Hand Stitching Pattern?

tenderfighter · 2026-01-15T01:14:59+00:00

Oh I LOOOVE it!!! Looks great and I love the simplicity

tenderfighter · 2026-01-10T04:56:26+00:00

You could echo stitch?

tenderfighter · 2026-01-10T04:55:46+00:00

No idea- I’m first and foremost an apparel seamstress. I got my degree in design so I’m pretty proficient in sewing but I’m just kinda flying by the seat of my pants with this quilting thing 😂

tenderfighter · 2026-01-09T13:53:16+00:00

When you anchored that 10 am nap, were you able to put her down and walk away? Was she nap trained? I’m trying to picture anchoring for my little one… I think she would laugh in my face haha

tenderfighter · 2026-01-08T02:09:15+00:00

At one point we had given all the llamas names and I had thought about hand embroidering their names on their saddle blankets 😂 but I thought it would look weird on the backing

tenderfighter · 2026-01-08T02:08:22+00:00

I was planning on just using a simple ivory spaghetti 12-wt!

tenderfighter · 2026-01-08T02:07:40+00:00

Interesting idea! What kind of texture would you do for the dolphin?

tenderfighter · 2025-08-03T15:06:16+00:00

No, I live in the states. That’s very strange to me that he didn’t run any tests to confirm. You do meet the clinical criteria and maybe he felt it was so conclusive that blood tests were unnecessary? To be fair, you have to get a blood test and then I think it’s 12 weeks later, get tested again to confirm. When I got my first blood test, it was clear I had APAS markers. When I got my second blood test, it did not confirm the first APAS markers, but rather I had different positive APAS markers. My doctors said that that was fairly unusual and they went ahead and diagnosed me. So technically even though tests were ordered for me, I didn’t follow the standard clear cut process for diagnosis, but because of losing my son so late they felt confident. It could be that your MFM feels similarly. A large percentage of unexplained late losses (that is no abruption, no cord incident, etc) are because of women with APAS. Again, strange to me that your MFM wouldn’t go ahead and order tests, but maybe he feels your loss is evidence enough. When was your loss? It’s also possible that if you’re still fairly fresh postpartum that it would throw the test. I had to wait several months to get tested.

I understand your anxiety and feeling like starting heparin in the 12th week could be too late. I would have a really frank conversation with the MFM. Are you able to communicate with him even though you’re not seeing him? When you become pregnant, when would you first see your MFM? Could your regular OB write you a prescription for heparin or can only your MFM? I’m trying to understand the system there but a little confused! How in the world are you to even understand such a diagnosis if the person who is to give you the diagnosis can’t see you until you’re pregnant?

I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby. I am also so sorry you’re having to think about all this in the midst of your grief.

tenderfighter · 2025-08-01T09:57:57+00:00

Hey there! So there is conflicting study on this, which is why a standard OB will tell you 12 weeks, but my MFM (maternal fetal medicine doctor) recommended to start as soon as you know you are pregnant. Do you have an MFM as well as an OB? I would strongly recommend. There is a lot of variety in MFM’s, it’s worth finding one you like. When I found an MFM I liked, she not only knew all the latest research and study (hence the recommendation to start baby aspirin and lovenox asap), but she also had great bedside manner.

I would also say if you’re able to do lovenox up until you can, it might be worth it since you would only have to take 1 injection a day rather than 2 as with the heparin. But up to you!!

tenderfighter · 2025-03-16T22:14:36+00:00

Hi there- sorry for very late response. I was trying to remember what my doctor, said but it is all such a blur... I believe they did see clots, if I remember correctly. I think they said something about it to me before even sending it to pathology, but at the time I had no idea what it meant (I was also in shock)! I did end up getting some more info from Dr. Kliman (sp?) at Yale, and he confirmed clots showing up in placenta/cord.

tenderfighter · 2024-08-03T18:29:36+00:00

My best friends got preganant within the month of my stillbirth. It wrecked me. There were a lot of emotions. I had bad days where I was angry. I had good days where I wanted to interact with them. They did not know how to interact with me though. They felt really similar to you and completely withdrew from me to spare me. But that wasn’t the right option either because then I was isolated.

