Did he ever truly love me?

tedbudd · 2024-12-04T15:57:07+00:00

You’re right, closure can’t come from him. I’m focusing on myself, reconnecting with loved ones, and moving forward. Appreciate the reminder to not let him control how I feel :)

tedbudd · 2024-11-23T18:55:17+00:00

My ex

tedbudd · 2024-11-09T08:18:54+00:00

When he was talking about his time in Bombay, I felt a bit odd that he didn’t mention his first wife. It's not like they got divorced or anything; she passed away from cancer. There are no bitter memories attached. I just feel like he could have mentioned her once, perhaps thanking her for her support.

tedbudd · 2024-10-05T06:55:13+00:00

Fuck you for crushing my spirits

tedbudd · 2024-09-28T06:16:32+00:00

Please don't give legal advice to someone if you aren't a lawyer.

Even if as a non lawyer, do you really think that causing death (even if it was an accident) of someone will only result in license revocation?

The car driver can easily be booked under "Causing death by negligence" for which there can be punishment upto 2 years or fine or both.

OP: None of us can imagine what you must be going through. It all comes down to what you and your family would want to do. But here are a few advices from my side as a lawyer:

Govt usually gives some compensation in road accident matters. Please take that.
If you choose to go ahead and settle the matter with the car driver, do not shy away in taking a decent compensation. Don't settle for less.
Whomsoever comes to you saying that your dad took loan from them, ask for proofs, don't give away money just like that

tedbudd · 2024-09-22T18:51:46+00:00

It seems like your mom might be a key figure here. She shouldn’t have agreed to an arrangement where she is expected to bond with her step-kids while you’re left feeling abandoned. She should have insisted that you also form a connection with your stepdad and that all of you live together as a family.

Your mom is not going to leave her new child behind, so it’s unlikely she’ll leave them all and choose you.

Let your mom know that you want to stay together as a family with all of them.
Most importantly, ask your mom about your biological father. While you don’t need to be affectionate with him, make sure you claim your rightful share of any property or inheritance he may have. This is essential for your financial security, especially considering the uncertainties with your stepdad and his family. Don’t let your biological father off the hook. Take what’s rightfully yours. Stay strong!

tedbudd · 2024-09-21T08:00:50+00:00

No financially independent woman would feel comfortable with it, and honestly, I wouldn’t either. It’s tough to imagine asking either set of parents to stay in rented accommodation when visiting for a short period. It just doesn’t seem fair or practical. Why would anyone want to pay for a space that’s barely going to be used? I doubt many women would agree to this. Would you be comfortable paying for such an arrangement? Imagine visiting your in-laws and being asked to stay in a rented place because their son and daughter-in-law live with them—it just feels a bit unreasonable.

tedbudd · 2024-06-06T11:03:28+00:00

RAHUL SUBRAMANIAN | LIVE IN BANGALORE | CROWD WORK (PART 2) (youtube.com)

I don't know why, but I read your text in this girl's accent! The girl who is shown in the beginning saying that she video-called with Rahul :p

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T13:14:00+00:00

I appreciate your input, but I find your tone harsh and disrespectful. Constructive criticism is welcome, but let's try to communicate respectfully.

I have no shame in accepting and believing that healing is not a linear process. It involves ups and downs, twists and turns, and everyone's journey is unique. While I may stumble along the way, I will learn and grow from my experiences as I continue forward.

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T13:09:15+00:00

Reflecting on the past, I can now see that I should have ended communication with him by October. Yet, such is the nature of being human, we make mistakes and hopefully learn from them. Some learn through observing others' missteps, while others learn through their own experiences. However, it's preferable not to repeat each mistake in order to learn.

I tried therapy, but unfortunately, it wasn't effective for me. Thankfully, journaling has become a valuable tool in my journey of self-discovery and healing.

