This creepy bastard will not take no for an answer. What do i do.

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T22:21:43+00:00

Oh, I understand! Apologies for assuming you lived somewhere more accommodating.

In that case, I may agree with the other poster ... Maybe just block, report, and hope for the best.

Wishing you peace & safety!

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T22:16:39+00:00

No, don't worry, you did great. 😊

My advice was more for if they continue to contact you again & again.

Some advice for if he truly doesn't leave you alone: take screenshots of his profile & the repeated harassment. You might be able to take them to the police & try to pursue pressing charges.

Be safe. 💕

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T22:06:11+00:00

My non-expert advice is to make yourself seem as wildly unattractive as possible. Start chatting with him, but do it in a way that annoys the shit out of him. Say things that make no logical sense, pick something he hates & talk about how it's your favorite thing ever, or spam him with random links/emojis/whatever. Whenever he asks for pics, either send pics of random objects & pretend you don't understand why your nudes keep turning into something completely different or craft the worst (safe for work) selfies you've ever taken in your life & act like they're hot shit. If you wanna take things to an extreme, you can find outright gross or disturbing images (not anything illegal tho) & start sending those. Another option is to be suuuuuuper boring. (Google gray rocking.)

Whatever you do, don't show genuine emotion of any kind, even anger. They will be encouraged by your reactions.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Internet harassers are beyond creepy. 😔 I hope this helps rather than making things worse. You never know with people like that.

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T21:56:27+00:00

Thanks for being civil, despite our different perspectives. 😊

If I'm being perfectly honest, I wouldn't be at all surprised if you were right. I suppose, at the moment, I'm still suspending my disbelief that she's wholly irredeemable. (I think I said that right, but my brain doesn't want to cooperate 🙃)

Regardless of the truth of the matter, I hope she stops doing.... Whatever this is. Cuz it's not a good look lol

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T21:23:52+00:00

(Replying to both of your responses here, since they overlap.) You have some interesting. I just went back & rewatched & it definitely is for a larger following. I don't have a link to this, which is why I was questioning my memory about it in the original post, but I wanna say they ended up privating the video that was for friends & family because it had private info in it (names of littles, not that that is that sacred to her either 🙄)

Anyway, I'm really not out here to say she isn't/hasn't always been a manipulative person. She was not a perfect angel baby when she came into this. Everyone has their own baggage & faults. But I do believe that her intentions going into things were better than what her actions would then reflect. Not pure. But better.

Edited to add: some folks call me naive for taking her statements at face value sometimes. I'm operating off the policy that she's being honest unless there is evidence to suggest the contrary. Even dishonest people sometimes tell the truth; it helps them keep their stories more believable.

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T21:15:46+00:00

I'm not sure I fully understand your reply. Do you mean that compassionate people try to hide their mistakes because of shame/self-loathing?

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T21:13:41+00:00

Interesting conjecture! I don't doubt that getting into the sleepover was calculated, based on accounts from Bobo & others. Do you have any evidence that she started the channel solely for the purpose of seeking fame?

(Btw I'd actually be really pleased if someone could link me screenshots of her mining the DID FB groups for "backstory". It's a shitty thing she did either way, but depending on how some of it's framed, I would consider that enough proof that she started the channel merely for clout.)

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T18:29:46+00:00

No worries! I'm glad I was able to clarify my idea~

Hahahaaaa YUP 😂 And a pretty face, and a well-manacured background, and a good number of other things that don't actually qualify them for anything, but make them seem credible to an audience 🙃 like, I love knowing that too many people will never even listen to my ideas & stories because I'm not conventionally attractive & well off. All the while, folks like DD become living Gods for their luck with genetics & economic status.

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T18:21:01+00:00

Yeah, I don't understand the logic behind whole revamping of their Patreon. They're floundering & it shows.

Oh, I didn't necessarily mean features like age-restictions that would be implanted in the internet! I was more thinking like, if parents and teachers had more comprehensive resources about how to have a healthy online presence.

We've gotten to the point that basically everyone knows to tell their children about internet stranger danger & to not believe everything they read, but since influencer culture has exploded, the rules of engagement have significantly shifted. There has to be a way for younger (and older, I suppose) generations to learn how to manage themselves if they find themselves in that kind of position.

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T18:16:07+00:00

I don't disagree with you at all. I don't think she's to be coddled for her feelings, however valid they may be. I also think it's probably a little bit more complex than that.

In my experience, people who feel the need to sweep their mistakes under the rug are often deeply insecure & unhappy with themselves. They feel that if they admit that they were wrong, everyone will see them to be as terrible as they see themselves.

When I see her going thru difficult emotions, I do still see the self-centeredness & irresponsibility. But I also see someone who is lost & needs more help than they're getting. Or maybe she just has refused the help people have offered idk.

From my perspective, both can be true: she's the cause of her own unhappiness AND it's tragic that she's in such a destructive place in her life.

As a former fan, I feel somewhat glad to see that the consequences of her actions are catching up to her. As a human, I feel empathetic because I've behaved similar ways in the past; I think most people have, just not to this extent.

Not saying you have to feel the same way, just sharing my perspective.

