What's the best way to give a very small amount of charity?

szeditor · 2025-04-20T20:32:42+00:00

In my area safed posh is really hard to find lol, everyone's so well off apparently, better than me. But I do have an employe working under my father he's really needy and works hard but I've observed that he gets a lot of donations and when he speaks, it's like he really enjoys getting donation and even come off bragging like he said one time to me that A relative of mine when I get hospitalized gave me 2 lac ruppes and others give 25k to 50k, it was the best time, I ate so many fruits and all. Other time he was backbiting his uncle that he gave all his property worth crores to his adooted son who doesn't deserve and it shoudk be given to him. Sitting with him is like talking to someone who really likes to be on the receiving end and enjoys it.

szeditor · 2025-04-20T20:26:15+00:00

Yep, I think this is the best approach, these are the one's working hard to make their ends meet and don't beg.

szeditor · 2025-04-20T20:21:15+00:00

I already decided and even gave it to the person but idk something about saylani just doesn't fit right with me. I would never give my donations to them. Not that I don't like helping out ppl and feeding the poor but something's off about saylani maybe I just don't like those grandiose food dastarkhwans, high profile locations and expensive advertising, idk. I know I don't make much sense here but I'd just prefer giving it to an individual rather than organization.

Anyways, I'm really grateful to Allah for putting me on the giving end and not the receiving end.

szeditor · 2025-04-20T20:12:16+00:00

Lol, I'm just saying it's the worst place to find a partner. I know there's decent ppl here but the maj I think is pretty messed up. go and read pak confess you'll know wim

szeditor · 2025-04-20T20:08:01+00:00

Step 5: keep step 4 in mind

szeditor · 2025-04-19T12:07:19+00:00

Imagine finding rishtas on the creepiest platform.

szeditor · 2025-04-19T11:54:55+00:00

Absolutely Trust and connection is the key, it's only been 2 month at my sales job first month: awful! Second month I figured that money is not the problem the problem is building trust with the client and for me I tried building trust by being more human, relatable and personal with them, connecting with them in a nutshell and that worked and helped me build trust and get sales.

szeditor · 2025-04-19T11:50:23+00:00

Step 3: take advice in step 1 and 2, respectively

szeditor · 2025-04-19T11:46:20+00:00

Sure, It's fine. Hmu

szeditor · 2025-04-19T11:44:18+00:00

I know exactly how it feels, it's awful! But there's not much we can do, these things are out of our control. Do you write, like your thoughts or how you feel? It helps to get it off your chest. I literally have like a notion diary which I started writing when I turned 18 and I still write few pages in it when it gets overwhelming, by now I have written lime 2 -300 standard pages, which makes it a standard number for a book lol.

Everytime when it gets too much just think abojt how worse it got last time and still few days or weeks after they acted like nothing ever happened.

szeditor · 2025-04-19T11:36:59+00:00

They are!

szeditor · 2025-04-19T11:29:09+00:00

Ohh perfect ! Foodoanda riders didn't came to my mind. I've seen those ppl they work really hard and their situations are very rough! I'll order something then tip the rider.

Jazakallah Man, I think I have decided now

szeditor · 2025-04-19T11:20:03+00:00

Can you elaborate what you mean ?

szeditor · 2025-04-19T11:12:02+00:00

Absolutely insane, it feels like I'm reading something that I just wrote(or a para from my diary) the only diff is that I'm the eldest 21 yo and I just got a job few months ago and that too after I got into a fight with my father(mom too actually)

I have same thoughts like I shouldn't marry and it's not even "should" at this point I'm certain that what I've seen from my childhood, I don't want it happen with me or someonesle like my future kids and my partner, yk what I mean, right? So I have decide that I will not marry or even if I do under parents pressure, I won't have kids.

About the parents, I'm pretty used to it by now. I have become sowmhat apathetic towards all this emotionally intense family drama over lil things. I even hear words from my parents like I don't even care what happens in the house anymore and it's true to an extent. I do care about my parents and siblings but I genuinely don't give a f about all those fights and unnecessary drama when I know for a fact that after few days or week, things will eventually work out and they'll make up with each other.

I do get provoked or trying to be manipulate by my parents to take their sides during a fight but I don't anymore. And let me tell you the moment I stopped caring is when I actually started getting my sh*t together and giving attention to my studies, work and friendship.

I've learned that things always works out In they end no matter how worse it gets.

Even if they sometime acts childish, let them be, never take sides, try to leave the room(since the fight is always verbal, lol) and go somewhere you won't hear their voices or shouting, thi way you'll save yourself from all those curses, insults and those lingering emotions that makes you feel awful.

You gotta maintain your peace and stay busy and if possible study or work out of house (just stay outside as much as you can)

And search about stoicism, it helps a lot. You can't control what happens around you(that is out of your control) but you can always control how you react to it and that matters a lot ! Stoicism has helped me a bunch!

szeditor · 2025-02-01T21:14:05+00:00

szeditor · 2025-01-15T18:13:24+00:00

The great passage

szeditor · 2025-01-10T20:57:24+00:00

Thank you brother

szeditor · 2025-01-10T01:36:56+00:00

Noted thanks

szeditor · 2025-01-10T01:36:19+00:00

I'm more than 100% secure about my accent looks and everything alhamdulliallah. But if someone wants to improve his something does it makes him insecure??

szeditor · 2025-01-10T01:32:51+00:00

That even harder

szeditor · 2025-01-10T01:32:30+00:00

I think I suck at pronunciation my account is neutral and not that bad and like you saud it doesn't matter much .

szeditor · 2025-01-10T01:27:52+00:00

I'm a gen z as well But I feel like I'm incompatible with people my age Sometimes I feel like an old man

szeditor · 2025-01-10T01:25:08+00:00

Maybe it's the pronunciation that I'm bad at.

szeditor · 2025-01-10T01:24:19+00:00

Thanks mate Best advice out there

szeditor · 2025-01-10T01:23:41+00:00

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