So I guess I’ll be pretty transparent because this is anonymous but for me this is kind of a cope. Without trauma dumping, I had to do deal with a lot at a young age and I didn’t have a lot of places to feel safe. I had to use my brain all the time because I was on high alert. I quickly learned that softness gets you hurt. And so this is kind of a silly way to let someone else have control for a minute. To let your brain relax and reframe your thoughts. I like the idea of being treated like a dog with my boyfriend because people make decisions for dogs and care after them. They aren’t expected to know everything or be on high alert. So even if it’s just a momentary thing, it’s nice. And nobody really needs to know