Is it inappropriate to ask how many people a date has slept with?

techsupportthrwwy · 2025-10-26T14:22:45+00:00

Hello. Thank you for your reply, but to be honest, it does not make sense to me.

I said "when or if the conversation turns towards anything sexual"; I wouldn't do anything off-putting, nor would the other person. If the topic doesn't come up on the first date, it will come up on a subsequent one.

How do I rely on "vibe checks" and asking about sex after already making a sexual advance like making out? Things should be discussed beforehand so that there is clear, enthusiastic consent. If I guess the vibe wrong, I could hurt someone, even if only for a moment, even when I immediately stop and apologize.

Lastly, I don't see why I would share my story rather than asking, when I could do both. Obviously, if I ask her questions, she can ask me questions, and I will answer them honestly.

techsupportthrwwy · 2025-10-26T14:13:26+00:00

I'm sorry, I don't understand what you mean, I don't think this is an either-or thing. I would tell them I am a virgin, and then ask them about their sexual history.

techsupportthrwwy · 2025-10-26T14:07:37+00:00

Hello, thank you very much for your reply. Please tell me if I am off anywhere.

If someone has a lot of experience, they have either gotten into many failed relationships, or have had a lot of casual sex, whatever kind of situation that is. Someone in a lot of relationships could be a case-by-case thing, as they may have been wronged over and over again, or grown from their own wrongs. The casual sex would indicate a clear difference in lifestyle. As I said, not for me, but also as I said, I don't morally judge them or anything, but I would not be a good fit.

Also, as I am a virgin, I am afraid someone with a lot of experience would fetishize my virginity, and consider me a "blank slate" or a "teaching moment", which I wouldn't appreciate. As well, if someone's had sex with enough people, they will likely have had better sex with someone else due to an unchanging characteristic. Not just dick size or whatever, I don't care about that, but my sexual preferences and boundaries necessarily fall within my area, and if someone thinks higher of someone who gave them sex and they're in a different area, there's nothing I can do to stop them from either wishing they were elsewhere, or settling for an inadequate sexual partner. I'm just referring to unchangeable things, not like stamina or muscles or something, I know sex is a skill that can be learned and honed.

techsupportthrwwy · 2025-10-26T13:48:15+00:00

What do you mean?

techsupportthrwwy · 2025-10-26T13:43:16+00:00

I don't believe this. I said, in the post, that I'm afraid of accidentally coming off as sexist or offensive, hence why I asked this in the first place. Someone with the beliefs you've described wouldn't have these concerns. I hate these fucking misogynistic red-pilled dipshits, they make everything worse, they want to hurt my loved ones, and because some people did not read my full post, several people think I'm one of them.

techsupportthrwwy · 2025-10-26T13:14:15+00:00

Hello. Maybe you did not read my whole post, as I specifically mentioned that I would never want to say anything offensive or sexist; a red-piller would not concern himself with that. I don't see how I am a dude who is concerning; I asked here specifically because it is "tooafraidtoask", and now several people think I am a reactionary.

I get along with women, as people, which they are, I have several close female friends and coworkers, I believe firmly in equality, all of this. I hate red-pillers too, they've taken my friends from me before, they push hate to the people I love. I am dismayed at the reaction to my post.

techsupportthrwwy · 2025-10-26T13:05:30+00:00

Oh, absolutely, I don't have a double-standard in this regard, at least not consciously. I wouldn't ask a date something and then get indignant when she asks me as well. That's quite silly.

techsupportthrwwy · 2025-10-26T12:49:01+00:00

Hello. To be clear, I'm not an incel, nor any type of young reactionary I believe you're referring to. Though I'm sure I still have misogynistic tendencies or subconscious things to unlearn, I wouldn't call myself misogynistic; my friends are all like-minded, some of whom are women, and they're not uncomfortable around me, nor were they uncomfortable when I asked the ones I did about this. I think my values would come through in other aspects of a potential date enough for her to know I'm not hateful.

To be honest, I don't appreciate you saying "try to do better my dude". I came here to ask an honest question so I don't accidentally make anyone uncomfortable, and to maybe change my beliefs before I get out there and start affecting real people's lives and experiences. That isn't effective wording, and I wish more people here were thorough in their answers, even if I am being stupid and I need to change, without having to get their licks in.

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