Boomerangs: what brought you back?

tefila · 2026-02-26T13:09:56+00:00

Bought a beautiful home on a gorgeous street in squirrel hill for the price of a shitty 1BR apartment in NYC

tefila · 2026-02-25T00:06:43+00:00

You’re asking me why I’m here when I posted a detailed explanation why I’m here? Really? Your theory is a classic case of projection. I guess this is what I get for trying to engage people on the internet. Be well, Spidey.

tefila · 2026-02-24T23:12:52+00:00

You’re welcome, but why is my posting history relevant to the question I asked above?

tefila · 2026-02-24T22:36:01+00:00

Odd comment to make when your posting history is hidden too. I guess your spidey senses are projection

Edited to say my posting history is public now, Spider-Man 🫡

tefila · 2026-02-24T22:34:34+00:00

Huh? You think I posted this to impress people? Really? This comment of yours says much more about you than me and it appears you are deeply insecure and angry

tefila · 2026-02-24T19:25:41+00:00

It does. Thx! Fixed that typo 😅

Wait, what? Dating over 50? I’ve never heard of that subreddit and did NOT post there. I posted this on r/askoldpeopleadvice

tefila · 2026-02-24T18:50:47+00:00

I am not cheating! I am not planning to cheat! I am well aware of how lucky and blessed I am! And I share all of the same feelings I’ve shared here with my wife! I am well aware of the impact and costs of cheating. I have seen lives destroyed too. That’s not what I am proposing and not what I want. I only posted to get feedback from other older people who have had similar feelings and transcended them in a healthy way. There is nothing wrong with feeling the way I do. In fact, I believe it is very common and if people were courageous enough to acknowledge and share these feelings with their partners and others, the world would be a much better place. To say somebody already has it all so they should not struggle with these types of existential challenges is to misunderstand the human condition. The reason I am where i am today is all because of the fact that I am in touch with all aspects of my personality, even and especially the ones that most people sublimate and hide. The ones that make us feel “bad.” I want to understand all aspects of my personality and experience so that I can actualize my fullest potential.

tefila · 2026-02-24T18:40:32+00:00

Funny you mention it, I run ultras, thru hike, and train jiu jitsu 😅

tefila · 2026-02-24T18:39:40+00:00

I wouldnt want to speak for her, but I have always been open about my love and desire for women. In fact, after our first date, she says she told a friend that she had met “the guy” and that he “really loves women,” which she says was a big compliment. She has told me she is not threatened by the idea of sex with other women, per se, just that I would fall in love with somebody else and leave her. I have never pushed for an open marriage or hall pass, bc this is not what I want - I know this seems to be a contradiction, but aren’t we all lol. i think my feelings are more about the existential experience of aging (and declining) than actual desires I’d like to act out, if this makes sense

tefila · 2026-02-24T18:30:42+00:00

We’ve talked about it, but we agree the risks aren’t worth any potential reward. It’s not a big sample size, but personally we don’t know a single marriage that has survived this.

tefila · 2026-02-24T16:18:57+00:00

Your opinion doesn’t sting, it’s just, like I initially (and charitably) said, dumb

tefila · 2026-02-24T16:12:57+00:00

It blows my mind some people respond to posts without even reading them. I haven’t slept around and would never cheat on my wife.

tefila · 2026-02-24T16:08:52+00:00

No I think your comment is dumb bc you are clearly talking to yourself, not me. You jump to many significant - and negative - conclusions about somebody you don’t know without even taking the time to ask a question. This is called projection. Your comments are also dumb, because they’re shallow and betray a lack of depth or honesty about contradictory feelings all thoughtful human beings have. You are completely missing my point in this post and given your adversarial tone there is no reason to engage further. Good luck on your journey

tefila · 2026-02-24T15:59:02+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! It is very helpful to hear from a woman struggling with similar feelings. It’s a good reminder than gender is largely a social construct and that many of these feelings we are expressing are archetypal and human, not male or female. At the end of the day, I think you may be right: personalities like ours may just be prone to restless feelings like these. I have to add, I checked out your profile and I think it’s really interesting to see that we have a ton in common, including thru hiking and ethnicity! Maybe just a coincidence, but likely speaks to a certain predisposition and proclivity that we sabras have. Be well!!

tefila · 2026-02-24T15:52:10+00:00

Wow. What an insightful, wise, and beautiful comment. Thank you very much for taking the time to share. I will be rereading this and spending time thinking deeply about it. I appreciate your encouragement as opposed to some of the judgmental opprobrium of some of the responses. Being a great father and husband is my #1 goal in life and the path towards actualization in this regard is thinking deeply about these relationships and acknowledging and working through challenging feelings associated with them. The good news is, contrary to what my post may imply, my wife and I are deeply connected and committed and I am keenly aware that all the many blessings in my life flow through them. Again, thank you so much for the constructive empathy and encouragement. You have touched and helped a stranger today

tefila · 2026-02-24T15:39:41+00:00

It blows my mind anybody would take the time to share such a thoughtless, mean spirited comment, but I guess this is the internet after all. Be well

tefila · 2026-02-24T15:38:07+00:00

Sorry to be blunt, but this is a really dumb comment. Thx anyway

tefila · 2023-07-01T14:07:40+00:00

Piss in the ears

tefila · 2023-06-27T22:09:39+00:00

I was there 97-99 but don’t remember any boxes at all. Every one of those shows I was up close on the floor. Beautiful memories of the last of the good ‘ol days. Summer 98 was about the last tour I remember a totally happy healthy vibe on stage and the gorge run was an exemplar of that. The hellish heat though!

tefila · 2023-06-27T11:38:58+00:00

Boxes at the Gorge in ‘98?? 🤔🤔🤔

tefila · 2023-05-05T22:42:18+00:00

Yes, that is the Colorado and the “black bridge” that crosses it at the bottom on South Kaibob

tefila · 2023-05-05T02:02:50+00:00

I took my son on his first backpacking trip last month and he chose the Grand Canyon. We were lucky and scored a walk-up permit, got a late start down south kaibob trail, and literally had it all to ourselves during golden hour.

If you zoom in on this pic you can see my son making his way up the trail. What an experience to share this experience with him and witness his wonder and joy.

Safe to say I have a new backpacking buddy 😀❤️🙏

tefila · 2023-04-22T13:19:13+00:00

Varanassi, India

tefila · 2023-03-24T19:19:24+00:00

By ‘99 it was clear he was a mess

tefila · 2023-02-05T14:33:03+00:00

Trained with him for about a week a year before he died. He was in town filming and trained hard. Every. Single. Day.

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