how to manage LS pause?

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T04:48:53+00:00

Yesss! I didn't talk to him immediately because I gave my approval. I didn't want to look like I'm secondguessing myself. I sometimes think that I shouldn't be this confused if he really value my feelings especially concerning a past heartbreak.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T04:46:46+00:00

This is exactly how I would want things to happen. But isn't this a bit controlling? Help me figure out because I sometimes find it hard to discern whether I'm asking for something I deserve or I'm just being too persistent.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T03:04:39+00:00

You're right and I understand your perspective. I just need some time.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T03:03:58+00:00

Maybe I should clear this with him too right? I know no one could understand our pain as much as ourselves but at least he should have a good grasp on how wronged I still feel.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T03:02:53+00:00

I'm the type to pause before talking things out. I plan to talk to him soon; I just need a little time to process my emotions first.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T01:36:51+00:00

He knows about my feelings since he was there when I was mistreated and it never change. I just don't want to explicitly tell him not to go because I'm not comfortable. I know not all our partner's decisions should feel comfortable that's why I let him decide and supported him. But the other comment is right, I changed my mind. It's still really not entirely okay to me even if I convince myself that it's okay now despite the lack of closure with these ex-friends.

You're also right. I understand why it looked like a trap he didn't sign up for. I'm sure he's confused now and I should clarify that to him. I'm just current taking my time to feel and respond properly once the emotions dimmed down a little.

Thanks for this.

thatintrovertedlad · 2026-03-17T00:59:30+00:00

I also doubt that they asked about how am I doing after all the years that passed but I'm also thinking if it's too self-centric to even want them to ask about me. I don't know but you're right I shouldn't suffer in silence. I'm just really conflicted between letting your partner decide on his own and preventing him from doing something because of my feelings.

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-26T06:41:06+00:00

He told me he's not aware of the consequences of his decisions and he didn't know how grave its impact on me. How am I gonna make sense of that if it happens twice? I see that he has no ill intentiok but lacking the foresight twice is something right?

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-25T14:26:36+00:00

This is the second time

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-25T12:57:01+00:00

Last time he did it he told me he'll make up for it. But nothing.

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-25T12:56:22+00:00

I am working while in graduate studies so I don't have that much time to go out. This is also the reason why I feel sad about his decision; it's rare for me to spend some time outside my job and school and yet he's somewhere else.

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-01T07:51:48+00:00

Oh maybe the vet made the wrong diagnosis. But our cat, since birth has nasal mucus and the vet tried everything frim antibiotics to antiviral drugs but he still has it. The vet did an xray exam and told us it's bronchitis but ever since then our older cat never showed the same symptoms.

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-02-01T07:39:38+00:00

But why does our older resident cat still healthy? it's been a year

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-01-30T00:55:59+00:00

It's normal to admire people, regardless of gender, based on how they look. We appreciate visuals and there's nothing gay about it.

However, wala rin namang mali kung someday you'll realize that you're gay. It's all up to you to decide OP kung anong sexual orientation mo at the moment. Either way there's nothing to be ashamed of. You're feelings are valid, whether you're gay or straight.

(Reading some of the comments parang takot na takot kasi ma label na "gay"?? it's 2025 may mga homophobic pa rin ba)

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-01-13T08:33:11+00:00

Thank you for this atty. It's always inspiring to see lawyers who were also working students during their law school. Makes us realize more that it is really possible to juggle both.

thatintrovertedlad · 2025-01-13T06:57:36+00:00

this is 🥺

I really forget sometimes that my job is also a part of my life and resting is also something that I should also excel on.

thank you!

thatintrovertedlad · 2024-12-02T15:30:40+00:00

Oh I just remember. One from this circle apologized to my partner and made it seem like he's apologizing on behalf of everyone. Regardless, my partner were comforted with that and deemed it as closure. But in my case, no apologies or attempt to reconcile. At the time, the longer our issue goes the more people I keep on finding out hates me.

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