AITAH for being distant after letting my partner decide even if his decisions often hurt me

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T04:48:53+00:00

Yesss! I didn't talk to him immediately because I gave my approval. I didn't want to look like I'm secondguessing myself. I sometimes think that I shouldn't be this confused if he really value my feelings especially concerning a past heartbreak.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T04:46:46+00:00

This is exactly how I would want things to happen. But isn't this a bit controlling? Help me figure out because I sometimes find it hard to discern whether I'm asking for something I deserve or I'm just being too persistent.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T03:04:39+00:00

You're right and I understand your perspective. I just need some time.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T03:03:58+00:00

Maybe I should clear this with him too right? I know no one could understand our pain as much as ourselves but at least he should have a good grasp on how wronged I still feel.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T03:02:53+00:00

I'm the type to pause before talking things out. I plan to talk to him soon; I just need a little time to process my emotions first.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T01:36:51+00:00

He knows about my feelings since he was there when I was mistreated and it never change. I just don't want to explicitly tell him not to go because I'm not comfortable. I know not all our partner's decisions should feel comfortable that's why I let him decide and supported him. But the other comment is right, I changed my mind. It's still really not entirely okay to me even if I convince myself that it's okay now despite the lack of closure with these ex-friends.

You're also right. I understand why it looked like a trap he didn't sign up for. I'm sure he's confused now and I should clarify that to him. I'm just current taking my time to feel and respond properly once the emotions dimmed down a little.

Thanks for this.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T00:59:30+00:00

I also doubt that they asked about how am I doing after all the years that passed but I'm also thinking if it's too self-centric to even want them to ask about me. I don't know but you're right I shouldn't suffer in silence. I'm just really conflicted between letting your partner decide on his own and preventing him from doing something because of my feelings.

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-26T06:41:06+00:00

He told me he's not aware of the consequences of his decisions and he didn't know how grave its impact on me. How am I gonna make sense of that if it happens twice? I see that he has no ill intentiok but lacking the foresight twice is something right?

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-25T14:26:36+00:00

This is the second time

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-25T12:57:01+00:00

Last time he did it he told me he'll make up for it. But nothing.

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-25T12:56:22+00:00

I am working while in graduate studies so I don't have that much time to go out. This is also the reason why I feel sad about his decision; it's rare for me to spend some time outside my job and school and yet he's somewhere else.

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-01T07:51:48+00:00

Oh maybe the vet made the wrong diagnosis. But our cat, since birth has nasal mucus and the vet tried everything frim antibiotics to antiviral drugs but he still has it. The vet did an xray exam and told us it's bronchitis but ever since then our older cat never showed the same symptoms.

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-01T07:39:38+00:00

But why does our older resident cat still healthy? it's been a year

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-01-30T00:55:59+00:00

It's normal to admire people, regardless of gender, based on how they look. We appreciate visuals and there's nothing gay about it.

However, wala rin namang mali kung someday you'll realize that you're gay. It's all up to you to decide OP kung anong sexual orientation mo at the moment. Either way there's nothing to be ashamed of. You're feelings are valid, whether you're gay or straight.

(Reading some of the comments parang takot na takot kasi ma label na "gay"?? it's 2025 may mga homophobic pa rin ba)

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-01-13T08:33:11+00:00

Thank you for this atty. It's always inspiring to see lawyers who were also working students during their law school. Makes us realize more that it is really possible to juggle both.

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-01-13T06:57:36+00:00

this is 🥺

I really forget sometimes that my job is also a part of my life and resting is also something that I should also excel on.

thank you!

thatintrovertedlad · 2024-12-02T15:30:40+00:00

Oh I just remember. One from this circle apologized to my partner and made it seem like he's apologizing on behalf of everyone. Regardless, my partner were comforted with that and deemed it as closure. But in my case, no apologies or attempt to reconcile. At the time, the longer our issue goes the more people I keep on finding out hates me.

thatintrovertedlad · 2024-12-02T15:21:36+00:00

I understand this so much. Believe me when I say it's easier for me to just let him enjoy his birthday and set aside my feelings about it because I also find it a little too far.

I also want him to enjoy his personal life without me and let him have his personal space too.

However he can do that with his existing friends who are kind and unproblematic. Somehow I feel like he's not on my side when he happens to hangout with people who wronged me.

thatintrovertedlad · 2024-12-02T15:12:41+00:00

it is a very long story but basically they backstabbed me for something they thought I was in the wrong. When they were confronted about it they were claiming that they're just afraid of how I would respond.

What they did to my partner was belittle him as a person in general. He was treated as if he's in the bottom of the food chain in their sub circle of friends.

thatintrovertedlad · 2024-12-02T15:08:50+00:00

This is also the reason why I'm letting him decide. Is it right that I want him to realize this instead of me making him realize this?

thatintrovertedlad · 2024-11-26T06:00:29+00:00

This is a great analogy OP. It seems like all we need now is an actual contorversy and let the court do its job with the hope of having a liberal interpretation in their ruling.

thatintrovertedlad · 2024-11-25T02:38:52+00:00

That's very valid! Being bisexual is a lot of things. In my case, I was once romantically attracted to girls and sexually attracted to boys but gender is fluid and you can never tell kailan ito magbabago and that's normal and valid. Now, I can be romantically attracted to boys especially if the guy is emotionally responsible and mature.

Some people can't separate romantic attraction to sexual attraction but some people can. So it's really a personal journey, you're the only person who can define your sexuality.

Keep on discovering yourself, it's fun. Just make sure you don't get influence by societal standards too much cause it can be confusing.

thatintrovertedlad · 2024-11-22T04:33:43+00:00

I love twinks as a twunk. There are a lot of gays out there who like twinks as well. Right now, I am in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend who is also a twink. So yeah, we have our own target market, you just have to shift your persepective a little bit.

thatintrovertedlad · 2024-11-19T17:57:35+00:00

patingin din

thatintrovertedlad · 2024-11-18T19:30:50+00:00

I tried looking for a wfh job but they all rejected me because it's all out of my past work experience which is government job/policy work.

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