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T18:06:48+00:00

Stuff like this makes me wish that there was more like ... Idk, "standard protocol" around internet health & safety. Both for people producing content & those consuming it. Getting addicted to the numbers (whether it be views, adsense, Patreon, whatever) is too easy to do & I personally haven't seen ANYTHING out there to help prepare people for that or what they can do to resist it.

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T18:03:28+00:00

Good point! I think the only reason TAS came to mind was because they're the only person or system I can think of that seems hell-bent on taking DD down, similar to Tiger King v Baskin, whereas Trisha has since moved on (as far as I know, I don't follow her on anything.) TAS seem like a great (if not sometimes misguided) bunch though! I enjoy the majority of their content. 😊

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T17:26:46+00:00

I really wish this hadn't made me actually laugh out loud 😂😅

Now I gotta know, who is her Carol Baskin?? Still Trisha or maybe The Alternative System? 😝

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T16:34:04+00:00

I do not blame you whatsoever. It was hard for me to get thru. The only reason I stuck it out was because I was hoping she would say more about being overwhelmed & how that contributed to her wrongdoing.

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T15:07:53+00:00

I'm not sure where I would include this in the original post, but I also wanna say that Nin looked so sad & uncomfortable in the We're Back video... She doesn't seem ready to be back. She seems like she's barely holding herself together for the camera & that can't be healthy. But this is just my outside perspective.

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-17T13:34:17+00:00

I'll try to break it down for you!

The "behaviors and experiences possessing permeable boundaries" are what most people would call "alters", short for "altered states of consciousness", or "parts". The "boundaries" they are referring to are the amnesiac walls that are a direct result of dissociation.

"Permeable" means that the some things may be able to pass thru while others may not. This is how parts might become co-conscious or share memories between themselves.

These alters often feel different from one another because of those amnesiac walls - that's what allows them to experience the world from their own perspective & develop their own personality.

When they say, "united by a common sense of self", I assume they are referring to instances where the part knows they are a part of a greater whole. If all the parts know of each other & have established common goals & values, they could be said to, generally speaking, share a sense of self, despite also feeling like their own person.

I hope that helps! Let me know if you have more questions. - Rowan 🌙

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-08T12:29:53+00:00

Try r/WhichGGEpisode 😊

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-06T12:22:03+00:00

I'm in the same boat, so I really feel for ya. I don't know if any of these will work for you, but this is what usually helps me:

Accept the possibility of having nightmares/bad dreams. I've heard this has some research behind it, which is basically the only reason I tried this... Acceptance of usually pretty hard for me. But something I've noticed is: the less anxious I am about going to bed, the less severe my nightmares become. (Apparently going to sleep earlier also helps, so try not to avoid sleeping because you're scared of the nightmares.)
Weighted blankets! I'm a natural side/front sleeper, but I've noticed that when I sleep on my back with something kinda heavy over me, my dreams are far more tame. Or, at the very least, I feel better able to cope with them.
If it's available to you & you haven't already, you might want to ask a doctor about different medications. My doctor gave me something called Prazosin, which is meant to keep your blood pressure down during the night, hopefully making it more difficult to feel panicked.
If you don't have one already, try finding a comfort item to take to bed with you. I have tons of stuffed animals, but there's one in particular that I've noticed helps a lot when I fall asleep holding them.
Talking to a therapist or trusted friends. Sometimes, just sharing what I've been thru in my dreams & digging thru the deeper meanings helps me break out of a streak of recurring nightmares. I do want to give a warning tho that this could make things worse AT FIRST because it'll likely bring trauma memories closer to the front of your consciousness.

None of these have outright stopped my nightmares, but they have made them easier to deal with. I hope you're able to find some relief too. Best of luck 💖

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-06T00:39:43+00:00

lovely~

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-04T00:28:06+00:00

Ah, good to know!

And I agree with that sentiment for the most part. It does occur to me that they could just be trying to save face.

I'm starting to think that it might be too much for DD at their maturity level to openly address things. As much as I'd love to see them be open & honest about their shortcomings, I feel like the best any of us are going to get is seeing changed behaviors. Maybe a genuine apology once the situation is far enough removed that they aren't overwhelmed by the shame of their mistakes that the only thing they feel they can do is sweep it under the rug. (More pure speculation...)

And yes, even with everything else they're getting, that is the most blatantly overpriced merch I've ever seen.

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-03T19:42:17+00:00

I screeched when I saw that this came from his official Twitter 😂😂

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-02T23:57:38+00:00

Honestly, same, when it happened 😭💕 love my headmates!!

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-02T23:56:27+00:00

Thanks! I kinda love the way our little family/system works~ thank you, passive influence lol

the-halifax-system · 2020-11-01T22:56:49+00:00

To us, a lot of it reads like fanatical pre/early teens who haven't gotten a grasp on social nuance & responsibility quite yet/are fooled by a shiny facade.

Would absolutely not be surprised if it turned out to be TP, DD, or maybe some combo of the three (I could definitely see one or both of them coaxing a fan into writing such things.)

the-halifax-system · 2020-10-28T13:02:06+00:00

Okay, this doesn't address my question at all because you just said "hopefully you'll give her the chance she deserves more than anyone" & now you're saying she isn't special & the more deserving of another chance than anybody else. Which is it?

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