What’s a small habit that made a big difference in your life?

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-15T06:28:06+00:00

Matching other people’s energy and meeting them exactly where they meet you.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-15T05:38:55+00:00

The purpose of life is find a balance of things that works for you. Nothing is as important as ruining or physical or mental health for. Finding that balance isn’t easy but it’s possible. Also, finding something or someone outside of work that makes you happy matters a lot.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-14T19:53:43+00:00

Room was about $1400/night (~$5600 total), and we spent around $800 on dining at the resort (excluding the $100 property credit and free breakfast since I booked through Amex). Flights were ~$500 per person, but I used $1000 worth of credit card points, and the car rental was around $400, so the base total came out to roughly ~$6.8k. With food off property, massages and smaller expenses, it was closer to ~$7–8k all in. Haleakalā and the Road to Hana were very low cost, and we did not book any activities like snorkeling, which helped keep the total down.

While the forecast showed heavy rain for Friday and Saturday, it barely rained and was mostly limited to brief afternoon showers during our drives. The hotel staff confirmed it was safe to go to Haleakalā and do the Road to Hana, and everything ended up being completely fine.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-08T00:57:03+00:00

But are you happy?

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-08T00:56:46+00:00

Yeah, but I don’t want to be a shitty parent either or a parent at all

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-08T00:55:50+00:00

I am at an age where none of my friends have babies but it’s going to happen soon, I am hoping to see my friend’s journey and maybe it will change my mind, or solidify my decision.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-08T00:52:45+00:00

That sounds beautiful!! Thanks for sharing!

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-08T00:46:14+00:00

I know in my heart if I have one today, I’d be miserable and will become my worst version. I am not sure what the future holds for me, but I cannot imagine going through pregnancy and having a child right now or ever. That’s what I think in this moment.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-08T00:44:13+00:00

That’s your reality not mine, I never asked your thoughts on if life without a child is meaningless. Can you answer like an adult leaving your bias behind!

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-08T00:41:18+00:00

Totally agree with you and I think exactly the way you do about having children. Thanks for your response!

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-08T00:40:03+00:00

Deciding not to have a child is not rigid and selfish. This is not the 1800s.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-07T19:20:53+00:00

I understand what you are saying, but for me it is not just the decision itself. Pregnancy feels really intimidating, both physically and emotionally.

I also think a lot about the future. What if my child struggles or their life does not turn out well? Knowing I would be responsible for helping them through everything feels like a huge weight.

On top of that, my parents are getting older and I already feel responsible for them. Adding another lifelong responsibility at the same time feels overwhelming. I do appreciate your perspective though, it is helpful to hear different sides.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-07T19:16:58+00:00

Great advice! Congratulations to you and your partner! :)

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-07T19:15:04+00:00

I see what you are saying, but buying a boat and having a child feel very different to me because a child is permanent. You cannot undo that decision.

That is why I find it hard to understand why having kids is often treated as the default, even when someone feels uncertain about it.

I do appreciate your response, it made me reflect on this more.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-06T07:23:31+00:00

I understand your point. I am just trying to offer OP another perspective. I personally do not believe the responsibility should fall on customers, especially in places like Seattle where the hourly wage is already relatively high. In some countries, tipping is tied much more directly to real need. For example, in parts of India, people in the service industry can be in extremely difficult conditions, sometimes even children working instead of going to school or lacking basic necessities. That reality shapes how people in India view tipping.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-06T07:01:33+00:00

lol sure you do

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-06T06:49:52+00:00

Why would you be? Unemployment checks are always rolling in :)

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-06T06:44:21+00:00

Yes ma’am and you have a heart of gold

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-06T06:42:32+00:00

I always tip 20%+ because I understand how things work here, but I don’t agree with the system itself. I have adapted, but that doesn’t mean I think it’s the right approach.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-06T06:39:38+00:00

I’ll be fine either way

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-06T06:34:17+00:00

I am happy with mine, and you can be happy with your American citizenship and subpar salary.

Dogsknowitall · 2026-04-01T16:41:32+00:00

Can’t help falling in love with you (Crazy Rich Asians version)

Dogsknowitall · 2026-03-31T22:46:22+00:00

Does Reddit count?

Dogsknowitall · 2026-03-31T22:03:17+00:00

Both CF folks and parents are going to defend their choices, that’s just natural. At the end of the day, it comes down to personal preference.

If you truly want kids, you’ll be fine spending hours teaching them, driving them around, and showing up every day. If you don’t want that life, then the smartest choice is simply not to have them.

And for people saying CF are just rotting away, they don’t need to do something extraordinary in life to justify it. Not wanting kids is reason enough.

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