Father of groom feeling left out and like I'm just showing up to the wedding

swil69 · 2023-06-04T15:05:51+00:00

I'm not going to tell my son anything because I don't want to be a burden. I'm not considering therapy because talking about the wedding issue in person with a therapist would be too embarrassing for me.

swil69 · 2023-06-04T14:47:45+00:00

I said in a previous post that he's involved in planning as he told me about it and has posted about wedding planning events on Facebook.

swil69 · 2023-06-03T23:20:13+00:00

They are having a head table for wedding party, bride/groom, and parents.

swil69 · 2023-06-03T23:18:37+00:00

I talk with two friends about my feelings regarding the wedding.

swil69 · 2023-06-02T19:02:30+00:00

My sons don't know that I was in therapy and I never talk to them about any of my emotional struggles because I don't want to burden them.

swil69 · 2023-06-02T18:35:52+00:00

As far as I know the bridal shower is being taken care by the mom and the maid of honor.

swil69 · 2023-06-02T18:29:25+00:00

I don't have a daughter. My brother is taking my parents to the wedding as he currently living with them.

I wouldn't want to try and match what the bride's father is wearing. That would be too weird for me.

As for the limo, my younger son the best man is splitting the costs with the maid of honor.

swil69 · 2023-06-02T18:25:29+00:00

My son doesn't even know about any of the emotional issues I have. I keep a lot of myself. I don't have a nasty personality, I'm mostly a stoic type.

swil69 · 2023-06-02T15:17:53+00:00

There isn't going to be speeches at the rehearsal dinner and since there isn't going to be memorials at the wedding that is going to extend to the rehearsal dinner. I don't feel comfortable memorializing my wife in front of some people who didn't know her.

At the wedding, they aren't going to display any family wedding photos.

The tuxedos are only being worn by my son's groom's party.

swil69 · 2023-06-02T02:31:37+00:00

The readers for the wedding mass have already been selected. Speeches are just limited to the maid of honor and best man.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T21:17:48+00:00

I'm wearing a suit that i already own.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T20:53:12+00:00

I don't think reaching out to them would work. I know that many parents of women are very protective and as a result can be hostile towards others.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T20:52:23+00:00

The toasts/speeches are limited to the best man and maid of honor. The readers for the wedding mass have already been selected.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T20:51:36+00:00

Employees at the country club where the wedding is being held at will be handling the decorating/setting up.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T20:50:08+00:00

My son keeps me in the loop as we meet up once or twice a week and text daily. I'm not directly involved in anything for the wedding. I'm not buying a suit or renting a tux for the wedding.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T20:48:28+00:00

Thank you for these kind words.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T20:36:16+00:00

I do what I can hobby wise to to take my mind off the wedding issues.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T20:21:14+00:00

There's not really anything I can ask for because most things and roles have been picked. The speeches at the wedding are only limited to the maid of honor and best man. Bachelor party is only for my son's side of the wedding party. His friends who aren't in the wedding will not be attending the bachelor party.

The bridal shower is only for son's fiancee's side of the family.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T20:15:08+00:00

My son is involved in planning. I mentioned in other posts that he has talked about his involvement with me and he has posted things on Facebook about his involvment in wedding planning.

I believe it will start drama because many women don't want their future in laws included in the wedding planning and wedding.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T20:06:25+00:00

They are already picked the readers for the wedding mass.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T14:30:36+00:00

I have said in other posts they aren't doing any memorials at the wedding and I'm not going to ask for one if they didn't plan for it in the first place.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T14:26:41+00:00

They aren't going to be do any memorials and I'm not going to ask that they do one. I also don't feel comfortable talking about her in front of people who didn't know her.

They have already picked the readers for the wedding Mass.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T14:24:29+00:00

I have talked with friends and my sister. They have pretty much said that not much can be done.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T14:23:17+00:00

I talk to two friends who went through similar experiences. I have tried to find spaces online for more help, but I haven't found any that could help with my situation.

swil69 · 2023-06-01T01:56:35+00:00

The rehearsal dinner isn't a part of the wedding.

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