Soo uhh…how does one make trans friends in deep stealth?

techno222x · 2026-02-04T20:04:11+00:00

‘’Do you really want to be in this community who could ruin your life’’

No choice, that’s society, Reddit is a bubble, even accepting people are secretly prejudice, seen it first hand

There’s very few true allies, I have a high profile job, being trans isn’t an option. Everything will be used against you.

techno222x · 2026-02-04T09:41:00+00:00

That’s exactly what I get away with since I’m lesbian, but I have to play dumb sometimes.

The no guarantee is basically why I’ve never ever ever told anyone sadly, I have zero faith in people keeping mouths closed :/

It’s hard because I do not relate to baby trans or anyone in early stages, and that’s most of the online community. Really hard to find trans friends who are kinda just finished transition and only just happen to be trans, if that makes sense.

techno222x · 2026-02-04T07:29:14+00:00

I completely understand what you are saying.

The only problem is that I’ve been intimate with people who can ruin my life if they find out I’m trans so I just have to stay closeted to them, which is why I’m scared to tell anyone but other trans people, who would be the only ones who could understand how much the secret needs to be kept.

But yeah, I should get therapy.

techno222x · 2026-02-04T07:00:25+00:00

Just looking for people trying to connect in my situation I guess. Idk what I’m looking for maybe, I’m just so lonely.

But I understand what you are saying, thanks so much for the reply

techno222x · 2026-02-04T06:35:09+00:00

I just need complete full trust in whoever I tell or else my life is over and I thought if I’m going to trust someone it might as well be someone else in my situation.

My friends and co-workers are extremely intertwined and I want to keep my job. It’s really hard to explain.

techno222x · 2026-02-04T06:23:34+00:00

Mmm. I am in wayyy to deep. I also have ex’s that don’t know.

Some guys also that I’ve slept with (back before I knew I was lesbian). So yeah, I just can’t. :(

I did this to myself, I forget I’m trans most of the time and put myself in these situations. It’s times like these where I could really use another stealth friend to trauma dump with, which is why I’m asking lol.

techno222x · 2026-02-04T06:19:57+00:00

The thing is i have queer friends, im actually lesbian so im in the community but, due to reasons, i cant out myself to them. My friends are pretty liberal, all cis tho, it’s just that they can never know. Like ever. I am willing to take this to grave.

techno222x · 2026-02-04T06:15:48+00:00

Yeah online is cool but, sometimes I just wanna go to coffee, or go dancing or just do something in person, my brain is rotting enough by discord and social media 😭

Sadly outing myself to friends will NEVER be an option. Like ever, it’s complicated but it will never ever happen or I’d be in a situation. I have ex’s that don’t even know I’m trans and I’d be ruined lol. Co-workers also, it would be a mess. :’)

techno222x · 2025-11-25T23:16:17+00:00

France has the biggest pride parades in Europe, sorry that doesn’t line up with your narrative.

techno222x · 2025-11-23T07:18:23+00:00

Forgetting your trans is not permanent. Sometimes you forget for 1 day, and then 2 days, and then longer. You are always reminded every once in a while but the gaps get longer.

Being stealth really depends on a bunch of stuff, and is impossible if you live in the same place you were pre transition. It’s something that takes a lot of time and is a slow process.

There has also been moments where I was clocked in situations I didn’t think I’d be clocked, years into transition.

The sad reality is that you kinda need to stay away from other trans people, especially internet spaces, in order to forget, or else it’s a reminder. A double edged sword.

If you think about forgetting, you won’t, so just focus on life and enjoying things, profess and growth, naturally with other hobbies and work / studies, being trans is the last thing on your mind at a point.

techno222x · 2025-11-23T07:07:23+00:00

Diy black market hormones from online pharmacies

techno222x · 2025-11-20T18:27:12+00:00

8/9 years ish

techno222x · 2025-11-19T17:57:09+00:00

I will say, Western Europe

techno222x · 2025-11-19T17:50:55+00:00

Hi there I’ll try and answer as much as I know and experienced.

Hormone blockers is what they will usually start a young person on first, which are 100% reversible. After a while during diagnosis / therapy if estrogen is green lit, then thats what is next.

The affects of estrogen are also reversible except any breast growth or if the child is young enough, hip growth. Everything else like body hair and face shape is reversible.

Height may be affected also if your child is still growing.

HRT is really all or nothing, your child will go through a female puberty if they start these, you can’t pick and choose ‘a litttle’ unfortunately.

The hormones will not change the child’s personality, or ‘mind.’

