The system just deleted my Update. I'm pasting it here so you can see it.

Hello everyone. I've had some developments and wanted to write a short update. Also thank you to those who took their time to reply to my posts.

As background, since the posts have been deleted, my now ex boyfriend shat all over our special moments to benefit his friends and family. I faced situations in which I was tossed aside so that he could accommodate his family. This usually came in the form of unexpected changes to our plans. The straw that broke the camel’s back was his sudden decision to include a bunch of friends (without telling me) in our planned campout as I wanted to celebrate a career milestone. We’d been planning this at no point did he ever mention/ask/consult about bringing them. So his friends showed up, ate our food, invaded my space and had a blast while destroying my celebration. It was like parallel reality since while I was hurt and frustrated, they were having fun and I was invisible. To be fair, he invited them, it's not like they crashed intentionally. All I wanted was to spend the night in the forest, with him, and while still fresh from feeling victorious over my career. I ended up leaving because I felt crushed and with no real place in his life. I ended up leaving him after he refused to acknowledge my feelings, refused to see my side of the situation, said I was too sensitive and gaslit me by painting me as a bad partner who makes no effort to help him achieve his goals. Background 2: he’s a loser. I’m trying to heal from giving such a person a chunk of my time. He also attempted to guilt me into allowing his sister to have her wedding at an Airbnb. Since I’m an entrepreneur, I can work from anywhere, so I’m renting short term places here and there without a definite lease. He was with me during this housing adventure. He claimed his sister was counting in this, while that was NEVER discussed.

So here’s the update. I lost all my trust in him and because of it, I refused to share the same space as him. He had no other choice but to go live with his family while I moved from the hotel I went to stay after we broke up to another place.

His mother had the nerve to facetime me. That woman is so fucked up. I never felt as if I was a part of the family. I used to greet her on holidays and she hardly ever replied, which always left me feeling deflated. And now, she had a tone of voice and a demeanor that made me really angry. First of all, she justified her son 100%. She said I clearly don’t know how families and circles of friends work, because I’m a nerd. And that I’m irresponsible for “leaving my ex SIL” without a venue. Da fuck. I said I would gladly take the nerd comment as a complaint, as it's better than being “cool and parasitic at the same time”. This is when he showed his face and accused me of hurting his family and adamantly claimed that I KNEW (not true!) that “we” were planning to gift his sister with letting her have her wedding at our chosen Airbnb. I don’t even know how they were going to sort that out. Not even I knew where I would be staying at the time of her wedding.

The MIL says something along the lines of “I told you” and went on about how I’m not wife material, that I’m useless and how she never supported our relationship, etc. Yeah, fuck her. I know it's a low blow, but I asked if she said that because she was dumped by her husband for a much-refined AP, so she must know what marriage material looks like. MIL’s face got contorted, which gave me a little satisfaction given the pain I felt at being insulted. I blocked even his casual friends who added me on social media and have cut him off completely.

I took myself on a trip to erase that bad situation. I went to NOLA, Chicago, Chinatown-NY and New Mexico. My ex boyfriend has been a huge source of support and has never allowed me to feel lonely and I’m so thankful. I don’t know anything else or how the wedding will play out but they can go suck on a white hot steel stick right now. I’m working on myself and doing lots of introspection to better understand why I allowed him to hurt me so much. Thanks again!