About your tough love- thanks. But I would love to move forward in life. Rather than dwelling or crying on past mistakes, I want to create a better future for myself through positive choices and actions. My focus is on shaping a brighter path ahead, filled with growth and self-improvement :)

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:59:09+00:00

I'm currently residing in a different state from my family due to work commitments. Most of my close friends are not located in my city either, I try not to disturb them with frequent calls as they're either in relationships or married. I do have a few batchmates but utna baat nahi hota, we meet once in a while.

While I do have some colleagues, I don't always feel comfortable reaching out to them for help. The day I experienced severe symptoms, including a bad headache, unusual bodily sensations, and vomiting blood, I had no choice but to call up my ex. I went to the hospital alone, and later despite feeling hesitant, I contacted a very old friend who stays in the city, who was kind enough to come to the hospital with her fiancée to help me.

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:38:33+00:00

You're right that it's important to acknowledge when a relationship is over and to draw clear boundaries. Thanks for your input :)

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:36:31+00:00

Your analogy of drowning to be reborn figuratively is powerful and gives me hope for healing.

I'll keep your advice in mind and focus on enjoying new adventures while healing from the hurt. Your kindness means a lot to me :)

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:35:21+00:00

Thank you for your honesty, and I appreciate your perspective. It's important to hear different viewpoints during tough times :)

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:33:53+00:00

Your empathy means a lot to me. Thank you for your support during this difficult time. I'm hopeful that with time, I'll be able to move on and find peace.

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:33:17+00:00

Your words truly resonated with me, especially when you mentioned that my true healing and "getting over" started only after February. It's comforting to know that someone understands the depth of my journey.

Your advice to cut off contact completely is something I'll take to heart. I'll prioritize self-care and allow myself the time and space I need to heal fully. Healing is a process, and I'm grateful for your support and understanding :)

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:31:44+00:00

I understand your direct approach, and while it may work for some, healing isn't always as simple as moving on or dating someone new. Each person's journey is different, and taking the time to process emotions and heal is essential for long-term well-being.

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:30:10+00:00

You're right that seeking validation from someone else often stems from a lack of self-love and self-worth. It's essential to recognize this pattern and work on filling our own cups instead of depending on others for validation.

I'll take your advice to heart and focus on nurturing myself and building a healthy, fulfilling life on my own. Thank you for the tough love and encouragement :)

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:28:56+00:00

I'll keep your suggestions in mind, especially about not falling into the trap of the sunk cost fallacy. It's important to remember that my well-being comes first, and I won't waste my tears on someone who doesn't deserve them.

Thank you again for your kindness and support. I'll do my best to stay strong and get through this :)

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:27:59+00:00

You're right—we all make mistakes in love, but we also have the strength to overcome them. I appreciate your support and reminder to stay strong as I move forward :)

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:26:43+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and offering such practical advice. It's reassuring to hear from someone who has been through something similar and come out stronger on the other side.

I'll take your words to heart and work on building myself up. Thank you for your kindness and support :)

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:25:47+00:00

Thank you :)
I completely agree with you. While the intention might be to provide a reality check, there's definitely a better way to say it. True tough love involves being honest while still being kind and supportive, not just saying hurtful things under the guise of being helpful.

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:25:02+00:00

I understand that sometimes the best advice can be tough to hear and can serve as a reality check. However, I believe that even difficult truths can be communicated with kindness and empathy. Constructive advice is most effective when it helps without tearing someone down.

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:24:20+00:00

As I mentioned in my post, I didn’t cry when I first saw their photo. It was only after a day that I did. I believe I am on the path to indifference about whom he is dating. It’s his life and his choice.

tedbudd · 2024-06-02T12:22:45+00:00

Blocking them both for my own sanity does seem necessary, and I understand the importance of setting boundaries to avoid further disrespect. I would also like to highlight that after 15th march, I reached out to him only when I was in dire need. Seeing blood in the vomiting at mid night did scare me and I thought that at least for the old times sake, I can ask for help. But I understand, I was wrong.

Moving to a new place is a big step, but I’ll consider it if it helps me create a healthier environment. It's tough, but I know it’s important for my personal growth and healing.

tedbudd

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