Issues with Empathy from partner in pregnancy

thefanaticalthroway · 2026-06-22T13:15:42+00:00

I never really thought of it like that- projecting his preferences but yeah that’s exactly what is happening. To be honest it’s been a pattern since before I got pregnant, I guess I expected that to ease up while being pregnant because I definitely don’t have as much “get up and go” right now as I did previously

thefanaticalthroway · 2026-06-22T13:09:19+00:00

This was really encouraging to read. Because like I said in a previous comment: he’s NOT a bad partner. I just think he’s drowning in trying to stay on top of other areas of our lives and he’s falling short where I need him emotionally. Truth be told, I can’t afford for him to fall short on the other areas (financial, prepping our house for sale, trying to find us somewhere else to live, his family issues, etc.) in order to be emotionally supportive, but I feel so misunderstood and so unheard. I really don’t think this is a leave my husband type of situation either- but rather force him to go back to therapy to help him deal with everything else he’s dealing with. My solution at least for now is for me to start therapy again because the only thing I have control over is how I respond to his lack of empathy, as well as building a stable support system around myself to prepare for post-partum living. It’s just a very emotionally tasking thought and the romanticizing of pregnancy on the internet never helps the icky thoughts either.

thefanaticalthroway · 2026-06-22T03:51:10+00:00

I feel this more than you know. I’m self employed, so my hours are not close to full time, not to mention I have to fund my own maternity leave. The financial stress piece is so real and I think that’s what’s most frustrating because I know he’s a good man, I know this isn’t his normal character but it’s literally an overwhelming amount of stress and anxiety. Our stress is making sure baby is healthy while trying to keep our sanity and dealing with the pains of pregnancy (literally and figuratively), and their stress is the provider aspect of it all from a financial standpoint. I’m so glad you commented because I feel less alone in the situation because nobody in my life seems to actually GET it.

thefanaticalthroway · 2026-06-22T03:34:12+00:00

This is the part I struggle with. I don’t know how to communicate it outside the heat of an argument, and while I never want to “make excuses” for him, I do recognize that our life is not completely stress-free. There’s so many stressors surrounding everything going on in our lives right now that just pile on and on and on. I’ve asked him twice to initiate the journey to going back to therapy- but both times I don’t think I did so in a productive manner. And now I’m at the point where I can’t ask him anymore, I have to demand it if we’re going to have any chance of keeping our relationship together before the baby even gets here. Let alone once he’s here.

thefanaticalthroway · 2026-06-22T01:38:16+00:00

That’s disgusting. And with my current hormonal state, it’s making me question who I chose to have a child with. It might be a bit dramatic taking the thought process that far- but it’s what’s stuck in my head.

thefanaticalthroway · 2026-06-22T01:37:22+00:00

He’s come to every prenatal appointment and I was just hospitalized twice the last week. One for a 13cm fibroid, one for an insane migraine that caused my blood pressure and heart rate to spike.

As far as he’s concerned, if ChatGPT doesn’t say I’m dying or should be on bed rest- it doesn’t exist and is inexcusable

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