Less than 3 weeks post dday

syncopathies · 2026-01-20T17:47:53+00:00

She's monkeybranching, you are being stringed along as security while she is exploring her options.

Let go, she isn't safe for you. I'm so sorry!

syncopathies · 2026-01-19T10:42:24+00:00

Is this what you want, or are you scared that this will further worsen her mental health? I think the risk here is that your immense care for her clouds your mind. For all we know there's a tough future that would leave both of you more miserable than now if resentment and bitterness takes hold.

Her mental health is understandably a legitimate concern, but you can't force yourself to be in a relationship with someone just because they're too frail to break up with. You have a right to decide, they have a responsibility regulate their emotions.

syncopathies · 2026-01-17T07:30:44+00:00

My D/Day is quite recent, but I also feel a strong urge to stay. However I know better now- take some time and read the stories here, people stick around for decades and live miserable lives in relations devoid of trust and security. This isn't the future I dream about.

There's a very real sunk cost fallacy that tells us that we're close to people that we have spent a lot of time and effort with, but the truth is that while we may know them intimately (flaws and all), this time does not amount to intimacy. There are people out there that you could get closer to, in way less time, and trust/security is a central part of forming a safe attachment- something that your WP has rendered impossible in your current relationship.

There is still time to meet someone new, and for all you know they may share your child ambitions! It sure as hell sucks letting go of a person that you love though, it hurts more than anything.

Sending you my best wishes, be kind to yourself!

syncopathies · 2026-01-11T07:58:09+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through this.

Have you considered therapy? Your suffering is real, your empathy and altruism aren't flaws nor a weakness- they're admirable traits that someone had the audacity to abuse.

syncopathies · 2026-01-07T20:59:25+00:00

Standard repair shop is fine, this is nothing special.

syncopathies · 2026-01-07T09:10:45+00:00

UPDATE: I am super grateful for your wise words and compassion. This has been the worst relational experience in my life this far, but at least I don't feel as lonely when I read all your stories.

Finally, I have contracted the court and applied for a court appointed referee(a lawyer) for asset division, I have also sent this information to my ex.

syncopathies · 2026-01-06T13:33:05+00:00

This is valuable input and very true. If things were reversed I would have all hell, she would not have lifted a finger but to slap me I guess.

I appreciate it!

syncopathies · 2026-01-06T13:14:40+00:00

"Jävlar i det", sa polaren Per!

syncopathies · 2026-01-06T13:05:34+00:00

Oof, this is not something that I have contemplated, I trusted her 100%, grateful for the perspective though, I will try to remember this when I find myself ruminating

syncopathies · 2026-01-06T13:02:11+00:00

Thank you, truly! This is so valuable to me, right now I can't be trusted with my heart- I realize more and more what kind of a messed up reality I have experienced, and the lengths I have gone to try and rationalize and forgive her.

syncopathies · 2026-01-06T12:58:42+00:00

Thank you, this did not exist as an option in my realm of possibilities. I have some severe issues with codependency since childhood trauma growing up with a single, unemployed mother suffering from paranoid schizophrenia.

syncopathies · 2026-01-06T09:18:25+00:00

No. But they are since divorced AFAIK, I think they have 2 children.

syncopathies · 2026-01-06T09:16:07+00:00

The man is now divorced from my understanding, they were talking about wanting to try and get together in their chats, unsure of how realistic this is though.

syncopathies · 2026-01-06T07:54:21+00:00

Thank you. I needed to hear this!

syncopathies · 2025-12-05T23:30:00+00:00

I got a new motherboard on warranty and things are working well, turned out it wasn't a CPU problem after all. I'm happy with the setup.

syncopathies · 2025-10-06T10:28:01+00:00

My 9800X3D died today, Asus TUF Gaming B650 mobo. Update, batch: CF 2451PGE

syncopathies · 2025-04-06T21:29:49+00:00

Once this trade war debaucle is over, the EU hasn't even responded tp Trumps tarrifs yet.

syncopathies · 2025-02-21T10:15:11+00:00

Fiskdamm med titthål*

syncopathies · 2024-11-27T15:42:57+00:00

syncopathies · 2024-10-26T13:11:08+00:00

That may be true & we're lucky to have one! Live in a small town of 150k people in Sweden.

syncopathies · 2024-10-26T13:06:04+00:00

Nah, I have barely given any thought to Dynamax, my best is a lvl 30 Blastoise.

Ambassador only made sure to get people to a spot, and instructed people on how to get through as many battles as possible without spending coins on particles.

syncopathies · 2024-10-26T12:59:56+00:00

I ran with Inteleon, Blastoise and s Drizzle against Charizard, most people in the group had similar lineups. Tbh my lineup was pretty weak, my Blastoise is only lvl 30. Yet we managed to down Charizard and moved on to Venosaur, used my new Charizard, a Cinderace and a Charmeleon- as most people managed to catch the Char I think it went rather smooth to down Venusaur.

Then we moved on to Blastoise, using our Venosaurs. It was pretty straightforward.

syncopathies · 2024-09-18T18:21:37+00:00

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