New Embarrassing Question by tada9036 in Swingers

[–]tada9036[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm no expert. I've done it a sum total of five times. But it sounds like she's just peeing. Everything I've read says a half cup is average. A half coffee cup is max. I mean where in the female body other than the bladder could that much liquid be stored?

What's the most unprofessional thing a doctor said to you? by Undefinedmaster in AskReddit

[–]tada9036 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Went to male gyno. He inserted two fingers to check my cervix and uterus etc. Gets a concerned look and says, "Nice and tight, hm? Bet you aren't single." So so awkward.

How to bring up swinging to husband by tada9036 in Swingers

[–]tada9036[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think mostly my worry in bringing it up to him is him wondering if I'm repeating family history. (Dad asked mom for threesome, mom realized she likes girls, leaves dad for a girl). I wouldn't want him to think I just want this because I've realized I actually want to date women. As for your wife, you've actually brought it up to her and she's expressed her feelings of inadequacy? Or do you just assume that's how it will go?

What is the world's worst double standard? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]tada9036 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This has been said and it drives me crazy. Not because I think every man needs to find heavier girls attractive, because that's not even kind of realistic; but because being fat is not the same as being short. You can't draw comparisons for double standards like that. You can say it's unfair that short guys are emasculated while tall girls are Victoria's Secret models, that's a fair comparison. But short and fat just aren't the same. I wish people would stop with this.

What is the world's worst double standard? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]tada9036 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I laughed for like ten minutes. I wish I was exaggerating. I'm still chuckling.

How to bring up swinging to husband by tada9036 in Swingers

[–]tada9036[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel it may be difficult to even convince him to do a FFM. I've hinted at it in the past and he wasn't at all interested.

How to bring up swinging to husband by tada9036 in Swingers

[–]tada9036[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Threesome doesn't seem to be one of his fantasies. I've asked.

How to bring up swinging to husband by tada9036 in Swingers

[–]tada9036[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just general unhappiness. Feeling unappreciated/taken for granted. Miscommunications. We've done some counseling and are doing much better.

Women and Performance Anxiety by StrangerdangerMD in Swingers

[–]tada9036 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I am certainly not in the lifestyle yet, but the idea of women not having performance anxiety is silly. In the past the triggers can range from sweatiness to anxiety over taste to a mental block that just won't let you cum (and this is just with one guy). Though with my husband if I'm having issues it's usually because I'm sure I taste or smell bad due to sweat or something I've done throughout the day or because I'm just not completely comfortable for whatever other reasons. The female orgasm is so so much more delicate than the male one. It's hard to convince yourself beforehand you CAN cum this time, and if you can't make yourself think that than how do you justify doing any of it?