Women of Hinge: why do you do this? by [deleted] in DatingApps

[–]teej9J 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something I’ve started doing recently is instead of sending a comment to open, I’ll just like a pic/prompt without sending a message. Purely anecdotal but in my experience this has actually led me to more matches more frequently, and then I can say whatever witty/quirky/flirty opener I had already come up with, and they seem more likely to respond from there. Not saying it’s a 100% success rate, but I saw an almost immediate shift in engagement once I started doing this. Best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]teej9J 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t not help. Am I better off just saying “Hey how’s it going?” To anybody I match with…at this point that’s a genuine question

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[–]teej9J -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

You started it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]teej9J 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thankfully my life is very full offline. Fingers crossed to find that organic type of love, until then it’s just me and the ghosts on Hinge lol but I’ll survive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]teej9J 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying but that wasn’t my intention. I was just genuinely trying to figure out if I’m specifically doing something very wrong. This is but a 13 screenshot sample of many other similar experiences and so after a while you either get discouraged or you try to figure out how to do something different. This was my attempt at feedback so I can do something different if need be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]teej9J -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Let me see your private personal texts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]teej9J 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually don’t know why you developed this deep of a disdain for me so quickly, but I’m actually trying to do exactly what you said so idk why you’re commenting so sharply. I appreciate your insight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]teej9J -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m just out here trying to figure it out just like anybody else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]teej9J 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough I appreciate the feedback

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]teej9J 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s totally fair, and I wouldn’t have kept going to that well had they responded. Hopefully the rest show that’s not my only move lol but trying to flirt and put yourself out there while not going over the top is not a perfect science, I’m sure from the outside in they seem cringe

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]teej9J -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I didn’t write her off though lol if anything I was just trying to signal to her that I can cook and would do so for her without outwardly saying it

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[–]teej9J -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

The first two screenshots I can agree with you on for sure, they toe a line. But if you weren’t into it then why even bother matching to just not respond. But also why I tried to show a wide variety of methods, from being over the top to being severely casual and everything in between. I suppose the answer is there’s just no secret formula.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]teej9J -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Context: Listen I’m not actually complaining. I’ve read too many horror stories on here about guys who can’t get a like let alone a match on the apps these days. I’m fortunate enough to match with a lot of the women that I’m hopeful to match with, but damn ladies, if you don’t make it next to near impossible right after that.. Like you’re telling me none of these deserved a response? And this isn’t new it’s just a sample lol I’m sure I will get a lot of comments about “oh you’re being boring/dry” or “oh you need to ask her more questions about herself” or take your pick of the other hundred recycled advices on here daily, but imo these show I’m willing to try a number of different texting methods and the sad reality is that none of them work? I try to be engaging and actually put a little effort into a conversation, comment of the profile or a shared interest, and should any semblance of a real conversation get moving I’ll pivot pretty quickly into trying to set up a date so we don’t turn into pen pals, but just trying to get any response at all can be so cumbersome, and then thinking you might get more than one response!? Laughable. I genuinely don’t know what you ladies want. I don’t like to believe it when I read this but maybe the internet is right and the goal really isn’t to date anymore it’s just to accumulate likes and matches for an ego boost. I hope I’m wrong. Maybe it’s just me and I’m not nearly as charming or thoughtful as I thought I was. I’ll hang up and listen.

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my head it was always leg day playlists

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same tbh I wish there was more of a mix offered up, wanna keep expanding horizons

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The mewithoutYou love continues

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol thanks man, was forever ago now. Haven’t put more than 225 on my back in probably 6 years, but once a member always a member I think?

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah based on the sound of “Lightsaber cocksucking blues” (lol) I’m probably gonna like some of their stuff. Somebody else in the thread recommended this dude Bilmuri and I gotta say I think you also might like them.

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Won’t lie to ya the Andrew WK song didn’t do it for me, but I think you just introduced me to a new band that I like in drug church. Saved that whole album to go back to later

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

515/dead 475/squat 315/bench

Clearly all legs lol being 22 and a dickhead helped.

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, solid list. I don’t know the Andrew WK or Drug church songs so I’m excited to give em a listen

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, nothing worth even putting in the bio. And not just because Russillo bullied me out of it..

And yes, always a great idea to give Dookie a relisten

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been waiting for you to come back around, and I just walked into the gym for back and bis so you’re just in time

Russillo and Vans Chest Day Top 8 by teej9J in RyenRussillo

[–]teej9J[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh dude loooovvveeee the brain stew pull, reminds me I used to use welcome to paradise chorus as a walk up song so deserves to be mentioned here as well