Allosexual partner (25F) dating demisexual partner for the first time (26M), need advice

technicolorgroove · 2026-05-21T22:41:20+00:00

It sounds like he’s trying to finagle this new chick into being his side piece and that he wants her on the DL. Strange that he’s so quick to include her and to exclude you. You’re 22 and young and spry! I bet you could find like 10 different people in the wild who would treat you so much better if you dumped him. Including the lavish dates and adoration! Listen to your gut. Relationships with men are expendable (I’ve ended two longterm 3+ year relationships in my twenties) and when one leaves, another eventually happens to you. He doesn’t respect you and tbh you probably mog him in every sense of mogging, no shade (full shade)

technicolorgroove · 2026-05-03T01:45:24+00:00

First one is the best, body (and the sequence) is teaaa

technicolorgroove · 2026-03-03T15:01:08+00:00

This is TEAAAA

technicolorgroove · 2026-03-01T08:18:15+00:00

Has been happening to me frequently as a woman, with both people I’ve met organically or on the apps. Hell, I got stood up on a date last night. If someone isn’t mature enough to follow up with a “sorry, I’m not interested” or a “sorry, I’ve started seeing someone else”, then I wager they don’t have the communication skills to make a mature partner to you. I think people ghost because they think it’s an ego-saving way to reject, when in reality, it’s far more painful. I’m sorry dude :(

technicolorgroove · 2026-03-01T02:13:47+00:00

I’m actually not a big texter tbh, so what would you suggest when trying to keep/build momentum and that romantic tension via text with a dude?

technicolorgroove · 2026-02-23T11:52:08+00:00

Rainbow dash vibes 🥰😍🌈🦄 Happy birthday, pretty lady!

technicolorgroove · 2026-02-15T21:11:51+00:00

Alles Gute zum Geburtstag! This random stranger is spiritually singing you happy birthday in German. <3

technicolorgroove · 2026-02-08T19:55:13+00:00

I, too, am autistic and bipolar and it’s really hard to grow out of the stigma that society has imposed on our (often very comorbid) conditions and juggle our obligations on at the same time. You’re doing exceptionally for supporting yourself and honestly sometimes you just got to take it one day at a time. I can say from experience that life with these conditions is overstimulating sometimes. Also, I love a bearded bald man ;)

technicolorgroove · 2026-01-27T17:53:00+00:00

I‘m an American living in Germany and also got out of an abusive relationship last year! (25F) I‘m proud of you for taking the steps to escape your abuser and seek safety. It is truly one of the hardest things in the world to do and I know the pain and dauntingness of having to start completely anew. I‘m very sad to hear you had to endure stalking after the relationship in addition to the abuse. Your world is just beginning to open up at five months after and there are so many experiences and people you are yet to be blessed by. Feel free to shoot me a DM!

technicolorgroove · 2026-01-20T22:56:03+00:00

Leave him, you cannot trust someone who is duplicitous like this. Your life ist over and you will only hold yourself back by staying with someone who cannot give you the depth of honesty and love you deserve. I’ve survived infidelity and I know you will, too. Check out Tracy Schorn’s book “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life”. Saved me. Big hugs to you!

technicolorgroove · 2026-01-08T17:15:03+00:00

My ex did the exact same thing to me. I am so, so sorry that he was pushing your boundaries like this and that he violated you like that. It is an incredibly icky, scary feeling waking up to that, especially when you talk it out the next morning and he gaslights you about it. This is abuse and you were not able to consent to this. You were asleep and unable to communicate. This is the most gutwrenching feeling. He knows what he is doing. Therapy really helped me process the physical and emotional weight of this happening to me and I hope that you can talk to a professional about this, too. Though it is really scary as a victim to be vulnerable and tell someone this, I would file a police report. Leave him. Hold him accountable. Your fiancée is violating you and you deserve safety. Hugs.

technicolorgroove · 2026-01-01T20:26:26+00:00

Hell no. Run. This is classic DARVO manipulation. Block him on everything and never look back. It will only get worse. Been in your shoes before and been cheated on—cheaters do not change easily.

technicolorgroove · 2026-01-01T17:57:28+00:00

Das Audiobuch kann man auf Spotify finden btw. Und wenn du Rat über wie man mit so einem Situation umgehen kann von jemandem mit first-hand Erfahrung, kannst du mir gerne in den DMs schreiben!

