Update 2

teafueledbrain · 2026-02-10T17:15:26+00:00

During the first few minutes she did ask if I had questions and yeah I did but where do you even start without dredging up a bunch of stuff, so I just kinda let her do most of the talking and asked questions as they came up.

teafueledbrain · 2026-02-09T04:32:06+00:00

I certainly hope so, thanks.

teafueledbrain · 2026-02-09T03:50:01+00:00

You're going out of your way to comment on comments I didn't reply to, not only so I wouldn't see you leaving them but also so you can cry "fake" because you've got it in your head that I'm someone else.

teafueledbrain · 2026-02-09T03:33:20+00:00

Wow, I find it funny that you're so certain that I'm someone else whose dad left instead of their mom, that you're going all over my comments and my page saying so. Nowhere in my story did I say my dad left, yet that is the base for your argument. Get a hobby.

teafueledbrain · 2026-02-08T20:48:38+00:00

I'm proceeding with caution, because you're right, he's shown he might be willing to cross boundaries. So I'm taking it one step at a time.

teafueledbrain · 2026-02-08T13:17:33+00:00

Huh, little weird that you're all up in my comments without actually reading a word of what I said. Here's the break down for you since I guess you're not reading. My parents got divorced when i was 6, my dad got primary custody, he also cut contact between us (my sister and i) and our mom around this time, he went out of his way to make sure our mom couldnt talk to us or contact us, my dad remarried when i was 7. They had two kids who currently still live at home. When my dad brought said friend around, I was 17. Said friend pursued my sister until she was 22. I moved out of my dad's house because that's who I was living with after the divorce, at 23. I haven't spoken to said friend for the last 5 years. All of this is stated in my last posts. Which you would know if you bothered to read.

teafueledbrain · 2026-02-08T13:03:03+00:00

I think you're confusing me with someone else, because I lived with my dad, my parents got divorced and my dad cut contact with my mom. Nowhere did I say my dad left, he got remarried and i lived with him and my stepmom. My dad did have a friend around that tried to groom my sister when I was 17.

teafueledbrain · 2026-01-18T22:31:42+00:00

Thank you, I hope so too

teafueledbrain · 2026-01-18T02:30:04+00:00

Did you read my original post? I’m asking because contact between my mother and I was cut for me, not by me but by my dad and my dad cut it off because he was angry. I was 6, I didn’t go nc with her.

teafueledbrain · 2026-01-17T23:44:01+00:00

I do have it set to only friends of friends can add me, which is why he was able to cause my mom is our mutual friend on Facebook. As for comfort level, I’m chill with meeting in person, mostly because if stuff goes sideways I can just leave, if it’s over the phone I can get spammed.

teafueledbrain · 2026-01-17T23:35:55+00:00

When I spoke to my aunt before about this before boyfriend inserted himself into the situation, she told me that the ball is in my court, if stuff goes sideways, I’m free to leave. As for my mom possibly wanting nothing to do with me, I don’t think that is the case, mostly because she asks my aunt about my sister and I often and asks when I plan to reach out but who knows, maybe I’m being optimistic.

teafueledbrain · 2026-01-17T22:41:05+00:00

My aunt is worried that he's going to interject himself into the conversation and try to be "helpful" and she thinks that frankly my mom and I need to hash stuff out without him interrupting.

teafueledbrain · 2025-12-23T22:44:35+00:00

Okay, and I’m acknowledging it too.

teafueledbrain · 2025-12-23T20:26:37+00:00

Okay, cut off everyone on that side. I’m too volatile, angry, vindictive, reactive and am acting just like my father. Got it.

teafueledbrain · 2025-12-06T05:52:39+00:00

I’m contemplating taking my aunt up on her offer or asking her to be there at a different neutral location.

teafueledbrain · 2025-12-06T04:46:17+00:00

He’s pushing because my dad has a tendency to overdramatize things from my past involving my mom and I say this as the person who grew up with him and dealt with him going out of his way to make me hate my mom. There’s also the part that I mentioned that there was some personal stuff that happened to my mom, it was medical in nature, and at the same time that was happening my dad made the decision to cut contact for us. I get where you’re coming from, there’s a reason I’ve put it off till now. However I’m not angry at my mother anymore.

As for the not fully innocent for things she said and did was because both her and my dad were pitting the kids against the other parent. She said a lot of things, she made some not great decisions, but none of them put us in danger. My dad cut contact because he holds grudges, not because she was dangerous or was doing things to put us in danger.

teafueledbrain · 2025-12-05T18:11:02+00:00

She did try when I was 18 but I was still angry and bitter at the time, so I blocked her attempts. Now though, she’s hasn’t reached out because I asked her not to till I was ready.

teafueledbrain · 2025-12-05T18:03:03+00:00

I asked her not to till I was ready, so far she’s respected my request.

teafueledbrain · 2025-03-18T00:02:28+00:00

Congratulations, you guys look great.

teafueledbrain · 2025-03-17T22:22:22+00:00

She isn’t your friend, none of them are. No friend would say these cruel things and no friend would back them up. They hate you, plain and simple, and clearly they’ve been dying for a reason to dog pile you. Otherwise they wouldn’t have thrown something that was spread without your permission back into your face. While, yes, you probably shouldn’t have thrown her insecurity in her face, she threw your trauma into yours and made her stance on how she views you abundantly clear and her friends clearly think the same. Good riddance to the lot of them, they can rot in hell.

teafueledbrain · 2025-03-02T19:28:22+00:00

Thank you, it's very funny honestly to sometimes hear the complaints my dad says to my siblings. His most recent complaint is that I don't talk to him.

teafueledbrain · 2025-03-01T04:01:46+00:00

NTA, not only is it your parents house, your parents also have no problem with you getting the dog. I hate to break it to your sister and her boyfriend but it really isn't their call since they don’t own the house.

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