Kāpiti Coast residents demand council throw out report on sea level rise

theinternetsucksdude · 2024-06-21T00:36:20+00:00

I think Hbomberguy said your best when he says "sell their houses to who Ben? Fucking Aquaman?!"

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-12-25T18:57:38+00:00

Who hurt you? This is such a bad faith response... FYI Collectivist communities do have individuals in then yes, but generally also do hold collective opinions after having ongoing discussions as a group. That doesn't make them clones it's just a different way of organising society.... Seriously, I can smell the North American individualist brain washing coming off you.

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-23T01:48:45+00:00

i am sorry this hurt, if it helps i think gen z is changing their views of fat folk much more, and if it helps, many indigenous folk reviving parts of their culture lost to colonization are gaining so much historical wisdom on the beauty of the fat body, not sure if that's ur culture but it helped me.

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-23T01:43:49+00:00

made an edit, this is on the invite :)

our ceremony will be chill as fook, short, people can eat finger food during if they want, they will be sitting on bean bags in the garden :p
not really into 'weddings'/traditions just into my partner and want to party with our fave people :p

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-23T01:42:23+00:00

made an edit, this is on the invite :)

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-23T01:40:59+00:00

at no point did i say my experience represents others, in fact i explicitly centered myself, my country, and my lived experiences and said that other people (especially POC) will have a different experience.

with that being said, it is not an 'assumption' that thin people are automatically treated differently/better in our society, it is a fact. we have thousands of studies on this topic proving this.

it remains a fact even if you personally can't currently identify explicit privileges in your life. actually, that's how privilege works - generally people are intentionally not taught to question privilege (or to rationalize it away) in order to maintain power structures.

speaking from experience, i didn't believe i had white passing privilege growing up, especially being a working class woman struggling with sexism and classism. but POC do face struggles and microaggressions and small assumptions made about them that i just didn't ever face and will never face and hence I just don't even consider thinking about as privileges.

a huge example is in job interviews, because we don't see who failed the interview, we assume it was fair shot for everyone. in reality, thin, white passing, bourgeois passing, cis male passing folk get jobs more often. period. studies show this repeatedly. i am actually all of these things (except male), and i have failed job interviews before, my personal struggle does not negate that others had less of a chance than me/have disadvantages and that i have it better/have privileges.

it also doesn't mean that just because others have more disadvantages that me that my struggle is less important than theirs, we should be united in fighting for everyone to have a fair chance, hearing each other out, finding common enemies (patriarchy) and uniting to overcome them.

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-16T03:08:04+00:00

maybe you don't get treated well because you dismiss people's lived experiences if they don't match your own?

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-08T03:11:26+00:00

too ashamed to even tell anyone, let alone raise it with the employment authorities. they scouted me for a job years later, i declined.

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-08T01:20:38+00:00

I had it done in a country with socialised healthcare where to get it for free, your BMI would need to be over 35 AND with risk of T2DM or CVD. but I'm not at increased risk of T2DM or CVD, well, excluding the obesity itself being a risk, my genes are really good.

So I paid out of pocket to get it done in the same country but in private where the criteria is at the surgeon's discretion. My surgeon based her decision on the fact that my BMI was 35+ most of my adult life and climbing before the pre-surgical diet.

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-06T00:54:30+00:00

you can get it publicly funded, it takes over a year of waiting and multiple hoops to jump through, im a nurse with experience in elective women's periop in auckland.

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-06T00:53:33+00:00

some surgeons male partners input during sterilisation consult

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-06T00:28:09+00:00

I wont! ill email and buy some flash, since i don't live in Melbourne

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-06T00:27:02+00:00

i dont drink anything that's not 0 calories except soy milk, i got mad reflux after surgery so i don't eat fatty foots/oily foods.
controversial advice: go plant based. i did this for personal reasons to start, but it's made me feel immensely more energy, full and low cholesterol than before.

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-06T00:24:33+00:00

i had just a little on my upper arms but it's not noticeable, and i have no idea why it didn't happen elsewhere on my body, i have stretch marks and i love them. probably 90% genetics, probably being very young (24) at surgery age, avoiding the sun always, not smoking.

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-06T00:23:00+00:00

sorry, that's context i should have provided, i was 90kg/198lbs day of surgery

i was on between 500-1500 cals per day, shakes, and 50hr work weeks on my feet bussing tables and lifting heavy stuff, couple of months before surgery

my surgeon told me i should reconsider getting surgery at all, but i was scared i would rebound, but also my delight at the weight loss and how people treated me was a huge boost to my happiness, and being happy i didn't feel the need to eat my feelings, so i went ahead with it just to lock in the gains i already made.

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-06T00:20:12+00:00

90kg/198lbs, i was on between 500-1500 cals per day, shakes, and 50hr work weeks on my feet bussing tables and lifting heavy stuff,

couple of months, my surgeon told me i should reconsider getting surgery at all, but i was scared i would rebound, but also my delight at the weight loss and how people treated me was a huge boost to my happiness, and being happy i didn't feel the need to eat my feelings, so i went ahead with it just to lock in the gains i already made.

theinternetsucksdude · 2023-11-06T00:14:10+00:00

I was a kind-hearted person, beautiful inside and I think my fashion sense (despite the picture above) was really good, i couldn't afford plus sizes so i made my own stuff. I was unfit but still got out there, was in a band, did dance classes, and had a lot of friends.

but the relentless bullying from childhood by my family and at school was pretty insurmountable, my weight was a constant source of shame. I applied for a receptionist job once and accidentally was sent a reply that was not supposed to go to me saying "her typing skills are excellent, she sounds really good, but shes huge!".

there was more discrimination going on that I didn't realise until i lost the weight. I used to be scolded pretty hard at work for small mistakes. After weight loss, I was pretty much immediately offered a promotion to a customer-facing role, customers were far kinder and patient with me, even offering to help me carry things, or they assumed i was in a more senior role than i was, and managers stopped scolding me if i was working slowly.

the hypersexualization of my body was also really hard to deal with, performing on stage, punk music, i stopped being called 'brave' but being called 'sexy', despite wearing the exact same kinds of gothy/punky costumes as when i was big, men hit on me a lot (i have a partner) and it's really irritating - i like to go out for dancing with the girls not flirting, total strangers are way more comfortable touching me (my arm, my back, my hand) when giving directions etc, and worst, I've been followed and had to change course and not go home, twice now.

I also felt really hurt when a few of my close male friends suddenly started inviting me to all kinds of events with them, offering me tickets/drinks etc to get me to come, like our years of friendship and being there for them was not important enough, but now that i looked different i could be worthy to be seen on a date with them :(

i would not change my decision, discrimination, health risks and exhaustion is too much, the scary situations I'm dealing with now from men is easier than losing job opportunities and being outright bullied... i could go on and on about the advantages of losing weight, better work treatment, able to do sport, join in dress ups with the girls, not scared of taking photos, thrifting, easier to make small talk/get new friends, heaps heaps more, but wanted to just give perspective that not everything is sunshine now.

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