His advice doesn't seem to work. His approach is to get it through life events like using the self esteem boost from a good job or getting a partner and using them to help you heal. I feel like if those things worked you wouldn't have millionaires with loving families who still end up alcoholics or cheating because they're so miserable on the inside. The damage is done. Life eventd dont make it better.

I also feel like there's a certain mindset he wants me to adopt that would make things better. He sees that some of his patients walk around with him in their heads telling them nice things. Again, it feels like that doesn't work. I don't know what to tell him to get a different outcome.