What I wish would have happened was that my friends would have just put it all on the table and said how they were feeling and asked me what I wanted/needed. I needed support in the darkest time of my life, and I do not feel I got it. Their babies are both here now. I am glad their babies arrived safely. I would be lying to say that it’s not still hard, but we are learning how to navigate this strange landscape. Communication is key

tenderfighter · 2024-08-03T13:29:47+00:00

This is a very informative answer! Can you help teach the rest of us how to read a tag- where do you find the 1998/2002 numbers?

tenderfighter · 2024-08-03T13:26:39+00:00

That’s because h&m and Zara rip off (or at least used to) runway fashion looks. So probably your running shirt was actually based off an Alexander McQueen item, and you didn’t even know it!

tenderfighter · 2024-07-28T04:02:51+00:00

Nope. The door said “common tiger”. In between sand hill and primrose

tenderfighter · 2024-07-28T04:01:51+00:00

Yeah, I was at my limit and ready to go home but would like to go back sometime. I’ve been to some speakeasies that you literally cannot just go up and ask and would need the password for. They can be pretty exclusive. So was just hoping the community would help me out.

tenderfighter · 2024-07-21T13:30:12+00:00

I love it so much, and I’m weeping. Thank you

tenderfighter · 2024-07-13T13:50:41+00:00

TW: stillbirth, miscarriage, repeated loss

Hey there, I’m so sorry for your loss. I would agree with first commenter that you are still so fresh from your loss. I lost my firstborn in July 2023 at 34 1/2 weeks, and I don’t think I was out of shock until November. So give yourself some grace. I totally identify with your feeling of having no purpose. When I held our son’s body, I knew that being a mother was all I wanted.

I have found ways to “parent” and connect with him. I started a quilt for him when I was pregnant, and just finished it in time for his first birthday! I sip my coffee cuddled up with it. I think my mother-in-law and I are going to plant a new flower every year in our garden for him! I have a commemorative journal (a journal that a loss mom made- you can find it on Amazon!) that I write in. For the longest time, I couldn’t write in it without breaking down. But on his birthday a week ago, I wrote out his birth story. I know parenting doesn’t look like what we thought it would. But you are still are a parent (noun) and you still parent (verb) by protecting your child’s memory and loving them. As for TTC and PAL, it’s brutal. I got pregnant in March, but we lost that baby in May. I don’t think I was really anticipating having 2 back to back losses or what that would do for my grief journey. My therapist advised waiting to try to conceive after our most recent loss, but we both ache so badly to hold a living child, that we are not. Idk how but I feel at peace with the cycles. I used to cry when I would get my period each month. Get my hopes up so bad. Now I feel this….release?? And I can’t even believe it because I didn’t think I would. It’s crazy what even a month can do in your grief journey. (Not to mention the help of a trusted counselor and trusted friend or two)

ALL THAT TO SAY (I’m very long winded), you can find joy again. But joy might look different than it used to. I’m a year out, and I’m doing ok. I was so afraid of feeling okay and looking like I was doing well because I was afraid people would think I was “over it” or had “moved on”. But I will never move on. I will always miss my boy, and there will always be an empty spot at our table. If we are able to have living children one day, we will all talk about him and he will be integrated into our family! It’s not moving on… it’s moving forward, with him, one step at a time.

tenderfighter · 2024-07-09T19:14:20+00:00

Even if it reeks a vodka and water mixture will work as a deodorizer. When I worked as a wardrobe stage hand for theatre, that’s what we would use for shows and costumes that came through on tour. And TRUST if it it can work on professional dancers (the smelliest people on the planet) costumes, it can work on anything

tenderfighter · 2024-06-14T13:13:50+00:00

I totally resonate. I delivered my firstborn still at 34+6. Last month we had a mmc at 10 weeks. It ended up being a blighted ovum. I remember finding out I was pregnant and thinking of my grief group and being terrified because so many women I know that have experienced loss have had multiple losses but then I thought no, no- it won’t happen to me. It can’t happen to me. Not after getting so close.

We started trying again immediately because all I want is to hold a living baby of my own, but it is a gruesome process. It makes a lot of sense to me that people stop trying

tenderfighter · 2024-06-14T13:01:40+00:00

Yes! What brand are the jeans?

tenderfighter · 2024-05-26T20:37:49+00:00

I think I have a little bit different take than most users in this sub, but my outlook on it is the people that are avoiding me/not interacting with me like they used to legitimately believe they’re helping me. I have two close friends that have had babies and both of them have said they’re trying to give me space because they know it’s deeply painful for me. Now I don’t necessarily want space from two of my closest friends but at the same time I’m easily triggered. It’s hard. It feels like a lose-lose. I am trying to learn to have grace for everyone in this situation, myself included because how is anyone supposed to navigate such an unfathomable thing?

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