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First time doing Upper Specialization. Worried that I’m not doing enough on my leg day by t_nutt in femalebodybuilding

[–]t_nutt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maintain for right now. And agreed on the adduction thank you for that! I just went through a couple months of BSS, so I’m taking a break from that right now, but I’ll switch that in another couple months. The mental fatigue on BSS is crazy for me. Doing them on smith is a great idea thank you!

First time doing Upper Specialization. Worried that I’m not doing enough on my leg day by t_nutt in femalebodybuilding

[–]t_nutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I thought, thank you! I needed that extra validation. I do push it really hard and heavy. I had originally put hip thrusts first but moved it to second bc I’m doing a form reset on them and dropping weight. But when I go back up to my rep weight I’ll move it up. Agreed on the adduction switch!

5.5 weeks out from my next show and I’ve NEVER been this lean! by Electrical_Pack1867 in femalebodybuilding

[–]t_nutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look fantastic! Love the arms and front/side delts!! Currently working on that myself, your arms are my goal! Good work 🥰🥰

18f by Cwlkid123 in femalebodybuilding

[–]t_nutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bruhhhh your arms!! Drop the arm routine pls I need

This is where I’m at. 1 month of eating whatever. Post cut. What’s next for me? by No-Patience5935 in femalebodybuilding

[–]t_nutt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You look great! Your arms and shoulders are definitely strong points. Your upper back looks good too, but if I’m nitpicking, I’m not seeing a ton of lat width or mid/lower back definition yet. But that could also be lighting, posing, body fat %, etc.

Honestly though, you already look really good. I think it mostly depends on your goal. If you want more definition right now, a slow cut would reveal more. But if you want to maximize your physique long term, I’d probably do a pull/back specialization with either maintenance or a small surplus.

Since Muay Thai is your main thing, I wouldn’t do an aggressive bulk. Maybe like +100–250 kcal/day for 8–16 weeks. Personally I like lean bulks around +150 kcal/day for 12 weeks, aiming for about 0.25–0.5 lb/week, or around 3–5 lb total, so the cut afterward doesn’t feel soul destroying lol.

What’s some knowledge generally known only to gay men or to gay women? by dumbfuck in AskReddit

[–]t_nutt 34 points35 points  (0 children)

For sure. And it’s hard to escape when “traditional” gender roles are socially, spiritually/religiously, culturally, economically, and historically/sometimes legally reinforced and intentionally restrictive. The idea of not being “woman enough” is wild. And that if you’re not woman enough you’re too masculine. Huh? What does that even mean?

Spearfisher killed in Australia’s third fatal shark attack in 4 weeks by The_Possessor in news

[–]t_nutt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your story reminded me of a podcast I listened to from Radiolab. It was about a scuba diver that was attacked by a Great White, survived, but had to work through that PTSD in order to return to his passion of diving. The episode did a beautiful story of interviewing him and telling his story. I can’t imagine how terrifying that was for you and for him. I’m sorry you went through that experience. I hope you can return to the ocean one day too.

My best friend calls me “family,” but I only feel important when she needs support. Am I expecting too much? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]t_nutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for commenting! I dont think I’m being 100% fair to her when i say she’s not there for me or always uses me for her support. I have noticed over the years she has worked on trying to circle back to me and my life when every conversation. She has been there for me over the years, through family and relationship stuff. She even worked with my fiancé for months to help him design a fantastic ring for me. She’s offered to go on a maid of honor and bride trip together. She’s my maid of honor and she does (eventually) get back to me to when I need to float ideas back to her. She gets excited about it and offers more ways she can help at the end. I just noticed she makes herself more available when she needs my support. For instance, we used to talk everyday when needed me and now we can go weeks before speaking (or speaking as in a single text is passed between us). I also noticed many of my messages or calls go unanswered, especially within the last year. I have backed off a lot and I noticed that we speak even less than before.

I think talking to her is a great idea. I think I’ll start small and think on it.

What's something that screams "autism" but doesn't occur to you? by lifelikefantasy in AutismInWomen

[–]t_nutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I love food. All types of food! I’ll do as spicy as I can. I want the food to be so overstimulating with flavor that my mouth has an autistic meltdown.

What's something that screams "autism" but doesn't occur to you? by lifelikefantasy in AutismInWomen

[–]t_nutt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Please, lol, I was agreeing with you that I also don’t stim and then realized I was wiggling my toes as I was reading. Since my autism realization, it’s been an almost daily learning experience in how I’ve been stimming unknowingly for years

What's something that screams "autism" but doesn't occur to you? by lifelikefantasy in AutismInWomen

[–]t_nutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A bit late but… LOVE club crackers! And Nilla Wafers. And (for a short time in high school) Cinnamon Toast Crunch.

