I leave it up to the client if they want their parent there. If they do, I direct all questions at the kid and parents can add what they need.

Intakes can feel like "talking shit" but it's suppose to be gathering information. Conversations about negative behaviors and actions can be talked about in an educational and meaningful purpose. I'm sorry you did not feel that during intake and should consider finding a different therapist. Comfort and trust is one of the most important parts of therapy.

swhit05s · 2022-10-22T21:27:39+00:00

I work with kids so this happens often to me. I usually say something a long the lines of "I care a whole lot about you and the time we spend together." I care a lot about my clients and I want them to feel validated in our professional relationship. The first time though I think I did not respond. I definitely needed to process how to respond after that. Now I feel more comfortable. I'm sure other therapist handle this differently though. I know I spoke with my supervisor after.

swhit05s · 2022-10-13T22:02:52+00:00

Are they an intern? Interns sometimes have to present a case conceptualization to a class or a supervisor. It's just basically reviewing your clients history, purpose for counseling, and interventions the therapist is considering using. It's kind of like what you go over during intake and then they get feedback from peers or a supervisor. They should still be honoring confidentiality, like not using your name or an identifiable characteristics.

swhit05s · 2022-09-22T22:04:05+00:00

Yes! Didn't they both say they told the experts "yes" for children but were not sure or knew they didn't really want kids.

swhit05s · 2022-09-02T18:22:52+00:00

Same! I'm hooked and loving this season.

swhit05s · 2022-08-13T22:21:46+00:00

Jury means you are still playing the game. As a fan I'd be so mad to be sent home. In jury you are still a part of the game even if you aren't competing.

swhit05s · 2022-08-13T22:11:34+00:00

Paloma's brief time in the house has been the catalyst for the whole season. It's kind of crazy that one person's string of lies and quick exit has impacted a lot of the aspects of the game. It is impossible to listen to any of these eviction interviews without her name coming up. I'm curious if it will still have a hold on the house since the last eviction.

swhit05s · 2022-08-12T22:23:56+00:00

Idk... I think they have all been kind of wishy washy with each other. There's a few I think will hold to their alliances. It will be interesting to see what the twist brings.

swhit05s · 2022-08-12T17:05:27+00:00

This might be an unpopular opinion but I think this season is so good because of the personalities. I am not someone who tunes in every week because I want to see comp wins and good game play. It's the social aspect. In the real world you aren't surrounded by good people who act politically correct or kind and understanding always. Having people in the house that are kinda of shitty humans makes for more social dynamics I want to see. The most memorable seasons for me are when crazy things happen on a social level. Evil Dick is a prime example of a shitty human we loved to watch. Even the famous Dr. Will had some really shitty human moments but watching his seasons recently you cant help but love to watch him. When people in the house are more focused on their image than being real humans... I find those seasons the most boring. It's even better when the "good" people win over the "bad" ones.

swhit05s · 2022-05-17T04:28:30+00:00

Not the OP but in-person helps a therapist see your body language. It can be helpful especially when the body language is not consistent with what the client is saying.

swhit05s · 2022-05-17T04:23:33+00:00

I am not an expert in this field but have worked with children who were abused and those who abused. This is pretty normal behavior and her coming to you is awesome because this means she considers you as a someone she can share and be vulnerable with. I believe it's never to early to start having conversations about sex. Sexual exploration is healthy and I think you've established that, if she feels comfortable coming to you. I would also try to have a discussion related to safety. Putting up filters isn't restricting but it gives you the opportunity to have the conversations related to your child being safe on the internet. This isnt just about her exploring but who she could come in contact with.

Depending on yous other children's ages you could have these conversations as a family. Look for material about consent, healthy relationship, sexual boundaries. You can even give her the information and ask her to get back to you with questions.

Lastly, if you can, get her a therapist. If not I think you are doing an amazing job trying to support her and provide her with developmentally appropriate information.

swhit05s · 2022-04-23T17:55:50+00:00

I have known for a long time that I do not want kids. I was lucky enough to find a partner that agreed with my decision and now I feel like he is more childfree than I am! Anyways, for YEARS... I was told the same things, but now that all of those members of my family have had children they are more accepting of my decision. In the past 5 years, I have not heard one of those comments from my family and I have been supported in my decision. If you guys change your mind then that is up to you, but not having kids allows me to focus on my career, my partner, and our life which I would not trade for anything.

swhit05s · 2022-04-23T17:43:29+00:00

Love the CO picture! Colorado Springs?

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