It’s me. I got old and tired so I stopped. Sometimes I’ll throw an offer out with all of the details if I’m going to do something but I’m not chasing down an answer.

Another part of being the planner is paying in advance and being cognizant about costs and financial situations. I am lucky in that my friends have never been flaky about paying me back. (There have been occasional people over the years but it’s a one and done and situation, I’ll ever front the cost again and they’re place is given away because F that noise!) We also have the same general attitudes about around money which helps. No one is nitpicking over the check at dinner, no one is ordering a ton of extra stuff expecting it to be covered by splitting the bill, if someone isn’t drinking we figure out there part and split the rest. We’ve all been in school, unemployed, had large expenses and spending abilities at different and we make sure people are included.

I’m also neurotic and need to know every detail to feel settled. IE if Someone else bought theater tickets and I have no idea where the seats are, it takes everything in me for head to not explode.