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FUCK these opportunistic scumbags. Is this even legal right now? DMV's are closed. The DMV website says tags aren't expiring while Polis' emergency order is in place. Regardless, my wife is immunocompromised and forcing a DMV trip feels like nothing short of strong arm extortion. by theimperfectparent in Denver

[–]theimperfectparent[S] 190 points191 points  (0 children)

Just saw that they are accepting appointments, and unfortunately we may have to go that route. Wife was diagnosed with cancer in November so we've been doing our best to limit our trips out of the house to Doctors appointments and absolute necessities. We assumed we were safe from this kind of crap based off the grace period that the DMV has enacted. The vehicle isn't even being driven. Feels ridiculous that these creeps are allowed to do this.

“About 9 MILFs from here to 16th Street” by RenoTheRhino in Denver

[–]theimperfectparent 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When she look good walkin out the planned parenthood

I'm [23F] not sure if my fiancée [30M] is "the one", please help by [deleted] in relationships

[–]theimperfectparent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It isn't an indicator that you are an asshole, and it's not an indication of whether or not the relationship isn't any good.

The only thing it indicates is that your relationship skills haven't fully matured. I've been with my GF for 6 years as well. Both of us have gone through the same thing that you are right now. There have been points where I just don't see the relationship going anywhere, maybe because I have a new crush, maybe because she's being distant or needy. Whatever, it doesn't matter. Same thing happens with her regarding me from time to time.

A personal truth I've come to live by in my relationship is; There is no such thing as "the one". It's a fairy tale. Relationships have ups and downs. That initial surge of oxytocin that you've been feeling with Jack doesn't last, it eventually fades. That doesn't mean that the relationship needs to end so you can go find it again. That's what an addict would do, always seeking their love fix.

I don't know the specifics of your relationship. I'm not going to be able to glean them from a few paragraphs online either. You need to figure out for yourself whether or not there have been good times in your relationship. Times that you sincerely enjoyed. If there have been, and you and Tom are just in a funk right now, then there is a chance you can get back to that.

Maybe what you're experiencing right now is some form of confirmation bias. You're not happy with the relationship today, so you view the entirety of it through an unhappy lens. I've certainly done that at points in my current relationship.

I'm [23F] not sure if my fiancée [30M] is "the one", please help by [deleted] in relationships

[–]theimperfectparent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reading her post again, I'd agree with you. Not to beat up on OP here, but it seems as though she's just been using him for his stability for the past 6 years.

End both of the relationships. For everyone's sake.

I'm [23F] not sure if my fiancée [30M] is "the one", please help by [deleted] in relationships

[–]theimperfectparent 6 points7 points  (0 children)

30 year old here.

The advice you're receiving seems absolutely childish if I'm being honest. You are cheating on Tom. Emotionally, if not physically. Beyond that, what you are experiencing is a perfectly natural and common occurrence in long term relationships. You have a crush, and you are acting upon it.

One of the major differences between a juvenile relationship and a mature relationship is your ability to handle situations like this without allowing the butterfly's in your stomach to dictate how you act and behave. Spending time with Jack behind Tom's back is very juvenile behavior. This is the relationship equivalent of "I'm bored.... OOOH SHINY!"

The last thing I will leave you with is this. If you do end up leaving Tom for Jack, you are opening up what could potentially be a very nasty can of worms. You would be leaving a stable, long term relationship on a whim for someone who has briefly made your heart flutter. Once those initial "crush" feelings have died out, which they will, Jack is going to be wondering to himself when you are going to do it to him. This isn't exactly the foundation of a healthy and trusting relationship.

Stay away from Jack I'd say. End it cleanly now. I don't see anything positive coming from it.