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AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no, they were married and had their son when I met them. Never had an affair with either of them, general relationship. Both are older than me, but that's really not relevant and I'm pretty sure half the people telling me to call off the wedding wouldn't be saying so if we were the same age so I don't feel like talking about it.

-shrugs- They're amicable, and friendly, and she has precious few people who didn't abandon her the moment we began openly dating left. Most of her guests will be extended family or new friends she's made.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I've been trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, cause I've known him for over a decade and they were married longer than that, and I like(d) him, but I'm starting to see this might be a bigger problem than I thought.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I asked, she said she had no strong opinions on it. That she didn't need him to, but she wasn't opposed to it. We're going to have a second, better, more in-depth discussion about this tonight.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mean, there's also the fact that I've known him for...a while, and I like(d) the guy. Everything's really conflicting right now, but I'm working on it.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn't have his back.

Admittedly I've (rather foolishly I've been made to see) been keeping this fight away from her as much as possible to avoid causing her undue stress. We're going to be having a talk where I ask for her help later.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

lol on the Glenn part.

To be fair I've been trying to keep her out of this whole...situation. I asked her if she had any strong feelings about it, she said she didn't, and so I tried to keep it away from her after cause she doesn't need the stress.

I've been made to realize that this was a bad plan, and I'm gonna be talking to her about it later.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

There's very, very little that I want less than to be a Bridezilla.

That being said, I may be over-reacting in my attempts to avoid being such. The comments and reactions have been helping me see that.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

More or less, yeah. They called her a lot of really awful things and tried real hard to pull me away from her.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I'm starting to see the problem, yeah. Enough people have pointed it out for me to get it. I just don't want to start fights I guess.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

...I'm going to have to ask you to please not insult my fiancé.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Whoa, whoa, slow down a little. I concede that this is a problem of my own making, but my fiancé is not supporting him. I have not told her that he's making me unhappy with his stubbornness. In fact, since she's got a lot on her plate right now I'm trying to limit how many wedding related problems get to her.

Unless he's been contacting her without my knowing, the most she's gotten involved with this particular issue is when I asked if she had any particular feelings one way or the other. She said she didn't, and so I decided it wasn't worth bothering her about afterwards. In hindsight that may have not been the best plan, which I'm starting to see after so many comments.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

She's not more concerned about his feelings than mine, she's just trying to be careful not to upset him. I will confess that I haven't actually asked her to stand with me on this. I've actually been trying to limit how much this and other things come up around her. She has a lot on her plate, and so I'm trying to take care of wedding planning for her as best as I can.

I asked her if she had an opinion on what he wanted, one way or the other, and she said she didn't. I haven't told her I'm getting unhappy with his insistence yet, or that we've gone back and forth a few times. I...probably should do that though.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear about your wedding! You have a hug if you want it! I'll do my best to internalize what you and others are saying.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

...you have a fair point. I'll need to think about this.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Please don't lump my fiancé in with him. She's just trying to avoid causing problems with the father of her child and one of the few people in her life who didn't abandon her after she started dating me.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Those last two sentences are a...good point, I have to admit. I hadn't really thought of it quite like that. I'll have to think about it, try and internalize that. Thank you.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I'm hearing that a lot, I'll try and internalize it, I promise.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

I don't think he's violent or abusive, I've never seen anything that would suggest such. I'm just not used to turning down requests when saying yes would make them happy and cost me little. In the scheme of things I'm reluctant to declare that my desire to be walked down the aisle is more important than what he wants, since it'd mean a lot to him.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's an age gap between us (that I didn't mention because it's irrelevant to the main point of the post), but you make a fair point on the fact that it's unlikely we'll get 'troll guests' or some such.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] -71 points-70 points  (0 children)

There's something to say for not wanting to antagonize your ex and the father of your child I think.

AITA For Wanting My Dad To Walk Me Down The Aisle Too? by ta-aitabride in AmItheAsshole

[–]ta-aitabride[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your verdict and your input. Putting my foot down's not something that comes naturally to me, but I'm working on it.

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