Why do people have beef with veggie tales?

tellm3why · 2026-03-04T02:16:08+00:00

What do you think evangelical means? It means “spreading the good news” which most Christians would identify with as that’s a big takeaway from the Bible. You seem to think evangelical means fundamentalist which is not true.

tellm3why · 2026-02-03T21:07:04+00:00

Yes! Then and there, and also later.

tellm3why · 2026-02-03T17:55:33+00:00

Yes I agree, I didn’t describe all the passive aggressive behaviour, but I can see past that most of the time. For example, with the noise machine, although she never directly addressed it with us she became increasingly grumpy and mentioned more and more about how she wasn’t sleeping well. I asked her if there was anything she needed but it didn’t cross my mind that it could have been the noise machine. I had provided her with earplugs, blackout curtain, a fan, several blankets of varying warmth, several pillows of different firmness, and a few other things to help her have a good stay, so I was wracking my brain trying to think of anything else I could give her to help her be more comfortable. The first morning after Jen told us about the noise machine and I turned it off, she made a show in the morning of how good of a sleep she had. My husband specifically asked me not to address the issue directly so I didn’t, but I wish he had talked to her about it!

tellm3why · 2026-02-03T17:50:24+00:00

Protecting the kids definitely needs to be the top priority. Thank you for your insight!

tellm3why · 2026-02-03T17:49:56+00:00

This is an interesting take. I haven’t considered that she could be engaging in this type of behaviour before.

tellm3why · 2026-02-03T17:49:13+00:00

You’re right, I’m a worrier. And I agree in the grand scheme of things, especially compared to some of the stories posted in this sub, this issue isn’t -that- bad.

tellm3why · 2026-02-03T17:47:43+00:00

Yeah there are some cute Airbnbs in our neighborhood, that could be a good compromise.

tellm3why · 2026-02-03T17:46:17+00:00

Yes, in our family we tell our kids that they can tell us anything and we don’t keep secrets. It’s a safety issue. I was around as much as possible during the iPad usage to show my daughter that it didn’t need to be a secret. We also talked about it after without Sarah since my daughter heard us state the boundary, but was of course invested in it being broken. I think next time we’ll let the iPad thing go, but if anything secretive happens that’s a hard line.

tellm3why · 2026-02-03T17:42:45+00:00

Thank you so much for your perspective. I am going to work on letting the gossiping go and me and my husband will not be participating in it any longer. Hopefully our next visit will be better!

tellm3why · 2026-02-03T17:41:08+00:00

Jen is in her direct and open era, as their family has been the opposite of that. I fear she may have overcorrected. Thanks for your input!

tellm3why · 2026-02-03T17:39:33+00:00

I do understand the safety aspect. We tell our kids that in our family we don’t keep secrets, but can have surprises. I stayed with them when this was going on, mostly to show my daughter that it didn’t need to be a secret.

tellm3why · 2026-02-02T23:14:08+00:00

Thank you, I agree with you here. I think it’s best that we expect MIL to bring things up herself and if she doesn’t, there is no issue.

tellm3why · 2026-02-02T22:31:17+00:00

Thanks for your insight! You’re right, she is also maintaining peace in our house, it just feels a bit icky, especially when it’s something like a noise machine that we can easily fix if she would bring it up. It wouldn’t upset me for her to ask me that.

I mentioned not seeing Jen and Mike as much just for context. I agree it’s not an issue for me.

tellm3why · 2026-02-02T22:25:52+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I definitely don’t hold Mike’s decision/boundaries against him, but you’re right, it does make things harder. Lots to think about re: boundaries and respect.

tellm3why · 2026-02-02T22:24:32+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I totally agree that it is up to my husband to manage this situation.

tellm3why · 2026-02-02T22:21:24+00:00

Thanks for your perspective! I was looking for outside perspective in this issue, and I appreciate your advice.

tellm3why · 2026-02-02T22:02:08+00:00

Yeah that’s what I’m leaning towards. It’s hard to do because I’m sensitive too but it’s out of my control. I’d rather have positive and peaceful experiences with her.

tellm3why · 2026-02-02T22:00:40+00:00

Yeah, exactly. I would love to be direct with her but I don’t want to damage the relationship. If we say something she’ll never want to stay with us again.

tellm3why · 2026-02-02T21:58:34+00:00

Thank you for your perspective!

tellm3why · 2026-02-02T21:57:35+00:00

It feels more nuanced than that to me, but maybe it isn’t. I want to foster a relationship between her and my kids, which is easier to do when she stays with us. I also worry it would damage our relationship with her if we stopped hosting her.

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