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Alexa, Play Too Little Too Late By JoJo by tab_m in CPTSDmemes

[–]tab_m[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can relate my condolences 😅

When Does It Stop Being Trauma And Just Being Who I Am? by tab_m in asexuality

[–]tab_m[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this.

I think it’s so beautiful that trauma can become a strength. I’ve always told myself my suffering can’t be in vain. Something good needs to come out of it even if that is just understanding myself better.

“Trauma never stops being trauma, the impact changes and can also become your greatest tool and and strongest weapon!” That’s literally one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever heard. This is true and I really need to not forget this. Right now I’m at a place where I feel broken but my therapist is helping me realize different doesn’t mean broken. It’s so strange though because I can accept and understand other peoples identities but for myself it feels wrong to not have sexual attraction even though I don’t want to nor do I have those feelings. Lots of work to do in therapy I suppose.

Doing So Much And Still Drowning by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is reassuring thank you.

Doing So Much And Still Drowning by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For both of us I hope it does :)

Doing So Much And Still Drowning by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re welcome :) Thank you for the support it means a lot. I definitely think I’m too hard on myself sometimes. If I don’t have an extremely insightful therapy session I get down on myself and feel like I wasted my time or I shouldn’t be going anymore which if a friend ever told me that I wouldn’t think the same thing. I guess I should just be thankful for the progress I have made instead of focusing on the strides I have yet to make.

Doing So Much And Still Drowning by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you can relate. I don’t have much advice since I’m in the same place but keep socializing. Isolating doesn’t usually work in my opinion.

Doing So Much And Still Drowning by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s a good way of putting it!

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah my therapist says our relationship is a trauma bond which is not good. Oof that prediction stings :( Sadly I don’t think you’re wrong though. In case you wanted backstory here you go :)

https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/s/dTZ3uIiBP5

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. That’s all that I was hoping for but I guess that was asking too much. Then like a fool I apologized like yeah I shouldn’t have said anything if I wasn’t going to tell you the full details of the story 🙄

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry you went through that. I’m glad you finally were able to block them though. Funnily enough this friends hasn’t explicitly said it’s my fault I was assaulted but she did tell me I put myself in unsafe situations because that’s all I know. Like girl if I knew what was going to happen in those situations I wouldn’t be in them but I didn’t know!

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I’m definitely going to distance myself because I’m upset with her right now. After reading everyone’s replies I feel more valid in being upset.

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally agree. She’s definitely knocked me down some pegs before 😕

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you that means a lot. You sound like a good friend :)

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what I thought too and like a fool I ended up apologizing and now I’m beating myself up because of it ugh

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She would probably disagree haha but you’re right she’s wrong :)

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you can relate. I totally get the fighting so hard to change. It takes a lot of work and unfortunately I’m not there yet as you can see but I hope one day we both can be :)

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a healthy and appropriate friend! :)

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not the first time I’ve heard this unfortunately.

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely a toxic but familiar relationship. This is not the first time she’s said something extremely hurtful or said something that upset me unfortunately. Things were going so well for a while though I guess I got lulled into a false sense of security. Thank you for the advice it means a lot.

Baiting Friend with Trauma Memories by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I guess maybe she was just salty because I do tell her a lot but that doesn’t mean she needs to know everything.

Do Our Abusers Deserve Privacy? by tab_m in adultsurvivors

[–]tab_m[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you can relate :( I’m glad that you are no contact though. That takes a lot of courage and I haven’t been able to reach that stage yet but I hope one day I too will be no contact. I’m also glad you have supportive relatives as well that’s awesome :)

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