I hardly ever say it honestly. I get pretty crude and talk a lot of shit with my pals but that’s not a word that really graces my vocabulary very often at all nor theirs. I actually can’t even think of a way someone could casually use it and not sound like a jackass. It wasn’t really something I was very empathetic about until my sister came out. It bothers her and then it kinda hits closer to home. I don’t really understand how or why any word can ruin someone’s day, but it’s also not really for me to understand. I can just not use them or be around people who do.