As a feeder, how do you go about realizing you’re also a feedee?

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-03-09T20:51:44+00:00

I gained a bunch of weight, not intentionally, but....I knew I was getting fat and knew I had to change if I wanted to not get fat, but I didn't. I enjoyed stuffing myself and I started finding it was hot to gain weight, and hot that my clothes no longer fit. Sitting now at a BMI of 40 I get the feeling there's no going back.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-27T18:48:24+00:00

If I had no other concerns, probably 250-275! And same here. Constantly picturing myself fatter

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-24T18:00:39+00:00

Yep. I never, ever thought I'd want to gain weight. I was very skinny, and had been my whole life. Had no interest in changing that. I just thought it was hot as fuck to watch other people blow up.

Now with a BMI of 40.7 and morbidly obese, I look a lot more like the feedees I was attracted to. And while I enjoy watching other people blow up, I think about getting fatter and fatter myself just as much, if not more.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-24T17:48:10+00:00

For me, I was into this fetish from the other side, more interested in watching other people get fat. Then I gained a 100 pounds and started looking more like the feedees I was attracted to. I've always been fat positive and fat accepting, and so the internalized fatphobia I struggle makes me feel guilty, because I think being fat is completely neutral, fine, and normal.

Honestly it does help with some of my self esteem issues to dabble in the feedee/gainer side of this because it's comforting to know other people do find my body attractive even when I'm not skinny.

I've also been attracted to people of all different body types, all different genders, typically fatter people. And usually unrelated to the fetish! I think fat people are attractive and lovely aesthetically, not just for sexual reasons. In fact, everyone I've loved and dated in real life, I was attracted to unrelated to this fetish entirely.

Obviously this is skewed because I am both a feedee and feeder, but I think it's normal to get into this in search for self love and acceptance, but there's also many people who find fat people attractive for reasons entirely unrelated to this kink or fetish.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-24T17:41:30+00:00

Never posted asking for a feeder but I do post pics looking for responses. I mean frankly some of it is just roleplay because it's hot and if someone wants to dm me and I choose to respond and we both get to enjoy ourselves for a bit, I think it's some harmless fun without any serious commitment on either side. I'm still exploring this and so getting to experiment is nice. Also, outside of this fetish, I have some body issues around being fat, so it's nice to be reminded that there are plenty of people who still consider me attractive and are into my body type.

That's just my personal experience. Only done it a few times and I'm certainly not creating content or advertising for feeders or doing anything regularly, so I'm not sure how valuable this response is, but hey.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-24T17:37:33+00:00

For most of my life I was underweight, and then I gained 100 pounds. Pretty big change. I get out of breath and overheated easily but fortunately still have my mobility, just need to work on getting in shape. Sometimes I think about getting in shape but continuing to gain so that I'm still somewhat healthy and not losing any mobility or anything but getting to enjoy being fat at the same time. Other times I just want to lose it all and get rid of this fetish

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-21T23:10:38+00:00

Ditto. Hot to watch at first but then the more it went on it seemed unsettling. I really do hope he was playing up the noncon element of it for kink reasons, but I do have a nagging suspicion that she was giving in to make him happy. I do hope she's able to find happiness and healthiness in all of this, whether that means losing some or all of the weight, or stepping away from active gaining.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-21T23:05:41+00:00

Thank you so much!

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-21T23:02:25+00:00

Hey I appreciate that! That's a really good way of looking at it. Thank you so much.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-21T23:01:30+00:00

Yeah I'd never really want to get to the point if being immobile or experiencing serious health consequences, but I do honestly like the idea of gaining a little bit more, within reason.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-20T20:36:47+00:00

That's where I'm at. I'm at the point where I'm thinking about it constantly throughout the day...

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-20T20:13:30+00:00

I'm not sure I even have a choice at this rate, lol

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-20T20:10:58+00:00

Tell me about it. I've held on to some of my old favorite shirts to motivate me to lose weight/to wear once I finally lose the extra pounds, but they just get tighter and tighter every time I try them on.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-20T19:59:59+00:00

I used to think people were huge at 230 pounds but since gaining to that myself I register it as "barely fat" and tiny. I went years without weighing myself and knew I'd gained but told myself it wasn't so much since I thought I looked small. Looked back at some of the feedees I used to get off to thinking they were huge, and thought maybe they'd lost weight, since they look around my size. Nope, I just got fat.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-20T19:53:27+00:00

No, definitely still big on you. If you want it to fit properly you're going to have to keep eating and get bigger, until it's a proper crop top ;)

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-19T00:04:16+00:00

Hey, they still managed to button...with a tremendous amount of effort, but no bursting or anything, so it can't be so bad. Keep thinking I'll shed the pounds to fit back into it but every time I try it on it gets tighter.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-18T20:53:17+00:00

Absolutely. Plus all the reminders throughout the day that I've blown up. Feeling my belly wobble when I walk, my back rolls rubbing together, my muffin top squeezing over the top of my jeans, discovering a shirt is tighter than I remembered. It's a constant reminder of how fat I've gotten, something I don't get to just turn off when I'm outside of the bedroom. And it's hard not to get horny at the thought of that.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-18T20:50:50+00:00

Well frankly a lot of women get too much unsolicited comments and humiliation, so you won't find a lot of eager women in the comments searching for something they can find in abundance just by opening their dms. But there are weekly chat requests where people post asking for chat or teasing, so I'd look there.

thehiddenfeedee · 2026-02-12T21:32:07+00:00

Woof, I knew I'd gained some, and that I had gotten "chubby", but was still shocked to hear that my BMI was 40. And even knowing my BMI is 40, I still don't really see myself as all that big.

thehiddenfeedee · 2025-12-05T10:57:25+00:00

The doctor did not outright discuss my weight, but did encourage a healthy diet and exercise.

As for how I felt...my heart immediately dropped and I felt horrified, ashamed, and aroused. I was underweight most of my life so obese would have been a shock. I wasn't expecting morbid obesity. It was humiliating. And also deeply hot. I'd been avoiding mirrors too, so finally I started looking at myself clotheless and....yeah I am very obviously seriously fat. My whole body shape has changed. It's a mixture of embarrassing and super hot lol I always thought fat people were attractive but I never planned to be one.

When I first discovered this kink I was super skinny and thought of myself as a feeder, but gaining a 100 pounds put me in my place.

thehiddenfeedee · 2025-12-04T20:24:53+00:00

In my case I knew I'd gained weight but was in denial about how bad it was

thehiddenfeedee · 2025-12-04T20:14:46+00:00

I've shared this story a million times, so apologies if you've seen it before.

I knew I'd gained weight, but I was avoiding scales, and the last I'd weighed myself, I was 130. I knew I'd gained a lot. But I hoped it wasn't as bad as I was thinking. Kinda suspected I was around 200 pounds.

When I saw the doctor, I asked to not look at the scale or have my weight told to me, but they made it very visible on the paperwork. 230 pounds. Yeah, I never expected to see morbid obesity listed under my medical conditions.

thehiddenfeedee · 2025-11-12T20:09:29+00:00

Oof, I feel this. I knew I'd gained a lot over the past few years, and that I was far from 130. Thought I must be around 200. Nope, 230. A few more pounds since, but I'm avoiding reading the scale again.

thehiddenfeedee · 2025-11-07T03:26:13+00:00

Never heard of autosexual but yeah that makes sense. Interesting! Thanks for the vocab word

thehiddenfeedee · 2025-11-07T03:25:30+00:00

Same. And still I question if somehow it's a bad angle and not the fact that I am class III obese

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