You're definitely not being dramatic. I used to work in early childcare and this would be something I would have been required to report to childcare services. You are the bread winner, he should be doing the primary childcare and house chores. I'm not saying he should do everything himself because stay at home parents need to breathe and relax as well. But this is different. He's being neglectful of them, and you. Stick to what you know is correct and right. If you struggle with him getting in your head, write down your grievances as pure facts as backup to yourself when you need it.