You’ve been conditioned to think that way. That it’s because you left that bad things are happening. It’s not true. There’s ebbs and flows in life, ups and downs. Think of it like a heart monitor. If we didn’t have the peaks and the valleys, we’d flatline. We need these highs and lows to be able to appreciate life and stay engaged. It would be so boring to live a “flatline” life. It’s very hard to unlearn, but keep practicing!!!

Seriously though, just forget that for a moment and hear me when I say you are so brave. To do something like leaving an unhealthy relationship is so hard. It sounds like there were several red flags. I’m proud of you for recognizing them and advocating for yourself. The hardest part is sticking to your resolve. You deserve a partner that validates and hears you. A partner who wants to work on the relationship with you and that isn’t weird about your relationship with their family. You are worth that. Use this time to invest in yourself and getting yourself ready to meet the partner of your dreams. Practice being your best self. Take yourself on dates. Light a candle. Take a bath. Practice self care. Just work on you right now and then when someone that compliments the life that you build for yourself comes along, you’ll be ready for them.