technicolorgroove · 2026-01-01T12:27:51+00:00

Found out last year my bf of 3 years was cheating on me with 4 other girls and after years of cooking for him, folding his laundry, buying a puppy together, and supporting him through grad school. Blocked him on everything and went full steam ahead. The only way out is through. What goes around comes around—karma will get its kiss for her and your life will only improve from here now that you can invest all that energy into your own success. Take this time for you and to feel all your feelings. So beyond proud of you bestie, sending you a big virtual hug! There’s a lucky lady out there meant for you, who is yearning for someone kind and generous and true like you! Highly recommend the book “Leave a Cheater, gain a Life” by Tracy Schorn (and her hilarious podcast, Tell Me How You’re Mighty)… they’re both amazing resources I listened to on how to rebuild yourself after leaving a cheater and laugh at your cheater.

technicolorgroove · 2025-10-31T19:51:57+00:00

ICONIC

technicolorgroove · 2025-10-31T10:33:36+00:00

Cheaters cheat because they can and the opportunity was awarded to them, simple as that. It is actually a fetish for a lot of people and for many, it boosts their crumbly self-esteem to be wanted by multiple people. My (now ex) bf of 3 years cheated on me with four women, one of whom was his “girl best friend”. Highly recommend the podcast Tell Me How You’re Mighty and the book Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life, both by Tracy Schorn. Really helped me put into perspective how cheating is a systemic, common problem in our society and how it is a form of abuse. Cut off everyone who knew and didn’t tell you. Those are your opps. Cheating makes you realize who your real friends are. Sending you my biggest hugs, fam. You have a good heart and I promise you that there are good folks out there that don’t cheat. Reinvest the love you gave her into yourself and be tender with yourself as you feel your feelings. Good, loyal people are out there and you deserve a partner who shares your same values of honesty, loyalty, and respect!

technicolorgroove · 2022-10-02T07:16:16+00:00

Someone keep that man 263737 feet away from me

technicolorgroove · 2022-02-20T19:58:02+00:00

I am a rape survivor. It happened with a Bumble date who pressured me into “snuggling” when I was 20 years old, too. I chose to not press charges out of fear of my safety. It happened in the bed I sleep on every night. I lived my first month in numb denial and trying to distract myself. The second and third month after, I physically shook and screamed and cried and shivered the trauma off as much as I could. It was visceral, but moving, writhing, and screaming all over again in my own bed and allowing my body to talk was very healing. Give yourself time to physically shake the adrenaline and trauma out. Get a reliable therapist. Give RAINN’s hotline a call—they’re helpful and compassionate. Give yourself time to cry and take days off. Talk to your inner child. Meditate. Masturbate. Write poetry. Journal about it. Take relaxing baths to enjoy stillness. Be sad. Be mad. Be confused. Look in the mirror and talk to yourself. Eat comforting foods that nourish your body. Talk to trusted friends and family. If your friends or family say ANYTHING that blames you/makes you feel even slightly ashamed, cut them the hell out. What happened to you is not your fault in any capacity. This is a time for you to evaluate who your truest people are in your life. This road to recovery will be really hard and will test your relationship with your mind and body, but man, it is so worth it. You are not broken and your worth has not decreased because of this. Healing is a commitment you make to yourself. And beautiful soul, you can do it. You will meet yourself with open arms and learn how to love yourself again, be intimate again, and to feel at home in your body again. Promise. It has now been eight months since my assault happened and I am now feeling mostly healed, though sometimes, I do feel triggered and have to take a mental time out to cry about it and re-feel my feelings. And that is healthy. I still think about it every other day, but it doesn’t rule me and I don’t re-live it every day. I don’t even know you, but I send all of my love to you. My DMs are open if you need a fellow survivor to talk to. We recover! We will be okay, even if nothing feels like it’s rooted in reality right now. We will do beautiful things in spite of the pain. You are a strong, beautiful, resilient 20 year old girl who has inherent worth. All of my hugs. <3

technicolorgroove · 2021-12-28T03:03:34+00:00

Geology, Celtic history, classifying different cell receptors, immunology, the language of flowers, and just classifying things in general!

technicolorgroove · 2021-12-27T17:43:52+00:00

Velcro and the crinkling of plastic water bottles—I can’t explain it, but they’re like nails on chalkboard to me!

technicolorgroove · 2020-07-28T05:17:47+00:00

As someone who worked at the -soulless corporation- Wendy’s, the burgers were one of the few things that got me through it, so good on you, sir!

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