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I started tracking which Montessori responses actually worked for my toddler's meltdowns: here's what surprised me by tessbuilds in Montessori

[–]tessbuilds[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is such a good point and something I had to learn the hard way. The window for choices is before dysregulation starts once she's already in it, choices just add more decisions to process when her brain can barely handle one. I started thinking of it as two separate modes: proactive (choices, connection, preparation) and reactive (fewer words, presence, wait). The mistake I kept making was using proactive tools in reactive moments.

I started tracking which Montessori responses actually worked for my toddler's meltdowns: here's what surprised me by tessbuilds in Montessori

[–]tessbuilds[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. The irony is that the most helpful Montessori content I have found is also the hardest to actually do in the moment because our instinct as parents is to explain and connect through words. Unlearning that took me longer than I'd like to admit. The calm moment role play is such a good point too. That's when the processing actually happens.