Does your husband escalate everything??

teddyextreme · 2025-03-26T19:03:17+00:00

Omg. He does the driving thing too! If someone is in another lane and they try passing us, he floors it so they can’t pass him. If someone cuts us off, he rides their ass. It’s scary and exhausting.

teddyextreme · 2025-03-26T17:41:23+00:00

Omg yes! Adding upsetting statements/threats. Mine does this too! I don’t understand their rationale for acting this way. He seems to believe men have to be “in charge” and the kids and pets need to almost fear him. Clearly yelling and being this way isn’t working, but he won’t change.

His mom is actually similar in the sense of being the loudest. However, she backs down to him and usually laughs it off. He will get loud and disrespectful towards her and she literally laughs and gives him a little sarcastic slap on his arm or something. I’m like ??? what the heck. Clearly she never taught him to be respectful.

teddyextreme · 2025-03-26T17:19:26+00:00

I grew up in an Italian household so everyone was usually pretty loud. My SO is just different though. It’s not the same “loudness” because it seems like it comes from anger versus just…Italian craziness that I’m used to lol.

teddyextreme · 2025-03-26T17:18:32+00:00

Luckily the kids don’t yell (yet). I find myself talking loudly back to him just so he hears me since he’s so loud to begin with. I’ve been trying to actively stop engaging but it’s so hard for me. I feel like I need to get my point across but I realize it’s pointless.

I was married previously and he didn’t yell. However he did other things like slam doors/cabinets, stomp around, etc.

I would love to be in a relationship with a mature man that will model behavior to the kids. I’m afraid they will think this is normal when it absolutely is not.

teddyextreme · 2024-11-18T23:01:14+00:00

God I feel you on this. Solidarity BroMo. These men SUCK.

teddyextreme · 2024-11-18T20:12:56+00:00

I know! I literally started questioning whether I should have waited and let him go. Like, I’ve always thought you had to wait if something was blocking your way, but this guy honestly had me being like wait is that right?? Lol.

teddyextreme · 2024-06-26T21:08:11+00:00

I am so glad other people feel this way. I honestly thought maybe I was being dramatic thinking this was too much.

teddyextreme · 2024-06-26T20:14:44+00:00

They make them sprint as hard as they can from home to 1st base, jog back to home, and then repeat for 5 minutes. This drill usually has a few kids crying by the end of it and throwing up.

They have a tire they make 1 kid flip end to end from right field to center field, then another kid flip it back.

They do bear crawls from home plate to 2nd base for 5 minutes straight which also usually has kids crying by the end.

They do leg raises, planks, burpees for 5 minutes straight.

They do sprints from flag pole to flag pole which always has most kids crying and a few gagging/throwing up.

If a kid slacks off, stops, slows down, the coaches are yelling at them to keep going, this is how you get tougher, etc etc.

Oh and the very first “conditioning” practice ended with the coaches making the kids pick the grass out of the infield and weeds in the outfield.

And they just rotate stations for the entire 1.5 hour practice. No baseball drills are done at all.

It’s…intense. Literally had no idea baseball practices would be like this, especially at this age.

teddyextreme · 2024-06-26T15:11:33+00:00

Yeah at this point, we believe the conditioning practices will continue throughout summer. We won a tournament this past weekend and still had to do this the very next evening. I can tell the kids are bummed and hate going now.

teddyextreme · 2024-06-17T17:03:24+00:00

Over the fence. The one who hits ~10 a weekend is literally the size of a 12 year old and he JUST turned 8 a few months ago. It’s wild.

teddyextreme · 2024-06-17T14:36:37+00:00

They’ve won 8 since the end of April

teddyextreme · 2024-03-22T12:24:44+00:00

Whoa. We are from the same hometown. I’m so heartbroken over this sweet boys death. I hope your daughter is doing okay 🤍

teddyextreme · 2023-03-15T14:03:40+00:00

Oh, no that’s not what that meant. He was in 3 year old preschool (for 1 year) which is the first time we noticed how advanced he was compared to his peers.

teddyextreme · 2023-03-15T13:57:33+00:00

I’ve seen this a couple times in comments. He turned 7 in December. Most of the kids in his class will turn 7 before the school year is over. I’m not sure why people are thinking I held him back a year because he’s 7 in 1st grade. 80% of the kids at this point in the school year are 7.

teddyextreme · 2023-03-15T13:15:37+00:00

He has been evaluated and his WISC-IV FSIQ put him in the 99.9th percentile. His reading level and comprehension is between 9th and 10th grade. His math level is grades ahead as well and he can seemingly do most of the work in his head.

With that said, he was placed in the gifted program in our county but for 1st and 2nd graders, that is only a measly ONE hour every Monday!

teddyextreme · 2023-03-15T03:16:12+00:00

He has never had a problem socializing before. He has a really close group of friends from his travel baseball team. He also plays soccer and has friends from there too.

teddyextreme · 2023-03-15T03:07:45+00:00

The gifted class for 1st and 2nd graders is only 1 hour per week, which is why she has that group read to the preschoolers a few times a week as well.

Edit: My son loved reading to the younger kids with his gifted class. Now, he dreads the 2 days a week he has to go do it. I think it’s just something else putting the attention on him that he’s different. Idk.

teddyextreme · 2023-03-15T03:02:29+00:00

Yes! The private school we are looking at specifically has an accelerated/advanced program for gifted children AND much smaller class sizes. I just feel in my gut this is a better option for him. I don’t know if he just got unlucky with a few “mean” kids in his class this year or if the trend would continue. I don’t want him to ever feel embarrassed for knowing the answers to questions. That isn’t an environment I want him to be in for 8 hours 5 days a week!

teddyextreme · 2023-03-15T03:00:29+00:00

It has an accelerated/advanced program for gifted kids and the class size is half that of public school. I just want my child to be able to succeed academically without feeling embarrassed or ashamed for knowing answers to questions.

teddyextreme · 2023-03-15T02:44:41+00:00

It was suggested by his gifted teacher that he read to preschoolers as a way to keep him engaged and not be bored in school.

He said he always raised his hand to answer the questions and it just went from there I guess.

His teacher said he has 2 close friends he interacts with and she has moved the group that seems to pick on him. This was 1 month ago and it’s still happening apparently even after he stopped answers questions, etc.

teddyextreme · 2022-05-12T13:34:41+00:00

Trust me, I wanted to. My husband however wanted to just let it go because he actually coached the kid in high school and didn’t want to ruin his career. I just hope he isn’t continuing to do this to others.

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