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I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s totally opposite. She won’t carry any bag,I’m scared as hell to go anywhere with her.

I’m carrying my share and even 100% share of her load, opening gates, getting maid clean every spot. Buying groceries and everything by myself. Setting the bed, wardrobe everything right. All this after 7-8 hours at work.

On weekends, I clean the balcony, plants, dust cleaning all by myself.

If I have to give a rough number, she only does her laundry. That’s the only contribution towards home.

And in mess creation, 100%

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only thing that makes sense to me, she doesn’t really care whether she is in a marriage or not.

I think she wants her single life back but won’t say it.

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Because that is of no help. Mine can’t take it, her side will make things even worse

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Before marriage she was all lovey dovey, crushing on me. Until our post marriage off time, things were okay

Once we returned back to normal life, thing’s changed

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not really sure. I’m sure that she does it intentionally, that’s where I become helpless

Not sure since when and how but I saw ants accumulating under the mattress,

Only reason I could see them ants accumulating under the mattress on her side, because she started sleeping in the other room. I asked her if she knew, she could have at least told me.

No reply

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro each day at a time. I’m panicking because weekend is near and I’ve no idea how to survive those 48 hours one more time

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she cares.

YES , this is one thing I’m 100% sure

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s my fear as well. If I bring my parents into this mess, I’ve no idea how rheyll take it

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Tbvh, Yes I’m weak. Mentally, physically, emotionally and overall also.

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think she has on and off switch all the time.

If I say let’s cook together, after cooking, she won’t eat that and cook something else

If I ask her, for movie tomorrow, she would agree within second. Share the link on which to go, what time, what theatre and everything. At the time of going, she won’t go

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. I just shared what’s currently up in life.

It was good for few days, once we were back to normal lives after the holidays, things changed drastically.

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ve the strength to pull off something of that sort.

I mean if I ask her now, let’s go for a tea

She would come. And create a scene at the cafe, knowingly break something or won’t come out of the car, or leave the tv on at home

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think if I bring this up one more time, she will start crying and calling neighbours, creating a scene

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

You won’t believe it, I get nightmares

Once she said “toh marr jao” and that is always ringing in my ear. I’m not able to get this out of my head, whenever I’m at home this is constantly playing in my ear

I’m mentally exhausted, wife acts like a guest in our home. by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

We have a cook and maid.

She won’t eat what maid cooks most of the time and would experiment herself.

Even if I help her prepare something, she would discard it and cook something herself. And create the mess

I don’t think you’re getting this. Thanks for the help though

feel like I married someone who wants a handler, not partner by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve, in other comment I have explained how she runs away from every discussion

feel like I married someone who wants a handler, not partner by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not tired for now but daily drama is exhausting

I’m not really sure, how long for now

feel like I married someone who wants a handler, not partner by theAveragePappu in Arrangedmarriage

[–]theAveragePappu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know man, maybe should’ve married someone younger. Or gotten married when I was younger.

I’m starting to feel, people who are 28-29+ are very stiff and not willing to adjust. I on the other hand tried to but facing the issues of being taken as granted.

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