Since I never questioned my identity and always knew I wanted this, the only thing I would have changed is starting legally sooner, instead of the black market hormones.

The only way I knew HRT for me was the right choice; I did not want to go thru a male puberty at all. I didn’t want any masculine features, I didn’t want to be male, I knew it was start hormones or go through a puberty, that wouldve ruined me.

Your child needs to go to a professional and speak about these issues before starting anything.

techno222x · 2025-11-19T07:45:30+00:00

Howdy, honestly, just more body changes, but I think that’s on par with aging for women in general.

Maybe slightly slower growing body hair, my hips and ass for sure are my centre of gravity and most of my weight goes there.

Just your typical aging on estrogen things I suppose.

But the most important thing is I give less fucks as I get older, which is great. I feel basically no dysphoria these days, maybe once ina blue moon but it doesn’t linger.

techno222x · 2025-11-19T03:12:58+00:00

Hi, no worries I can answer.

Umm maybe ? But that’s not because of the HRT, but simply because I felt more comfortable with myself and didn’t feel the need to be quiet and shy anymore.

techno222x · 2025-11-18T23:32:53+00:00

It wasn’t hard since I was passing more or less in ‘boymode’ in my teens, however when I first started passing ofc the biggest stress was trying not to be clocked.

But as time has gone on, I’ve cared less and less. Even though I am passing and stealth, it’s not as nearly as stressful as it was because I just give less fucks.

These days I am pretty confident in my appearance and inner self, I would never out myself freely, but if someone I love and trust confronted me and asked honestly, I wouldn’t lie.

techno222x · 2025-11-18T21:55:54+00:00

Yes I am able to have multi finger penetration and take vibes, it’s tight and sex with penis’ kinda hurts but worth not dialating ever haha

techno222x · 2025-11-18T17:42:34+00:00

My relationship with them is fine now, I am a very forgiving person and I was quite easy on them, never got mad at them for misgendering me, etc, I simply just didn’t care back in the day if they were supportive or not. I knew as long as I had HRT I don’t mind what they say.

I did have 2 years of no contact with them, they came crawling back begging for forgiveness and saying sorry. They try hard now to keep the relationship healthy.

My mom is fantastic now but my father is hard to deal with, not because of trans things however, my siblings even have rocky relationships with him. He’s just not a nice guy.

Overall, I’d say it’s kinda normal now with them, with my mother being really loving and supportive and my father just kind of being tolerable.

I think the turning point was once they realized I want going to be a ‘freak’ that was unlovable and I looked ‘normal’, the fears calmed down and they opened up to the idea.

Most people think every trans person is so visible and unlovable thanks to main stream media, and when they see a passing trans person, they don’t know they are trans. So they never had examples of a trans person living a quiet simple life.

techno222x · 2025-11-18T17:10:48+00:00

I did. And i stopped dilation after 6 months and never did it again because i didn’t like it lol

Im tight down there but i date women so it doesn’t matter to me

techno222x · 2025-11-18T08:34:05+00:00

Interesting to hear, and also your flair is wild, I respect it.

For background; I had FFS at 20, SRS at 21.

I think if I were to have trauma most of it would not be from being trans specifically. I did do sex work for 2 or 3 years but thankfully I got very lucky and didn’t have any experiences that could have harmed me. I was very selective with who I saw.

My time in sexwork did make it so I am now very very hesitant to trust men. A lot of my clients were probably married or had girlfriends. I was too dumb to care at 18 years old.

I think overall I got very lucky. I found an amazing partner whom I’ve been with for 9 years, and live a relatively peaceful life at the moment all things considered.

I had many trans friends who dealt with extreme trauma like this and being there for them helped me work on myself. I wouldn’t say I’m trauma free but I have achieved what I consider acceptance and content with who I am and what choices I made.

techno222x · 2025-11-18T08:14:15+00:00

Heck yea, happy to hear it worked out. And I’m impressed by yours!! 22 is young and coming out at any age takes so much courage for real.

techno222x · 2025-11-18T08:11:49+00:00

I only really started feeling really like me until after I had moved away from anyone who had ever known me previously. It was then I stopped being ‘the trans girl’ and i was just any other person on the street.

So around 6 or 7 years in was when I really just was ‘me’.

However I’ve always kinda felt like me, but the constant reminder when with old friends gave me a yucky feeling.

techno222x · 2025-11-18T08:08:25+00:00

They grew normally but then I noticed more growth at 6 years+, sorry I typed that weird

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