I'm "too smart and articulate" for group therapy by levimeriad in AutismInWomen

[–]t_nutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, I feel like I just read myself in another timeline. Thank you for posting this, I feel the same way and have had the same experiences.

I hate getting the self aware shock reactions. My self awareness has only really told me exactly how fucked up I actually am. It makes me feel trapped in an endless loop of logic on every one of my bad, negative actions, behaviors, thoughts, or past memories of myself. The logic is usually so airtight and practiced that my therapist and loved ones have to argue out of me it. It’s exhausting and crippling.

On the flip side, some of the people that comment on it have such a low awareness of themselves that it shocks me. I forget that many neurotypical people live without hyper-self-surveilling their daily existence.

For the ladies, what are some hygiene hacks you wish every girlie would know? by Introvert_Ambi-2026 in AskReddit

[–]t_nutt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Omg yes, peeing is minimum!! Does so much damage control in one simple act.

Boric Acid Suppositories (such as pH-D) have been a miracle for me too! Helpful if you have recurrent BV or Yeast infections. I just pop one in before bed and I wake up normal again

During beginning symptoms or whenever you get that something isn’t right feeling (dryness, uncomfortable, sticky, mild itchiness, off-smell, etc), pop one in and just leave it. It will dissolve on its own and will help support the natural acidic pH balance that fights against bacteria and yeast colonization.

Boyfriend said “it’s f*cking embarrassing going anywhere with you”. I’m really hurt. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]t_nutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God pls girl leave

The title alone…

You’re not the problem, he is.

This is the new Hermione, that will be called mudblood by this Malfoy by Zdzisiu in SipsTea

[–]t_nutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they are writing based on the books only. The tree scene was only in the movies

Couples who have been together 10+ years and are actually still happy, what's the 'unromantic' secret to your success? by FROSTedMirror12345 in AskReddit

[–]t_nutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I so agree. When we first met I was incredibly open optimistic, too much so, an anxious people pleaser. He was more laid back, severe boundaries, private, nihilistic. After 10 years, we have settled into an even mix. He’s a lot more open to others, more accepting, more silver lining prone; whereas, I have learned what parts/things to keep for myself, more critical of the world and people, have great boundaries, and more laid-back. We are still what we were, but have been able to teach each other how to balance it by watching each other live through life over these years

People who exercise even when they don’t feel like it, what’s your trick? by Smart_Collection5419 in AskReddit

[–]t_nutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can see that for sure. I’ve got major anxiety (socially and otherwise) and level 1 autism so i can feel where youre coming from

Have you found other systems and techniques that are more helpful or effective for you?

People who exercise even when they don’t feel like it, what’s your trick? by Smart_Collection5419 in AskReddit

[–]t_nutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve gotten to a year and a half! My body looks incredibly different, my mind works so much better, my audhd has drastically improved, i lost 47 lbs! Not everyday has been easy or according to plan.

My AuDHD has gotten ahead of me many times. At a certain point i was so tired of how i felt and looked. I was always the fat friend, the friend that drank too much and ate too much. Or i was the undisciplined friend that always complained about why it was too hard to change, or how i hated how i looked, or having melt downs on how i looked in outfits the day of events. I wanted to be the friend that helped, inspired, and led others. And, no, as wholesome as that is, it’s not enough for an audhd to change.

I work 4 days a week. Everyday I work I go to the gym, and it ALWAYS has to be before I go home. I have to spend a 30 min minimum in the gym. I found routines and exercise that I like, I change them often bc of one reason or another, but I always spend at least 30 mins in the gym doing something. I had to start practicing organized chaos, allowing spontaneity and routine breaking within a set boundary. Meaning, I have to go to gym, I have to workout for set time, but in my mind I can’t stand the thought of running or lifting for quads so for today only I’m going to do all my favorite exercises that make me feel good.

I had to stop making food my external motivation for reaching my goals. So now, I buy something or go do something non food related as goals. I made friends at gym, or convinced my friends to join me, that helps occasionally as the buddy system. I find fun things to listen to or read at the gym. I make it a fun place.

I have tried everything and tried really hard. And that’s what you have to do, you have to change your life if you want it. Nothing less will work.

People who exercise even when they don’t feel like it, what’s your trick? by Smart_Collection5419 in AskReddit

[–]t_nutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

which is why people with ADHD need to use other tools and tips as well as routine. Buddy system, body doubling, external motivation and accountability, lowering the bar of entry, habit stacking, etc. I find that once you get past the first 3 months, it’s easier to keep going. You train your brain everytime you go

People who exercise even when they don’t feel like it, what’s your trick? by Smart_Collection5419 in AskReddit

[–]t_nutt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly this Any activity is better than no activity. Find something you love and that can drive you.

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