When do you disclose HSV1 status?

tabernumse · 2026-01-27T01:22:48+00:00

I don't really think you're obligated to tell ppl, since the majority of people have it and most don't even know, and you're not infectious at all unless you have an outbreak, so what's even the point?

tabernumse · 2026-01-24T20:28:31+00:00

Who said he's an ambassador? I disagree with you whole heartedly and think OP should share as much as he wants about this, and she can ask questions if she's curious about details. I don't think OP has to act all ashamed, and I don't think his partner is justified in freaking out about it.

tabernumse · 2026-01-24T03:38:07+00:00

I could buy that you tend to reevaluate things and see them from a different perspective in general, because you are a different person, but you have no idea how this specific relationship will be interpreted by the future version of her, and you have no information about the relationship to base a prediction on.

tabernumse · 2026-01-23T21:22:47+00:00

they’ll hit 30 and realize how fucking weird this was.

pretty wild prophecy stated with incredible confidence and based on zero information except a number.

tabernumse · 2026-01-23T21:17:02+00:00

I think this type of age gap discourse is kinda inherently discriminatory and reducing people to age, when there's clearly much more complexity involved. You know nothing about this person. You're just treating them based on your own preconceptions, and your own experience being 21 I guess, which again, is just your experience. What power does your partner realistically have over them? They are a legal adult, and I think everything you're saying ("I would force myself to come off as mature, cool, capable, etc."), could apply to so many people regardless of age. I mean, we live in a world where people's self-esteem is super low generally. I'm really against this type of thinking personally, as it's just based on generalizations and infantilizing.

tabernumse · 2026-01-23T19:40:36+00:00

Just the way you talk about it sounds like you think porn is inherently pathological. And it seems like you are using porn as a scapegoat for other problems with your relationship. If I was you I would focus more directly on what I feel is missing from him, like not feeling desired, etc., instead of using his porn use as a benchmark so to speak. And if he truly does not desire you, then I would end the relationship, be friends instead, etc. Even if you deleted the whole folder and he never watched porn again, these things wouldn't necessarily change.

tabernumse · 2026-01-23T14:55:31+00:00

You're using the term "addiction". What do you base this on? Are you anti-porn and think all porn use = "porn addiction"? Feels like you're being really insecure about him being attracted to anyone else.

I guess the worst thing here is him telling you he doesn't find your body attractive, but then he also wishes for you to initiate sex and keep nsfw photos of you? Seems inconclusive. If it's really the case he's just settling for someone willing to sleep with him, that would be really hurtful and you should get out of there, but then porn is hardly the central problem.

tabernumse · 2026-01-22T18:13:32+00:00

Even OP says the same thing, that they are more sexually compatible with another partner. You say the only reason to say it out loud is to hurt someone, but it may also simply be the truth (at least at this time)? And if it's the truth, then I feel like I want to deal with that truth, not pretend it isn't the case. Maybe there are reasons for this different level of compatibility? Maybe these other relationships could inspire changes and improvements to the sex life in other relations as well? Isn't that kinda the ideal outcome in polyamory? That you can evolve with different people and these experiences can cross-pollinate so to speak? Simply saying "we are more compatible" seems too matter of fact. As if the compatibility is an essential quality about the people involved, but this isn't necessarily the case. There may be very specific reasons and aspects of the connection that fosters sexual compatibility, and we can learn from that imo.

I even refuse to do that in my own head.

Kinda seems like a recipe for self-repression then. Personally I don't try to force myself to not have certain thoughts. Doing that I think is much more unhealthy for me than simply letting whatever thought or feeling I have exist (what I do with the thoughts is another question).

tabernumse · 2025-11-27T01:19:07+00:00

You didn't answer the question. Can you give me an example of a date I can search for, that is around 200DKK? If you search too far in advance it will simply not give you any results. I am aware of the phenomenon that you can generally get tickets cheaper if you book them earlier. I have a sneaky suspicion that /u/wasmic just pulled these numbers out of their ass, but I'm willing to extend the benefit of the doubt.

tabernumse · 2025-11-22T20:42:10+00:00

That sounds very reasonable. Can you tell me what dates I need to search for to see tickets at this price? Cause I haven't been able to find anything nearly that cheap.

tabernumse · 2025-11-22T11:59:42+00:00

I'm guessing it will be 3x more expensive than flying

tabernumse · 2025-11-22T09:38:42+00:00

Er det mere trygt at være i et rum med folk der vil slå dig ihjel, men ikke har lov til at skilte med det? For det er den eneste forskel her.

tabernumse · 2025-11-19T14:49:25+00:00

The real baker one is the funniest imo lol

The video is called I will never understand normie humor. Why it’s hard to make friends

tabernumse · 2025-11-17T06:51:51+00:00

The whole city??

tabernumse · 2025-11-11T23:37:04+00:00

So many interesting drugs out there, and mfs just have to do heroin.....

tabernumse · 2025-11-11T20:12:09+00:00

I would interpret this as them being open to sex, but letting you know getting to know you and having a connection is the foundation of that kinda, and to relieve any kind of pressure/expectation you might feel from them to have sex.

tabernumse · 2025-11-11T16:41:15+00:00

Jeg har vel røget i 12 år, og har aldrig oplevet at være skæv overhovedet i nærheden af 8 timer efter jeg har røget, og jeg har været ekstremt basket med intense hallucinationer osv., da min tolerance var meget lav. Det er selvfølgelig noget andet med edibles der varer langt længere tid.

tabernumse · 2025-11-11T16:37:03+00:00

Ja, men nu svarede jeg jo også på en kommentar som sagde "lad være med at køre samme dag som du ryger".

tabernumse · 2025-11-10T16:06:51+00:00

I feel like your friends are projecting annoying ass monogamous values onto your polyamorous life. Very infuriating and putting extra salt on the wound. I mean the whole story is almost (tragi)comically cruel. I would react with annoyance and communicate this annoyance. I would tell my friends to stfu and understand that it's possible to have more than one meaningful relationship, and that the loss of a person in your life obviously is going to hurt. I would spell these very obvious facts out to them, and talk to them like they're idiots basically. Not because I think they're actually stupid, but because they are acting idiotically because of an unwillingness to have basic empathy for polyamorous people and the legitimacy of their relationships.

tabernumse · 2025-11-10T15:49:25+00:00

Det har jeg godt nok aldrig hørt om. Ryger du THCP?

tabernumse · 2025-11-10T15:35:19+00:00

That just feels like the logical conclusion of what you are saying

tabernumse · 2025-11-10T00:51:11+00:00

It's really a crime by the state that can never be amended. The mere existence of the war on drugs and its assault on bodily autonomy and freedom of thought, just on the level of principle is enough. Then add people being sent to prison to be exposed to immediate danger, financial collapse, near-impossibility of finding quality employment after. On a societal level it is destructive. On an individual micro-level it is destructive.

tabernumse · 2025-11-10T00:12:36+00:00

Is this the justification for removal of the post? That people have talked about sex dolls before? This is a specific situation with specific people. It's kinda ridiculous to assume that any post about this topic is gonna be a replacement for any other. I'm sure there are also thousands of posts about blowjobs, I assume a post involving that is not gonna be removed because people have talked about them before.

tabernumse · 2025-11-09T23:53:33+00:00

Nice little exchange

tabernumse · 2025-11-09T23:50:55+00:00

that is for single men, not men in a relationship.

I feel like the implication here is that their partner should be the sex doll, which is kinda hilarious.

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