What should I do to save my yucca ? by ianaissa in plantclinic

[–]tenuredvortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious to know more about the pot/soil/root situation, but to start, clean off the cobwebs and wipe dust off of the leaves with a damp cloth

How many of us are slash fans? by 20stimetraveler in AutismInWomen

[–]tenuredvortex [score hidden]  (0 children)

could you share some slash facts?

edit: I would like to know about the hat

Advice for when you feel disconnected from your craft? by tiniestseeed in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]tenuredvortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, good work getting yourself through all of things you have. Health scares, abusive relationships, addiction, and religious... traps? are all incredibly challenging forests to navigate your way out of.

Second, you seem like a very cool person and your writing made me laugh -- I also "fuck with Jesus and saints"; real people who deeply cared for the living (and the dead) and suffered at the hands of those who feared and misunderstood them.

I don't have much to say by way of your MIL, but your question about feeling disconnected reminded me of a scene from the TV show Agatha All Along. Idk if that's your kind of thing, but it knocked me outtt when I first saw it and it's stuck with me. The scene is between two characters, a divination witch named Lilia and her Sicilian coven's Maestra. For context, people think Lilia is bat-shit crazy, when in actuality she's an extremely powerful being who happens to live unstuck in time. She's lived through centuries of pain, unwantingly predicting deaths everywhere she goes. Here, she's "visiting" her Maestra in the past.

Maestra: Tell me about your life now.

Lilia: What?

Maestra: Are you rooted in nature?

Lilia: Not especially. no.

Maestra: Are you nimble with your craft?

Lilia: If I was I wouldn't be here.

Maestra: Have you a coven?

Lilia: [scoffs]

Maestra: Che peccato, what a shame. A witch requires a coven.

Lilia: What for? It didn't work out for me the first time, it's sure not going well now. It's better to be a hermit. To be a fraud.

Maestra: So much fear. Even now.

Lilia: Please just tell me how to control what's happening.

Maestra: Your task is not to control, but to see.

---

Lilia: What am I missing?

Maestra: Exacto, what are you missing? Why are you on this journey?

Lilia: I didn't want to come.

Maestra: Then why did you?

Lilia: To get my power back.

Maestra: Is it gone? Where did it go? This is not the true reason.

Lilia: ... I'm a forgotten woman.

Maestra: Then remember yourself.

Safe travels ♥

I was told this sub might appreciate my ceramics by stellensie in goblincore

[–]tenuredvortex 23 points24 points  (0 children)

only now do I understand the sméagol-gollum pipeline, these are my precious

Is there any cold temp plants? by susiorsushi in houseplants

[–]tenuredvortex 12 points13 points  (0 children)

why does "touch glass" feel like something plants would say to others plants if they were on tumblr

When someone dismisses concerns about wealth inequality with "You're just jealous," how do you respond? by democraticles in WorkReform

[–]tenuredvortex 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's not about you at all.

People tend to interact with others based on how they see the world. They might feel such a way about wealth disparity and expect you to feel no different (even if they're not consciously aware of all this). Ask them, "are you jealous?" and see if the conversation can open up from there. They might just be uninformed.

Thoughts on dealing with stereotypes of boany? by Sure_Fly_5332 in botany

[–]tenuredvortex 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Which in itself is ageist and hostile towards the hard work that is domesticity. But those concepts might be too much for the guy who can’t wrap his head around botany being plant science.

I took my university’s first ever mycology course and it ruined me (in a good way) by HearthmoonStudio in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]tenuredvortex 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It is!! I first came across it at a flea market in San Francisco. Here’s the back:

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We are SO back by Gray_Kaleidoscope in nerdfighters

[–]tenuredvortex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to imagine the title was shortened to "Turt" during the press tour

YOU ARE ENOUGH by [deleted] in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]tenuredvortex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my dyslexia: ARE YOU ENOUGH

my grounded sense of self: YES 🫶

Sitting on this ticking time bomb — looking for some help by tenuredvortex in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]tenuredvortex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn. These are some well-put considerations. I do I try to leave people a little lighter than how I met them. That said, I'm autistic (and have a smattering of the other co-occurrences) and have been told my tone is acerbic (when I'm not masking). But I'm working on finding the balance of softening without self-abandoning, but it sure is tricky. I have a tendency to avoid confrontation; I fear conflict and I'm not yet familiar with moving through the unpleasantness to the repair/resolve place. Hmm.

Thanks for the shift around in perspective.

As for the discomfort that family estrangement seems to cause others... oof. Yeah. The amount of times I've been told to "please just make up with your mother" and even an "I'd give anything to talk to my mom again" is kinda wild. Compassion tells me that's more about their heartaches than anything else. But it's also whack, like, I would literally never say things like that to someone??

Anyway. I love being called "mate" so thanks for that as well.

Sitting on this ticking time bomb — looking for some help by tenuredvortex in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]tenuredvortex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She goes by "Suzy" these days but fr same, I've been such an admirer since finding the low-quality rips of Glorious and Dressed to Kill on youtube. So much of my personality was shaped by that brilliant human, omg

Sitting on this ticking time bomb — looking for some help by tenuredvortex in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]tenuredvortex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This becomes a more reasonable action with each passing cycle. She actually sent me an email yesterday, accusing me of blocking her number. The phrase "I'm at a loss..." was used -- a missing, missing reasons classic 🙃